I have multiple plates, but have become emotionally invested in one. I know this is a mistake.
Plate and I planned a trip this thanksgiving to nearby state (we paid for our own flights). It was a all good until a weekend in October when she went to Chicago and I Miami. I was at Miami with an old plate, and she was on a “girls trip”. Didn’t think much of it, none of my business.
After our respective trips, the intensity of our communication changed. We’d barely get together. 2 weeks pass and we’re just texting nothing more. I call her once just to chat and set up a date. Date falls through. Despite this she keeps on texting me, with no follow up or reschedule for the date from her part. I decide to remove my attention and soft next her. She noticed I was ignoring her and tried to reach out. I persisted and focused on other plates.
Now I have a dilemma. I know I made a mistake organizing a thanksgiving trip so far in advance. Since we’re cold on each other, it seems weird to go through with it, even though I’d love to . Also, Ive developed affection for this plate - prior to everything she was treating me rather well (gifts, sex, cooking).
How can I reduce my emotional investment in this plate? Should I cancel travel plans? …how can i get my frame back?
Thanks for reading
LudgerKresnik 2y ago
seems like she's worth upgrading for FWB not a "plate" status give it a shot but avoid having oneitis with this one just keep spinning.
Tooktheredpill 2y ago
If she hasn’t mentioned an LTR you should have never been thinking of her in that way. The whole dynamic of the relationship changed when you tried treating her like a LTR.
“Most guys are just one blowjob away from the plantation.” -CGA
You need to get your emotions under control and start thinking with your big head. At this point the RP is a facade to you. Keep reading, watching vids, and studying. After a while it’ll actually become a part of you and not some mask that you’re putting on when you leave the house.
Experience and failure are great teachers. After you’ve been with enough women, that alone will change your attitude and level of caring.
Best of luck.