Women only understand social consequences. Fin.

I will add something else to the distinction between the types of marriages.

If we base it on the biblical model a covenant is between a figure with absolute authority and those who desire and require his protection. Covenants can be between God and the people, God and a person, or a king and his people.

Contracts on the other hand are constraints that peers accept for mutual benefit. They are usually entered for the explicit purpose of the benefit of each party. So any party who is no longer served by the contract no longer has a reason to remain in it.

A covenant also fits the understanding of marriage legally and socially throughout the majority of Western history. The Sacramento's actually performed by the 2 persons entering the covenant. The man extends his authority and responsibility over the woman, And the woman submits to the same.

If you followed the argument so far are you can of course see why modern christians would absolutely run from defining marriage as a covenant. Because to do so would it require admitting that 1 party is the authority extending the covenant to the other. And feminist value systems have so completely replaced any biblical or traditional ones that they are incapable of doing so psychologically and within their ethical systems.

I certainly agree that contractual marriage is bad for men. I myself didn't come out so well financially in my divorce. However, to present an opposing view to think about, if a man has a child with his girlfriend, he is still on the hook for child support if they break up. That is similar to divorce from an ex-wife. The main financial difference would then be any alimony and split of retirement accounts or properties that would come from a divorce.

If that is the case, marrying a woman that makes as much as you or more would be advantageous because you would benefit from a divorce financially, not her.

Given all this, it would make more sense that if a man wants to marry, that he looks for a woman that makes about the same or more than him to protect himself in case of divorce.

Very well articulated. Like many, I married one of those so called Christian women under the false haze of the Convenant idea....only to end up on the ass end of a real life contract.

I ended up coining the term “Porno Christian” from my marriage, which means: Christian until it (the sin) feels good, gets her buzzed, exploits someone...or makes her money....then God goes is the window until she is “saved” next time (again).

From experience. Don't do a covenant marriage.
She cheated anyway. Abandoned our church, our family, and everything she claimed to believe.
And within a couple of month, started a new life at a new church like nothing happened.
Only thing the covenant marriage did, was make it take longer to get the divorce finalized.

Tens and tens of thousands of child support I’ve paid over the last five years. My kids have straight teeth and long shin bones but their mother is a prize whore despite her world class nutrition habits. I don’t care because I go to sleep at night with empty coffers and wake up with full.

Pretty good article, I still land on the I have to obey God rather than men side, so slightly at odds with the ending tone, but this has also been my experience. Completely.

Came out of previous divorce. Woman I was dating linked me a sermon from a pastor that's honestly more masculine than most. I became a Christian, joined that church. AMOGing pastor yelled at me (not specifically) and I liked the message and it fit with scripture a lot. Marry those single moms, the usual nonsense. Of course no mention of the statistics for divorce rate by sexual partners, nope, Christian women are made new by Christ (and, in my experience, those who are really saved, they are different, though the biology is the same... Unfortunately it seems the one I picked isn't really too serious about it all). And of course right now there's an outstanding divorce filing. Meanwhile I'm over here actually really serious about my faith, owning my commitments, and not giving any biblical reason for divorce, but after she got put in church discipline and left my church for one that is, shall we say, more feminist... Well, her church lets her serve and supports her through her decision to file for divorce.

I mean I'm fully responsible for this situation, straight up. But what you're observing here does fit my experience almost completely.