EDIT The comment section is exactly how a TRP post should be. People are sharing ideas and helping others with wisdom and financial advice. No thoughts are being shared on women. This is absolutely beautiful.
It's been a while since I have been on Reddit but after having a quick skim through the sub I've noticed that the focus is aimed too heavily on women. Women cause distractions and push you as a man off your goal. The worse damage you could ever do to yourself is to push yourself off your own purpose.
I'll use myself as an example. The year 2017 was my prime. It got to the point where I was making as heavy as $800 per day The reason for this was because in that year, I was so dead set on self improvement and "fixing" myself. I worked my ass off from night and day trying to figure out ways to make more money. I started new projects, started ebay dropshipping, started an ecommerce store and ran all of them smoothly by myself whilst juggling university. I was eighteen then.
At around January/February 2017 I had the idea to create a new project.
https://i.imgur.com/0SCP1Ow.png
That is a screencap from the Paypal account I dedicated to that project.
You can watch the steady rise and decline of it's income starting from January to December.
Now look at the paypal in 2018:
https://i.imgur.com/zDtWfoB.png
You can see that there has been a dramatic fall in income.
The cause of this is that during December 2017, I became too comfortable and decided to step out of the business world to focus on partying and spending time with girls. I slept with a number of girls, travelled, partied, partied some more and became overly lazy. I was making so much money from my projects that I lost patience for other side activities. I dropped the Ebay dropshipping simply because I couldn't be bothered continuing it. My online stores had a halt in sales, rather than spending time to sort it out I closed the store thinking it was useless. At that time my mind was simply focused on smashing women and enjoying the party life.
It was only when my income started to decrease permanently that I realised what was actually happening. What is interesting is that at that point, I had access to more ways to make money than I did when I was at my prime. This is a concept that is explored in the book "The 5th Law", when people get comfortable, that is when trouble tends to strike. I became so comfortable with what I already had that I felt no need to extend it any further.
The lesson that I have learned from this is that you should never sabotage the grind for what others are doing. I heard a statement which is said to be from Dr Dre which summarises this perfectly.
"While you're all partying in the club, I'm making the music you dance to." - Paraphrased.
We need to sometimes make sacrifices. I've gotten back into my habit again though it will take a gradual build up. Women, Reddit, Video games and all that nonsense can wait.
Lifting weights: The key to everything in the world is being dedicated to your craft. People seem to have this idea that being built guarantees or gives you confidence. I used to think that way too until I realised that it was actually the opposite. Strength in character is all you need. Guys go to the gym to build muscle so that they can look better and ultimately attract more girls. In turn, girls know this. The amount of low confidence muscly guys I know I've seen is ridiculous. Enhance your confidence then focus on gaining muscle and you'll be fine.
I'm currently writing a book for myself. I've taken the Marcus Aurelius route and decided to write a book solely for myself. Nobody else will see this but me. It is essentially filled with vital information and studies that I have picked up over the years.
I'll share two points from the book that I think may be of interest.
"Never let a person who is more successful than you to work harder than you."
This is one of my favourite thoughts. Picture this, Person A is a big fan of Person B. Person B makes $10,000 a month.
Person A only makes $1000 per month.
Person A wishes he could be like person B and studies his lifestyle but takes things slowly.
Person B however, even though he makes $10,000 a month, he still runs his multiple sources of income, grinds his ass off. Works stupidly hard to make sure his money keeps growing.
You should never let a person who is more successful than you work harder than you. That just doesn't make any sense to me. If you ever want your position to change, you need to work harder than the person who you admire.
You can even use me as an example. There is no way you can make more money than me without putting in more effort. I stopped putting in effort and my income went down. It's just that simple. When I started, I would work from 11am to 4/5am at night. I wouldn't leave the house, only took breaks to eat and piss. I remember working so hard that my eyes strained to see the computer screen. I then have friends who work as security guards sleeping half of the time on the job complain that they don't seem to make a lot of money.
"Friendliness disarms people. When meeting people in a limited social situation, be friendly."
