Essay:
https://therationalmale.com/2019/04/01/sexual-selection-existential-fear/
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Excerpt:
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In 2019 men’s control over their sexual selectivity is something women don’t want to hear about. Part of ensuring that Hypergamy is the defining social dynamic today includes exercising as much control over men’s sexual selection process as possible. As fluid as men’s selection naturally is, it’s still out of women’s total control. The method to that control is social pressure. Women’s need to insure against their own Existential Fear of pairing with an unacceptable guy is so obsessive they will resort to social engineering.
Tinder and Bumble are social engineering programs as much as they are facilitators of women’s Hypergamy. Body Positivity / Fat Acceptance (exclusively for women) is equally a social conditioning effort. But for these and more the latent purpose is the same – convincing men to repress their evolved sexual selection proclivities in favor of accepting women’s selection process as the ‘correct’ one. The Cardinal Rule of Sexual Strategiesstates that for on sex’s strategy to succeed the other’s must be compromised or abandoned. In today’s feminine-primary social order, the Feminine Imperative wants nothing less than complete abandonment from men – and it will use every social and political means available to insure men do.
Men must be raised up and conditioned from the earliest age to accept women’s strategy and their role in it as the only acceptable one. Men’s selection of a mate must be made forhim according to women’s standards. Many times I’m asked how to go about “vetting for a wife”. I’m asked what the criteria, what aspects, what traits should a woman possess to make her “marriage material”. From a Red Pill perspective a lot of what I lay out seems highly offensive to the sensibilities of men and women conditioned by the Feminine Imperative. But the qualities, and the reasons I define them being desirable, are nothing any man who is invested in his own sexual strategy wouldn’t find mundane.
It’s not difficult to figure out what attributes in women would make for a good pairing – what’s offensive is that a man would ever have the temerity to require a woman to possess them at all.

kevin32 6y ago
u/Rollo-Tomassi, I recall a tweet you responded to about a woman complaining about picking jerks over good guys.
It's been my understanding that hypergamy is when a woman dates up for money and status. How is a woman picking jerks called hypergamy when these men often have neither money or status in comparison to the men she rejects?
Another example for reference.
Persaeus 6y ago
related
framelessglasses 6y ago
As we age the dynamics of femicontrol change little other than the context. Here's a conversation I overheard:
Age 60s widow telling about her woman friend going through a breakup. Her Friend complained that she never dreamed she would be going through this at age 68. The conversation centered on the assumptions that her STBX was a dirt bag and that she was assumed blameless and she was entitled to continue to be married to him.
Later in life the existential fear transforms to the fear of being alone and the relative quality of their mate is of much lesser importance.
Edit: This explains why you see so many oldsters, that she can't get pregnant anymore, and he looks like he is.
She accepts keeping a "less than" man rather than be alone. And the fat old fart, will put up with just about anything.
surfsusa 6y ago
She forgot one thing. If he has money he doesn't need her especially if she treats him like crap. Yesterday I was in Hobby Lobby when I saw this Tall Blond Trophy Wife with this Old Fart. She was early 30's with a lot of miles left, dressed in Jeans and a Tight top, not flashy or trashy but classy. She had a slight accent, eastern European maybe Eastonian or Ukraine. Now mind you she wasn't a HB10 more like a 8 or a 7.5 but she was way out of his league. I was guessing a Mail Order Bride. He was mid 60s white haired and pot bellied wearing a golf shirt and khaki shorts with white socks all most up to his knees showing skinny bony bowlegged legs. Stereotypical Old fart. He wore white canvas shoes, not even expensive shoes. She was leading him around the store as she was looking for things for her little project. Showing him things and asking him for his opinion. It was raining so maybe his golf game got cancelled. The point is this. If your old and have money and you don't mind spending it why would a man want to be treated like crap by an old hag and her bitchy girlfriends. Women take their men for granted and then are surprised when they are kicked to the curb.
framelessglasses 6y ago
Seen this with my retired friends. Overseas brides in all versions. He is just a steeping stone for her. But he might die happy although deluded.
