Imagine this.

You're alone with this hot girl, her tight sweater suggesting a perfect rack underneath. You slide her sweater up to take a better look and find a pair of perky, bouncy tits. She looks at you seductively and says "let me show you more".

She pulls out a scalpel and cuts off the nipple, pointing out the many nerve endings. She peels off the skin and goes through the layers of fat and muscle, explaining the anatomy.

I'm a guy who likes to know how things work. Stars, enzymes, engines, I want to know how they do what they do, I love seeing their inner workings exposed and understanding them.

But a pair of hot boobs, they're only hot when they're put together. A dissected cross section doesn't do shit for me, on the contrary. In the context of the girl in front of me, seeing their bloody inner workings is revolting.

As a man, your frame is your biggest asset for attracting girls. The poise and calm, the easy dominance, it's like crack to them.

When a girl shit tests you, that's like you pulling off a girl's sweater. She's doing it to get a better look at your frame. Flex your frame, pass the shit test. She'll like that.

But some guys, they just can't help themselves. They think she challenges them because she wants to see the inner workings. So they pull out the scalpel and begin dissecting their frame: "this is my vision for our marriage, I'm doing this to become a better man, I said X and you said Y but then did Z and that's unfair, yadda yadda".

Stop fucking doing that. It's all over the side bar - STFU, don't DEER, hold frame, pass shit tests, don't listen to your wife. There's a reason for that. She wants a cocky guy that's above her little games, not some beta chump she can pull around by demanding that he justify his actions.

So don't do it. Don't take her shit test, her probing of your frame, as a request for you to explain your magnificient vision, great plans and deep understanding of relationship dynamics. Not only does she not give a shit, she's disgusted by it.

Keep that image in your mind. You DEERing is like her dissecting her boobs. It's revolting.