This is a phone conversation.
She: I want you
She: I want a relationship and you need to do XYZ
Me: Let's be clear. So you want a relationship, and you want me to do XYZ? Let me tell you a story. You walk in a deanship wanting to buy a 30K dollars car with 20K dollars. The salesman is hesitating. Then you added: "I will buy it as long as you've done XYZ". Do you think this makes any sense?
She: You've told a good story. However, this story does not apply to me as I don't want to buy that 30K car.
I was silenced. How could she changed so quickly from here to there? What can I do?
sillen102 3y ago
You cannot negotiate desire. Once you go down the rabbit hole of doing XYZ for her in exchange for intimacy, you're fucked, and not in the good sense. If you do XYZ just to get with her, you will be in her frame and she will lose attraction for you.
Just tell her: "I don't negotiate desire. Call me back when you're ready to do ABC (= what you want from her)." Then go bang other chicks.
DO NOT WAIT AROUND FOR HER! If she calls, she calls, then you stand your ground. You want ABC. If she never calls again, you've already moved on and banged other chicks. You win either way.
That's the simple answer. Now, since we don't know what XYZ is, it's hard to tell. It could be very reasonable things. But as a rule you don't want to be her "good little boy who does what ever mommy tells him". Women hate those guys and when they identify a guy as one they kick him in his little baby-nuts!
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