A few weeks ago I travelled to another part of the country to visit a friend. She called 6 girls over and we all went to a nightclub together. The night passes and I split from them to go relax by myself. I ended up meeting an attractive girl who seemed a little lost. We talked for a while and she was in the middle of adding my number when her friend returned with a much larger guy beside her. They instantly cut me out in a protective way to talk to the girl making sure she was feeling alright. The girl turned however and went back to taking my number. We talk a little more before she goes inside to dance with her friend. At this point, I turn to the guy and compliment him on his hairstyle asking for tips. He laughs and we immediately start talking. I soon find out that he himself did not know that girl and only met her five minutes ago but followed her outside. We laughed some more only to see more men coming to stand with us to expand our group. Whilst to me, this is not important though I feel like people may be interested. The girl came back to me later, we made out before I left the club. The next morning I gave her a call and set an instant date. That said, if you go to a club, go there with the intention to have fun.
Lessons:
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Call dont text. If you ever get a girl's number or exchange numbers, always call the girl. If she doesn't pick up, you then leave it and call her on another day.
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Never let person who is more successful than you work harder than you.
- Focus on improving yourself. Women don't matter that much.
Stop wasting time.
There are things right now you could be doing to set you apart from the rest. Focus on that and not whether or not some girl replied to your text.
Remember, every human has 24 hours in a day. The only difference between you and that self made millionare is how you spend your 24 hours.
EDIT------
A few of the groups I mentor have recommended that I create some sort of blog where everyone can come and read what I have to say. I decided to also share it here.
https://absentmasculinity.com/
It's a basic WordPress blog with no bullshit popups, course nonsense or motivational speeches. I give methods not motivation. You won't find tips on how to text girls so if that is your interest, the blog won't be for you.
I should also add that this blog is partly catered to the groups I mentor in which I teach them ways to be successful and stand out from the crowd. You may find my terminology there to be a little harsher than it is here on Reddit. You are also free to contact me over there if you have any direct inquires.
bobaisdope 5y ago
Nice post OP! Don’t you mind if I PM you privately? Actually I’m on the same track, working with e-commerce, right now I’m traveling to a foreign country. To be honest, my income is not as much as yours but I still can live comfortably right now. I’m afraid that I will let myself get too much comfortable, it would be great if we could exchange emails. Thank you!
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universalabundance1 5y ago
Can you share how to have a successful ebay business?
barserek 5y ago
I find myself in a similar situation. Last year I worked my ass off, made a solid amount of money, got a double promotion. So this year I decided to sort of lay low, spend some of the money I made, work less hours, party more, worry less, dedicate myself to reading and fun activities.
You said "Women, Reddit, Video games and all that nonsense can wait." Wait for what? For you to be in your 30s? 40s? You will never be 20 again. I know the rational choice would be to keep working and not waste a minute. But think that you might never be able to travel to that place you can go to today. You might even be hit by a car in a few hours and boom, everything you worked for is gone.
My point is, if not now, when? Where do you draw the line? Don't you worry that maybe you are "wasting" your best years, your 20s, by working your ass off while other people are just travelling, partying and having a blast? (even if they don't make as much as you or haven't acomplished as many things as you have?)
I find myself wondering this everyday, and being pulled in two directions. Working my ass off, making a shitload of money, but settle for a more "boring" lifestyle, or just going YOLO and enjoying while I can? Is there a middle road? Is it smart to go all out on work one year on and all out fun other year?
Finally when it comes to women, I feel like they prefer a dude who is just going through life one day at a time, living on the edge, than someones who keeps working their ass off. They only care about how much fun you bring to the table.
I'd like to hear your thought on this.
AvengerSentinel 5y ago
Bro, I'm in a very similar position as you. I work hard, save cash, but spend most of my disposable income treating myself and enjoying life. Here's the thing, you don't HAVE to chase women. Women are a luxury, not a necessity.
One of my favorite TRP posters (who got banned a while back) was a guy who made 250k+ annually, but was mostly MGTOW. He focused on his hobbies and enjoying life. If chicks came into his life, he nailed them, but he didn't break his back pursuing them. I'm of a similar mindset. I have a ton of other shit to occupy my time if chicks don't come around. And this DGAF mindset, of course, makes me all the more attractive.