Persaeus 6y ago
goals
framelessglasses 6y ago
You mean it's one of your goals?
Persaeus 6y ago
dying happy, or even just content, rather than suffering. yes this is one my goals.
experience indicates to do this with any degree of certainty though requires one take his own life.
again, short of the large caveat above - most elderly people i know are severely deluded, often to very ill effect on themselves and everyone around them.
so . . . . going out with beautiful overseas bride who nurses you into the grave so she can then step over your body with all your leftover cash and prizes does not sound awful.
framelessglasses 6y ago
There are many older men that are agreeing with you.
Just don't forget a well written DNR to alleviate the suffering of the last days.
Persaeus 6y ago
check, got it.
the real problem i see is these take forever to die degenerative diseases . . . alzeimers, parkinsons, etc.
my mom thinks i don't know what i'm talking about; but to me lead taste a lot better.
framelessglasses 6y ago
If you are still able to hold a gun, if you still know what a gun is. By the time, most people, are ready to take a bullet, they can no longer do it themselves.
Persaeus 6y ago
Can’t be greedy on the ready
red-sfpplus 6y ago
WTF Rollo. They are just as much about me getting my dick wet than she getting fucked by why she believes to be a Chad.
Have you ever even used one of these apps? I mean seriously. If you think there is an endless supply of Chad's on either of these platforms, you clearly know nothing about them.
You wanna talk about sex platforms. There are TWO real kings. Insta and SnapChat. I put a snap up the other day, nothing major just a facial shot of my beard growing out, right after the barber got done lining it, trimming it and waxing it.
5 different women sent me DM's asking what I have been up to, if I wanna grab a coffee, etc.
THAT is the power men need to want to get to. All I do is post a pic, and they come. No swiping, nothing.
Guess that chief, they didn't want to hear about it in 2018, 2017, 2000, 1990, 1900 or 1BC either.
Don't. Vet for a good mother figure. You do not need to wed her to have babies with her.
Westernhagen 6y ago
How's the Jism Volume Augmentation Project coming?
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Persaeus 6y ago
you're a smart guy, so i assume you understand you and Rollo are in violent agreement.
i don't have SnapChat; but yes some pics on FB/Insta generate DM within hours.
Luck-67 6y ago
Agreed. Even before I was RP’d , and at my older age, Tinder and Bumble in particular were an absolute ass fest that went on for a number of years. So, I fail to understand Rollo’s thought on that theory.
Reach180 6y ago
Women you already know? Or randos looking thru snaps via location?
red-sfpplus 6y ago
Few I already know and have fucked in the past or who want to fuck and I don’t for XYZ reason.
The rest of the time they are gym bunnies who either go to my gym and I never see them or follow my gyms hashtags.
Reach180 6y ago
Got it. May have to expand into this realm.
framelessglasses 6y ago
Just for grins. Is there anything that Rollo has posted that you agree with?
red-sfpplus 6y ago
Not since TRM2.
He sold his RP soul to BP and PP click revenue.
TRM1&2 changed my life. All is new stuff is just annoying.
Besides. Rollo is married, and is DYEL.
Past a certain point you need hands on experience to educated the unwashed masses.
framelessglasses 6y ago
Good to know. Your comments remind me of GLO.
red-sfpplus 6y ago
I dont know what GLO is.
framelessglasses 6y ago
u/GayLubeOil EC on The Red Pill sub
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red-sfpplus 6y ago
Yeah, now that he posted it. I dont spend any time over there in Incel land.
There are enough fuck tards here and over at askMRP to deal with.
RStonePT 6y ago
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red-sfpplus 6y ago
Just as long as he doesnt call me small...
Bobsfreestuff 6y ago
Nothing make me smile more then someone else pointing out Rollo's bullshit. Another peice of Rollo writing that is anticdotal hearsay.
RicoDunne 6y ago
When does optimizing hypergamy for females as a group clash with Intrasexual competition between individual women for a desirable man? The fat acceptance thing is great for females as a group, but even fat women know that a lean shapely woman can out compete them. Why would a lean shapely woman want to empower a fat chick to be seen by a man as a viable competitor?
