The one.
The one and so far only one who has loved me despite not having anything going for me.
The one who didnt tell me about her boyfriend until the 6th month of our relationship who she would then go on to marry.
The one who set off all the hurt, pain and mental anguish when she cut me off exactly 4 years ago today.
The one who sent me down the red pill path of only obsessively chasing money & gains in the gym while being completely stoic, distant & detached with women.
To tell me that she was now a mother to her new son who is not well and that she feels like it was karma for her past and wanted to apologise.
I send her a message saying 'I am sorry for what you are going through but I have forgiven you long ago and wish nothing but good health for you and your son'
Problem is bros I have been so good with separating my emotions when it comes to women these last 4 years and thats really served me well as you guys already know but I have been a wreck the whole day and I guess I needed somewhere to write this all out.
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Sounds like you had a learning lesson and should be thankful you got sent down this road...away from her.
anon55 2y ago
A lot of stuff missing on the background but what i can say is, her prime years are gone. Probably not happy where she is her life right now and and is just seeking comfort maybe chad left, maybe chad is now beta. Whatever the case is, that was a good response.
Phoenixfromtheashes 2y ago
Yeah just her son being in the hospital and today being the 4th year had her thinking it was 'karmic justice'
Though in all the relationships Ive ever had since and there has been quite a few I cant say I was ever as happy in any of them which may explain why Im as down as I am at the moment.
BWMagus 2y ago
At the risk of being rude, let me point out your mistake; she didn't love you. I'm not sure which way it went, but if she had a side boyfriend while dating you, she was a cheating whore. If YOU were the unknowing side boyfriend, whom she unceremoniously dumped to marry her "real" boyfriend, then you were a distraction, a amusement, a pet. I've been truly in love only once, and I was lucky that it ended peacefully, no cheating or lying, we still talk; but I can say that when you're actually in love, you can still appreciate that other people are attractive, but all you can really think about is your partner. Especially if you're only together for less than a year.
The good times you had were probably very legitimate; she was able to ignore the fact that she was stabbing both of you in the back repeatedly with her actions and enjoy herself, and you had no way of knowing. But she was still being a horrible person. Everyone deserves the right to redeem themselves in a general sense but it's not YOUR responsibility to soothe HER conscience. She used you before, don't let her use you any more.
Phoenixfromtheashes 2y ago
100% fact its still nice to have gotten that closure.