Lendoran 5y ago
I know what you mean. As the other poster said, you just need to find your balance.
However keep one thing in mind, the people partying madly now will be shitting it later in their life. I'm not all for the idea to sit and start enjoying life at 60. Do what you want, party etc but just keep focus on what your goal is.
7mile_ 5y ago
Find your balance. You don't have to go to either extreme if you don't want to. You have to go after what's important to you. If making a decent paycheck that also allows you the time to pursue hobbies then go for it. You are the one who has to decide. What works for you may not work for someone else because we're all different.
FieldLine 5y ago
That's because, biologically, men are hardwired to lust after women. The goal is not to somehow shut off or mitigate those desires through meditation and long term abstinence. Rather, the goal is to satisfy those desires as quickly and efficiently as possible.
It would be like saying a subreddit about weightlifting focuses too much on nutrition. Yeah, we want to talk about, you know, lifting weights, but if you aren't eating right then you won't get anywhere in practice. You can write all day about how to squat with good form, but there is a 0% chance I will squat three plates without proper nutrition.
Most guys don't want to dedicate their life to becoming a Michelin Chef. But even if the goal is "lifting weights", it would be productive to teach them how to cook nutritious and calorie-dense meals quickly and efficiently.
Likewise, we can talk about how to stop wasting time, but ultimately when you try to put it in practice you will inevitably get distracted by women if you don't already have that part of your life in check. Women don't have to be at the center of your life, but it is essential to know how to navigate the sexual marketplace.
So the posts here that aren't specifically about women aren't minimizing the importance of learning how to get your dick wet -- they assume you already know how to get your dick wet, and are ready to move on to greater things. Kind of like weightlifting posts assume you already have your diet in check.
I don't get it. Why is it beautiful?
Not every post has to be about women, sure, but I don't see why it's beautiful to specifically go to the opposite extreme.
Don't talk about what a TRP post should be. This is a subreddit about sexual strategy. There isn't any ambiguity.
manwithoutwire 5y ago
Unless you're a rapper, rockstar, pro athlete, etc than you have to be pretty damn intelligent to become a self made millionaire.
My question to you is, how does your average Homer Simpson become a millionaire?
If it was easy everyone would be doing it, and don't mention work ethic because hundreds of thousands of people sling concrete for a living all day and they work harder than you do, period.
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PR0JECT_XIII 5y ago
I'm going to have to disagree with you there.
The idea of self made shouldn't be shoved into the box of athlete's, musicians and pop culture icons. Luck is a combination of opportunity and preparation coming together.
My goal is to become self sufficient on my own terms and I am going to find a way to do it. Becoming a millionaire isn't my priority, it's creating a lifestyle without having to worry about anyone else.
People can be slinging concrete all their life, that doesn't mean they have work ethic. A work ethic is a set of principles you live by, and if you are happy to live by mediocre principles like turning up and hoping one day you will catch a break simple by doing what is required you will go no where.
FieldLine 5y ago
They get lucky.
We like to think that hard work == financial success, but ultimately every self-made millionaire (under the age of 60) got a break down the line.
There is nothing particularly special or unique about Zuckerburg. He's probably a smart guy, and he works hard, but more than that he was in the right place at the right time to capitalize on his roommate's idea.
Gates is a smart guy, but he also had the luxury of playing with with a personal computer as a child. (The equivalent would be you having access to a private helicopter.) This was a HUGE asset in getting a leg up in an undersaturated market.
This is why we, as a society, love the "rags-to-riches" story of the guy who paid his way through Hofstra and created an ultra successful brand. It provides "evidence" of the American dream, that we all have equal opportunity. But what we don't mention is that if we play with our p-values we can present any event as significant.
I'm not minimizing hard work. But I know dopes who own hedge funds with net worths of eight figures who couldn't think their way out of a paper bag.
You can be a doofus and get lucky. You can be smart and never get a break. Best to just work smart and hard to be ready for when your break ever comes, if it ever does at all.
Rommel0502 5y ago
By the same token, it seems the harder you work, the luckier you get.
