Speaking of raising masculine sons, the other week on a local bulletin board, I read a post by some mom who was upset to discover that her son is Chad:

17 years old son told me that he has been sexually active for the past three months with 8 different girls. I am shocked and disappointed by this. I was hoping that he would wait until at least college. He knows that his dad and I didn't have sex until we got married. Other than telling him to use protection, should I send him to therapy?

I read all of his text messages, available online because the phone is under my account and that's how I found out, with at least 8 girls. He goes to their house to have sex. The girls, according to the text messages, are ok with him having sex with other girls. I feel that I failed to teach him right and wrong as parent.

Naturally a bunch of other moms chimed in to say that she should tell her son to be careful not to hurt the girls feelings.

The best you can do is visit, and be present. Demonstrate, do not explicate. Stop trying to control other people.

The best gift an an adult can give a kid is time.

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That said, I've read several of these books aloud to my boys. I don't have any to add that aren't on your list.

"Way of the warrior kid" by Jocko Willink.

Works for girls, too.

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I've decided that I needwant to insert myself as a male role model within outside of acceptable family limits.

Have some kids of your own before you alienate yourself from your family, moron.

You should read the Bible. Try the passage about pearls before swine.

Not your circus, not your monkey. Live life and give them positive role model. If they want the opportunity they will seek it from you.

Age 15-18, all of Robert Greens books, especially Mastery

Ages 14-18 may as well be the full adult list. Hard to go wrong with anything on the PersonalMBA list. Notably includes "win friends and influence people" as well as "Guide to the good life" and "millionaire next door" - it isn't really an MBA list, but a "be an exceptional person" list.

I don't think you should focus on books so much, not for the job of teaching boys about masculinity. Focus on gifts that will allow them to be masculine, not read about it.

At some point soon--if it hasn't already happened--some of those boys' basic character traits will more or less be locked into place. Things like work ethic, tenacity and physicality.

So I'm thinking sports, boys/men's clubs, building shit... Things that will that have to get up, leave the house and go do. This is a time for character-building masculinity-producing activities. Not reading. Not for this.

Maybe mind your own business? Whatever you send won’t get into their hands unless the parents approved. When you have kids, you’ll understand.

Age 14-18: Send them a link to /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/

That's it. Done!

The most important thing you can do to raise masculine sons, is to not enroll them in public school. No amount of books can save them if they spend eight hours per day in an environment that teaches anti-masculinity.

All of John Flanagan's books. Start with Ranger's Apprentice series, and then move on to Brotherband. Suitable for ages 9+.

I've read 95% of the books you have listed, many of them aloud to my children. If you like those ones, you will like Flanagan's series.

Don't send them anything that isn't "mainstream" or the parents will work against your influence. Send classics like Treasure Island, not Become the Man Women Want (even if it is a good book). Many softies won't like Ender's Game, even though it's one of my favourites and my sons have read it.