I believe firmly in the fact that while the brain physical structure, hormonal ratios, neural paths, and social influences are different between the sexes which naturally leads to different approaches to life, the sexes are can be more similar than what we are lead to believe after taking the pill, mostly because the belief in a radical difference empowers men to search for a way other than the default programming they've been lead to believe, and also makes it easier to characterize feminine behavior as "everything in this box" rather than a sliding scale from submissive fawn all the way to harpy femenist. The chaos is easier to handle if you can characterize it, and externalize it outside of yourself.

 

In addition, the capacity to give and take ideas that seem firmly in the camp of red pill, or blue pill, or MRA, or feminism, or whatever tribe and blend them into your world outlook is a healthy way to eliminate the group think that grows the toxic society we have today where you're either a Republican, a Democrat, a femenist, or the patriarchy, or a commie, or a republic. Aligning yourself to a thought just because a group you identify with supports it is just fucking lazy. And placing others into those groups based on rhetoric you've made to support your group is ego defense. And not just your ego, but the ego you've constructed for the group that you feel you need to defend. Which is funny because the more categories and buzzwords you group people into every time they have an aspect that's not like you, the further you isolate yourself and your group now just becomes you, and your group ego becomes your ego. I love Rollo for the ideas he's inspired in me to expand my thoughts, but I do laugh to myself out on runs where I listen to him every time he keeps compartmentalizing his ideas and painting himself into a corner.

 

Part of the point of self actualization is to adequately explore the range of ALL ideas, which includes the real world cause and effect behind holding those ideas, how you act based on those ideas, and how the world reacts...and then create and maintain a rock solid frame from that, but with enough reflection for outside ideas based on the fact that you know you've erred before, and could always err again. Maybe it's just me, maybe I'm too humble, but it seems like with the relative uncertainty that allowed us to fuck up our lives in years past, and the difficulty in finding enough exposure to all mental models in order to develop a world outlook yourself, that anyone standing on a soap box, characterizing a group, and denouncing them as "mislead" is broadcasting their ignorance to the idea that their current mental model is still just a best guess to make life make sense. Especially when everyone one has different wants and tolerances. I think it comes down not to "what is it that you believe and what group are you in" and more to "is what your actions based on those beliefs getting you what you want."

Anecdotal proof of my own marriage is all I need to convince me of the failure of BP blank slate. I accept female equality under the law, but reject that we have similarities in evolved firmware (hardware difference are obvious). I had the gender equalist conditioning like everyone else, but also came from a 1950's style family, so I had exposure to several ideas. I tried the equalist approach and my first marriage had the typical BP arc, betazation followed by hypergamous rejection. Second marriage did not get the RP until late into it, but just in time to reverse the betazation process. Applied MRP rather Rambo clumsily at first, but like any new skill it has to be perfected. Being in accordance with my evolved instinct for male leadership/dominance has freed me from chains of social expectations and conditioning. Everything turned around in my marriage too.

What’s humorous to me is how any of the Blank Slaters will SAY one thing that toes the line of their ideology, while at the same time they DO another thing that’s in line with their biology and “firmware”.

This is the “nice guy” who secretly watches BDSM porn. The feminist who likes being choked and spanked by a strong masculine man. The liberal teacher who fucks her young alpha students.

You always watch someone’s actions, not their words. They reveal the truth.