Lendoran 5y ago
I actually fully agree with this. I read a topic on the subject a few months ago which was essentially saying that there is no such thing from a rags to riches story.
If you read my previous posts I said the same thing myself. I was in the right place at literally the right time.
I suppose the only other way to look at it is to bring your luck to you.
apskidb 5y ago
OK, but I think we can all agree that no one will ever get rich slinging concrete no matter how hard they work. It's not about mindless toil when trying to figure out a business. It's not a job. It's not a task. You're solving a very high-level problem here that involves scalability.
Example: Coca leaf farmer worker (non-owner). This guy busts his ass 12+ hours a day tending to the farm doing what's he told by his boss. One day it may be picking leaves, the other may be pouring fertiliser. The only ways he can make more money is to ask to be paid more for the same work, ask for money responsibility to justify being paid more, and to work more hours (if he works on an hourly basis). No amount of work ethic will get this guy rich.
Example: Coca leaf farmer boss (owner). He may have inherited, bought or started the coca farm from scratch himself. Bottom line is that he owns it. He can make money off the land by renting it (if there's a market), or sell it for more than he bought it for, or decide to grow coca leaves to sell into the drug market, which is exactly what he has decided to do.
He tends to his farm and has also hired some workers (our man above) to help. He has arranged to sell his product for a price to the local cartel. As long as he's able to grow the 800 pounds of coca leaves, he's got money is his pocket. He pays his staff, calculates his cost and the rest he gets to keep.
Our coca leaf farmer boss' options to make more money are different. His work isn't based on the hours he works or how good a coca farmer he is. He certainly has the option to try to charge a higher price for his product. But this doesn't make you rich.
What will make our coca farmer boss rich is figuring out how to scale his business. He made approx $1,000 selling the 800 pounds. He needs to 10x or 100x that so he can have $10,000 or $100,000. He can do that by buying additional farms and hiring workers to run them. He can buy up farms in other countries and start to grow poppy seeds to access another drug market. He ends up with hundreds of farms, with hundreds of people working for him selling multiples of the product he used to produce in 800 pound batches.
Homer Simpson needs to start thinking in terms of scale. Micheal Jackson didn't get famous by selling his album to 100 people. Everyone on the fucking planet knew who Micheal Jackson was. So when he dropped an album, it turned out that a lot of people who liked his music (quality product), knew about it from TV (sales and marketing) and could go to the local store (distribution) to get 'it', the 'it' being a tape or CD that could be replicated. It didn't require Michael Jackson to sing himself when someone wanted to listen to Billie Jean. He outsourced it to cassette. People could listen to him even when Micheal was sleeping. In the classical music period, musicians didn't earn a lot because they were limited to how many performances they could do in a day - it didn't scale. Also note, timing. Understand your market.
The challenge is in balancing all these variables and trying to get the right combination so that your business, whatever it is, can begin to make money and then scale. The work ethic is in the time and effort, trial and error and toil needed to get something off the ground and growing.
You'll realise that there's so much to do and so little time that your ambition will lead you to work longer and harder than most people because you'll want to see results. The n00bs will burn out and fail, the seasoned will know how to balance work ethic with other things so that it all doesn't come crashing down.
You pick something and you work your ass off to make something scale. You can spend only 1 day a week doing it. But then it will take you longer and you might miss your market opportunity. It will test your resolve when chugging away at something for so long with little to show for it. If 1 day a week is all it needs and does well, more power to you. But it will not come easy if you don't come to terms with the fact that it will be hard and require work and take the plunge to start. You'll need to put in the time and effort but also apply some creativity to help you save on that time and get you where you want faster.
Good luck.
Lendoran 5y ago
Beautiful post man. I've copied it to my notebook.
womans_algorithm 5y ago
Read The Millionare Fastlane. Author is describing your exact mindset "You need to have this, this or this to be millionare", where 'this' is some thing that is out of your reach (in your example, high intelligence). There are lots of average Joes who became millionares, you just don't see them in magazines.
Annihilate_This 5y ago
They may work harder but do they work smarter? What do you think those people do when they get home? Grab a cold beer and plop on the couch in most cases. I know, because I worked a career like that for a few years.