InChargeMan 6y ago
I don't really buy the assumption that attractive women are really that vested in much of the 3rd wave feminism efforts. In my experience, most attractive women are reasonably critical of "body positivity". Since they are not threatened, they are able to be more objective, and can generally see how ridiculous it is to praise people who are unhealthy and are actively harming themselves.
_-resonance-_ 6y ago
Because it weeds out the “lesser men” for her. She assumes that any man going for the less desirable female is less desirable, himself.
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My wife complains about how society puts so much pressure on women to look perfect (photoshopped images in magazines, makeup commercials, etc.) and says that women should not have to adhere to such high standards. That’s what she SAYS.
Then she spends hours watching makeup tutorials on YouTube, meticulously researches every skincare product she buys, uses anti-aging cream at age 26, and goes to yoga everyday. That’s what she DOES. It’s become a hobby of hers and I can tell she really enjoys it.
So my theory is women with higher SMV really just want the other women to get lazy in order to weed out the competition so they can have their pick of the best alpha men. They do this by pushing fat acceptance and body positivity while working hard to hold themselves to a higher standard.
Telling men what they can and can’t be attracted to is just a shit test to weed out the betas. The alphas will never fall for that shit.
Kpwn88 6y ago
captainbourbon50 6y ago
No one is more critical of a woman's appearance than other women.
witch_pimp 6y ago
Really well said. I like your theory.
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Because the ultimate fear for her is that one day she becomes that fat woman and loses her man to a younger, thinner woman. Optimizing hypergamy isn't just about attracting the highest value man but keeping him.
framelessglasses 6y ago
and the lengths they will go to is amazing.
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IMO anything for the team.
Hot chicks are the star players. The fat chicks are the bench warmers. Star players still need their team to win. They still know THEY'LL get the best picks and $$ in the draft and don't really care what the others end up with so long as it continues to further themselves.
More specifically to tinder I would have to imagine if you are a girl...and a solid 6 or 7 and some poor guys have been through fat-fishing hell for the past 10 dates... your ass is going to look like a 9-10 by comparison.
A rising fem-tide lifts all fem-boats... yachts and 1 man canoes alike.
captainbourbon50 6y ago
Rollo is dead on as usual. My adult (20 something) step daughter is on Tinder and Bumble. I love her but she is very very heavy and objectively a 2 or 3. One night I watched her on Tinder ...she swiped left...left...left over and over. Then finally right on a very muscular built dude. I asked her about it as she continued to swipe left. She eliminated guys based very superficial characteristics.. too short (5'9!), his beard looks funny, that is a weird shirt.. etc etc. I thought to myself this girl is demonstrating an attitude of abundance! She has dated twice in the past two years and is happier not dating than choosing a low SMV male. I pushed her on it a little. I hear from her all the time about how she is happy with her body .. blah, blah, blah. But she totally did not see anything wrong with objectifying men in the same way she did not want to be objectified.
Persaeus 6y ago
daughters and mothers, always a fountain of red pill truth, because they can be
IamBammBamm 6y ago
Don't forget sisters! I've got three and they give great insight to RP truths. Oldest is going through divorce, husband earns a lot of money and she is expecting to get 70:30 split in the break up because she "needs it". Middle never had a bf, very overweight with super high standards. She's depressed and posts daily updates on fb about her cats... Youngest (21) recently split with her bf who was a nice guy that she pushed around. They split because she was going overseas and wanted to see what else was out there...
captainbourbon50 6y ago
My sister cheated on two of her husbands. Married guy number three and I am waiting to find out that she cheated on him in 3...2....1
RuleZeroDAD 6y ago
I think some ladies just enjoyed the "Sadie Hawkins" dance too much and got carried away.
Those believing themselves to be the selectors, when they want nothing more than to be objectified by an Alpha, will most certainly produce uneven results.
Besides, the women I want to fuck don't have the strength to drag me back to the cave.