When you work a job that saps most of your energy it's hard to do much else with yourself.
I'd say knowledge would be the most important thing to try and gain for the average Home Simpson. If you can't bring yourself to read a book, you probably can't bring yourself to make a lot of money.
JesusTheThird3 5y ago
Not sure about Homer Simpson. But most average Joe's can become millionaires with hard work and swallowing their ego to actually learn.
That means finding someone who is successful in your trade, and literally sucking their fucking dick (ok, not literally!).
Learning how to go from laying concrete to managing 3 people who lay concrete given that you are hard working can be done. But if you see yourself as average, then swallow that pride and subordinate yourself to someone who is smarter and more accomplished than you are. I guarantee at least half of the time successful people are more than happy to see other's succeed.
The worst part about being rich or successful is that when you see other people being bums, it pisses you off. But most are far too prideful in their ways to ask for help.
You're average? Great. Stop being original. Stop trying to be creative, you are probably not. Message people on LinkedIn. In real life or where ever show them your empty palms and ask them for help. And of course put in the 12-14/day.
TitanUcheze 5y ago
This is crab in the bucket mentality. Absolutely anyone can become a millionaire, and you don’t have to be a software developer or engineer or lawyer to make it happen.
Look no further than the Financial Independence subreddit for a framework on how to make it happen in your lifetime. It certainly isn’t a fast way to get rich, but slow, disciplined investing in diversified assets (index funds, real estate, bonds) will allow you to become financially independent, and should you chose, you can be free from working from anyone by simply drawing down a percentage (4%) of your portfolio per year, based on the year you decide to “retire” early.
If you want to live your life on your own terms, that’s the only guaranteed way. Very few will be selected to play pro football or become a rapper, but everyone can become a millionaire. It’s a choice, like every aspect of your life. You either succeed or you don’t, and there’s no one to blame but yourself.
TRP2017 5y ago
Yes career success correlates with intelligence but it has an even stronger correlation with being high in conscientiousness, high in extraversion and low in agreeableness. In other words being a good networker, being smart, being a good negotiator and getting shit done, will get even Homer Simpson very far.
And yes work ethic plays a huge role. You think high level CEOs that are working 80+ hours a week, sacrificing their health, sleep, relationships to rapidly build a company and stay ahead of competition have no work ethic? You think high level athletes who are so developed in their particular skillset that the improvements they see from training all day every day are barely noticable, have no work ethic? These people grind through as much physical and mental pain as people slinging concrete if not more.
To become a millionaire you want to be smart enough to put your massive work ethic towards something that puts you in a place of massive value and/or a place that offers you huge leverage. Slinging concrete is not going to get you that. Wouldnt you agree it would be better to work every waking second of your day maximising earned income, profit income, rental income, dividend income, capital gains income and royalty income, like most millionaires do?
And yes luck or innate talent may play a role in a lot of cases but I mean just one million is fucking chump change to most wealthy people these days, it's very attainable for the average person who's willing to put in the work.
EcoastDistrib 5y ago
A new person becomes a millionaire every day (a saying)
Morphs_ 5y ago
Becoming a millionaire is just a matter of time. Read up on ETF investing and pretty much every guy can retire a millionaire in a decade or three. Google "stock series". Highly recommended, I'm following that route myself.
JamiusStream 5y ago
Read Think and Grow rich by Napoleon Hill and study many other successful people, and you’ll think of your own way to become rich and start hustling
Sunburn1992 5y ago
Entrepreneurship is the only way. It's that simple.
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Rommel0502 5y ago
I can say without fear of contradiction that discipline and tenacity are WAY more predictive of high income than intelligence. Intelligence makes it easier, but it is neither a necessary nor sufficient condition.
jeff_vii 5y ago
A wise statement op. A friend's father who is a millionaire once said, 'I have way more respect for those who lack talent but strive to make the most of what they have than those gifted with excellence who achieve mediocrity'
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Good work ethic will get you to the mid levels of success. Intelligence will boost you further to the top.
But if you’re intelligent and lazy... you’re going nowhere.
gbdoragnic 5y ago
I disagree, I had a mentor who knew nothing about programming he hired me, when he wanted to run multiple instances of a tool he bought another computer, he bought 10 computers to run 10 programmers, he had no ideal he could use the same computer to run a program more than once
He made $100,000 a month online, He hired me to teach him some basic shit , work ethic > intelligence
voxiqs 5y ago
Where the fuck do you get ideas to do this shit
I have money, every know how to run an effective and efficient business with zero fucking creativity
I would love to invest and be the brains of an operations but have really no clue how to get people to buy an idea, sub or whatever
gbdoragnic 5y ago
> Where the fuck do you get ideas to do this shit
Laziness, I have perfected the art of being lazy and getting wealthy , I work as hard as possible to create a short cut, and than I sale that short cut.
KISS is my method, however To get here I have to work hard, I have to use my intelligence , my hero is Edward Oakley Thorp , the guy who discovered card counting, I'm like him, rather than do a regular 9-5 I'm so lazy that I tend to work hard and create and dream big and succeed.
He is my hero because he never cheated anyone, He just out smarted people, That is my ideology , pain staking effort
Reallifelocal 5y ago
If it's so easy why don't you do what he is doing?
gbdoragnic 5y ago
At what point did I say it was easy, I'm trying to say Intelligence is the easy way out,
RiPing 5y ago
Actually almost everyone with an IQ over 100 in the west without disabilities, big problems and children can become a millionaire.
The most important thing is to NOT spend, the second most important thing is to invest MOST of your money.
Investments grow on almost every year and if you do it properly yet safe you can get around 7% average a year, calculate what happens with 100k if you do this for 20 years cumulatively. Take some more risk and you can do much more on some years.
Don’t miss out on opportunities. Take for example Bitcoin, it went from less than a dollar to $19000. Bitcoin will not be the only opportunity of massive gains in our lives. And Bitcoin itself isn’t done yet, it will go to 100k and maybe even $1 million (might take many years), so put in some money in that too.
But yeah who wants to become a millionaire this way, is it worth sacrificing your spending habits?
circlingldn 5y ago
Why bitcoin when you can just get 100x leverage on futures etc
RiPing 5y ago
100x leverage is a little risky. But x10-x20 can be pretty good on bitcoin
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RiPing 5y ago
That’s correct. That’s why I said average.
SunlightandChaos 5y ago
Hey man, do you have any recommendations on what to read to get started with this sort of practice? I'm 25 and in a position where I can start investing a reasonable amount of money, but I'm not sure where to start. I'd certainly like to start soon, though. Time is precious
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RiPing 5y ago
http://jlcollinsnh.com/2011/06/08/how-i-failed-my-daughter-and-a-simple-path-to-wealth/
http://awealthofcommonsense.com
Investopedia
Wallstreetbets on reddit
SunlightandChaos 5y ago
Cheers mate, I'll take a look at em this arvo when I finish work
PsychedelicDentist 5y ago
Bitcoin cash*
Not bitcoin core
Infinite_Metal 5y ago
BCH is the red pill of crypto
RiPing 5y ago
I didn’t mention core anywhere.
PsychedelicDentist 5y ago
Good - got to make sure people aren't getting confused with fake bitcoin
throwaway2_5_5_2 5y ago
Unfortunately, bitcoin has been on a decline since the peak. I keep hoping it will at least level out, but it hasn't it just keeps dropping.
RiPing 5y ago
Don’t say “unfortunately”, you should be extremely happy for this chance to buy cheap.
It will 100% go to at least 100k, it might taken2-4 years though. After that a million is far from impossible.
circlingldn 5y ago
Why bitcoin and why not eth or bitcoin cash?
Do you even know that btc price is being extremely manipulated by tether
RiPing 5y ago
And you think BTC price being extremely manipulated being a bad thing? It’s much easier to manipulate it up than down
7mile_ 5y ago
No it won't. It will probably drop to $100 in a couple years
dontuseliqui 5y ago
It might. It might not. Gamble what you have.
RiPing 5y ago
That’s impossible. Why would you think something so ridiculous?
Flying_Wingback 5y ago
"The greatest threat to your future success is your current success"
bpjsdrp 5y ago
Can't be any further from the truth.
Improved myself at 26 and went from 75K to 114k then haven't done shit in a year and a half to move forward.
It's not that you're lazy, you just get too comfortable.
Yoo_Jesus 5y ago
I have read some of your other post and you give a more aggressive Gary Vaynerchuk vibe and I was just wondering why you do this. Also you seem like a very literate person do you have any books you recommend (I have a month left of summer to burn) and you said that your a ethnic man may I ask which? Thanks!
Lendoran 5y ago
Haha I had never heard of Gary Vaynerchuk before so I quickly searched him up after reading your comment and I'm loving his content so far.
I'm originally northern african raised in a family of christian ministers.
I'm going to make a post about books soon but the general jist of what I can tell you is that MOST books are motivational. By that I mean they work on statements and not methods. There's nothing wrong with that but it depends on what you are reading for. Do you want knowledge or want to make money?
No book thought me how to make video games, or how to do ebay dropshipping, or how to do any form of online business. This was all due to the power of google and youtube.
However the books I personally enjoyed are; "Meditations, the 50th law, the art of not giving a fuck."
empryze 5y ago
thanks, this is really helpful. i gave out this same exact advice when i was speaking at seminars. it's very crucial to keep track of your time and where your money flows. otherwise, you'll be inviting chaos, and chaos doesn't bring riches.
there are some points in your post which real entrepreneurs don't really follow, but hey, you learn as you go.
sumethreuaweiei 5y ago
Why calling over texting a girl? It seems strange. I call friends all the time, but for girls it seems like a bit much
Lendoran 5y ago
It's just always worked for me. The best example is the scenario I gave in the OP.
I met this girl in the club, she was half drunk, we made out before I left her at the club.
The next day I call her directly. She didn't even remember who I was and yet I still set up a date went beyond. Now had I sent her a text she would have almost certainly ignored it.
Besides think of it from the girl's perspective, it show's massive confidence and doesn't waste anyone's time.
sumethreuaweiei 5y ago
Calls are best when, and what do you say?
Lendoran 5y ago
Anytime really. I called the girl from the OP at around 12/1pm?
The main thing about all this is confidence and not having fear of losing the girl. So what if she doesn't answer? Or if she answers and ends up being a bitch? There are more girls out there.
Girls rarely get calls like that so 90% she will answer. When she does, be confident and say what you want.
By this I mean, I called the girl, she picked up and asked who I was as she had forgotten. I just replied by telling her that I met her at the club last night and thought she was pretty cool. Had a few jokes with her then asked her what she was doing that day that I wanted to meet up with her because I enjoyed her company. Something like that.
She told me that she wasn't doing anything and I then explained that she would have to pick the location since I didn't know the area. Instant date etc.
Hope that helps you mate
Edit: The main thing is to not care about it so much. Genuinely think about it you have two bad outcomes. She either ignores your call, in which you send her a text or she actually picks up and then rejects you or hangs up the phone on you. That's the worst case scenario. You have genuinely nothing to lose.
thisdyyd 5y ago
It's About the value you create not the hours you put in.
BurnoutRS 5y ago
"When you get comfortable, thats when trouble tends to strike"
Id add variations to this, when you become cocky, overconfident, complacent, when things are going so well you cant possibly see them going poorly, thats when youre most likely to overlook something crucial.
Its happened to me with my diet when I spend a few weeks with a calorie counter app and then decide ive got the calorie amounts ingrained in my mind and I can just eat by feel
Its happened to me with drugs, when you feel like youre the most in control of whats going on, when you lose that healthy fear and respect for the substance, thats when youre most likely to get sucked into addiction and all the other negatives of substance use.
Also I think im coming to realize exactly the truth youre putting out there OP. I had a very dysfunctional family upbringing, luckily my dad was always there even though he could be very distant and my mom essentially ran things. I took on a fixer role, became a people pleaser and thought the only way to navigate through life was to make others happy and put them before me.
Thats errant horseshit to me now. The best way to make other people happy is to do so by making yourself happy first. Especially since sacrificing all of yourself to make others happy leaves you bitter and resentful, especially if you come to expect others to make the same sacrifices for you.
Who's in a better position to relax, open up and really enjoy his time? The man who has nothing, and everything is riding on tonight being awesome? or the man who has everything, and knows that even if tonight sucks, its just a short lull in an otherwise awesome existance
Lendoran 5y ago
This was a good post to read man. I hope things get better for you and you find your way forward mate
BurnoutRS 5y ago
Done and Done man, but thanks for the support nonetheless
mvnarachi 5y ago
''First you get the money, then you get the power and then you get the women.'' - Al Pacino in Scarface.
7mile_ 5y ago
That only applies to celebrities or multi millionaires
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I'm telling you, it's jobs. We gotta get jobs. Then we get the khakis. Then we get the chicks.
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robtormar 5y ago
Hey man would you mind shedding some light on ebay dropshipping?
CrocMcSpock 5y ago
Find a product (make sure it's the same model) on eBay that sells pretty consistently. Make sure the price varies as well for the same product.
For example the same model of nutribullet that sells for a varying degree, but most importantly above its usual price.
Post the item for sale at a higher value than it usually sells for as a buy now product. When someone buys it, go to amazon or any other service like that. Buy the product and ship it to their address rather than yours.
That is one way of doing it. This is just a basic over view, it doesn't account for postage fees, eBay fees and PayPal fees. The hard part is finding the right product that you can mark up, that sells consistently and isn't over saturated. Once you've got a product you can make a sale pretty quickly.
Lendoran 5y ago
Sorry for the late reply, I'll make a post on this tomorrow so hopefully it'll answer your questions.
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cars_and_computers 5y ago
I have trouble with making sure I work harder. The thought of never getting a day off is still so daunting to me. At this point I can't stand the thought of wanting to relax on the weekend only to remember that I have to be somewhere at a certain time and feeling like I don't have much control over things. What do I do to get over this cause it's really holding me back
Lendoran 5y ago
You just need to find your way man. No one can help you figure this out despite what they'll tell you. I could sit here and spew motivational bullshit but it won't mean anything. Just open your mind and let ideas come through. What do you enjoy doing? Find a way to monetize that
7mile_ 5y ago
What do you mean? Does your job force you to work on the weekends?
cars_and_computers 5y ago
I work my job during the week but I also want to do better as a realtor(weekends and maybe week nights). I got it to earn extra income but I've been having a hard time with it. I want to get my own business off of the ground but I'm having a hard time with things.
TributeHDD 5y ago
Can i ask what you were selling?
Lendoran 5y ago
Ill make a post on this tomorrow!
gbdoragnic 5y ago
This so much, I been trying to articulate this concept for so long, building muscles because you love yourself instead of building muscles to love yourself. When you know the difference, girls do too.
STFUIDGAFUCK 5y ago
Pretty good post. Thank you for the reminder. Outwork them.
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frankduxing 5y ago
I like a lot of what you said but as a purpose in life, why is money an ideal that you hold higher than all else? At the end of your life, when you have a big pile of money sitting in the bank will you feel like you achieved your ultimate goal or simply dedicated your time to a big stack of green toilet paper? In my case, I would rather look back from my death bed on all the amazing experiences I had with different women across the world than a bank statement.
Lendoran 5y ago
You see this is the beauty of having money. I completely get what you mean but I've thought about this. I've watched the youtube videos of youtubers living in mansions. People the same age as me driving the latest Ferraris etc. I personally want a lifestyle that allows me to travel the world and live in my own mansion. That's my wish and yours may differ but money pulls them all together
frankduxing 5y ago
Money is key to freedom and achieving what you want but only to an extent. Far too many people don't know what that extent actually is and end up replacing what they really desire with money. constantly moving the goal post and buying more shit or earning more money.
I for example have traveled to nearly 40 countries and have probably spent a total of 2-3 years of my life purely traveling from ages 21-34. I have also slept with over 100 women all over the world. Guess what, I never had a lot of money, I had freedom and enough money.
What would living in a mansion actually give you?
Lendoran 5y ago
You've got me there. That's where life experience comes in, something which you most certainly far exceed me in. I suppose I'll just have to see how it goes but you certainly raise a good point