Essay:
https://therationalmale.com/2018/02/26/what-makes-a-man/
Excerpt:
The Feminine-Correct Paradigm
Since the most recent school shooting in Florida, the focus on what constitutes masculinity has come to the forefront of our social consciousness. What exactly is masculinity they keep asking, and then provide definitions that only have meaning to a social order that’s founded on female social dominance. They are definitions that most men heard repeated constantly as boys from their overwhelmingly female-taught and feminine-primary educations. Since the beginning of the Sexual Revolution and the rise of Fempowerment boys and men are expected to grow up into a female-defined masculinity. Boys are acculturated in contexts that feminize them, yet we are meant to believe that all the horrors of Patriarchal masculinity are still being taught to them today:
Two decades ago, the psychologist William Pollack wrote that boys start out sensitive but through a “shame-hardening process” — told to stop crying, to be a man — they learn to hide what they really feel. And if they don’t know or understand their own feelings, how can they care about anyone else’s?
This has become something of a cliché. And the truth is, there’s no single culture of boys, but many. In my memories of adolescence, beneath the constant ribbing and occasional pyromania, we had tremendous affection for one another. And we longed to connect with women with an intensity that was difficult to contemplate.
This was a quote from Real Men Get Rejected Too. It’s a good illustration of the paradox masculinity presents to parents and educators. The idea that boys are these sensitive delicate souls who, through the evils of their Patriarchal (typically male) upbringing, are conditioned to become ‘macho’ violent men is a popular trope. After Nikolas Cruz killed 17 kids at school it was the go-to rationale. “Boys are brought up to be violent gun-loving beasts thanks to a perpetuated misogynistic culture of men” or some variation of this is common. It’s an easy, digestible, info-bite that sounds right because we’ve heard it for so long. If only boys we’re taught more like girls to get in touch with their emotions and were vulnerable in expressing them we could avoid these male-created tragedies.
That’s the pretense we’re supposed to believe – and it’s important that a larger society does believe in the inherent evilness of masculinity if the Feminine Imperative is to maintain social dominance. But the truth is boys have been systematically feminized for the past 3-4 generations. Boys are taught like defective girls. Since the 1970s it is increasingly women who have dominated academia from kindergarten to doctorate degrees. The entire western education system is founded on a feminine-primary, feminine-defined teaching methodology. In the process of advantaging girls to the utmost efficiency in school (to fempower adult women) the educational atmosphere had to be defined by what best served girls. School and teaching became ‘for girls’ and the educational landscape shifted to teaching styles that girls were most benefited in.
In that shift the idea that boys might be disadvantaged had little bearing, but overtime the conditions of teaching ‘to girls’ defined the teaching style as the correct style. In fact, teaching in a way that girls learn best, and disciplining boys for not learning this way, is no longer a style – it is just the way children are taught. Boys and men today are the product of female teachers who actively advantage girls at the expense of boys. So normalized is this teaching that boys disrupting the advantaging of girls in class is something we’ve decided needs to be medicinally curbed. Boys being boys is diagnosed as an illness and drugs are prescribed so as to sedate them long enough for the girls to learn.
This focus on empowering girls isn’t limited to the classroom. In every form of early childhood through adolescent media, music, social networks and social exchanges this theme is continued; girls have the future in their reach, boys are potential rapists and criminals if they don’t fall in line with female-correct way of how things just are. I get asked a lot about what I think defines Blue Pill conditioning and I’d say this ambient social theme of fempowerment is a strong basis for it. Boys are not taught this old-school, much-feared Patriarchal masculinity, they are bombarded with themes of how masculinity is incorrect, laughable, and a shameful ‘act’ that boys have to put on to cover the ‘real’ female-correct versions of their sensitive selves. Boys are taught from the earliest age that being a boy is an incorrect mask, while being a girl, learning like a girl, emoting and relating like a girl is ‘real’ and the correct way of developing a personality.
Who would ever want to be a boy when so much is rewarded and praised about being a girl? There’s so much more advantage to be had if you’re a girl. As early as five years old boys are deliberately taught to loathe their own gender, but they are also being taught a redefinition of what a female-correct form of masculinity should be for them. The best they could do would be to become female to the best of their ability. They learn they must agree and support girls’ empowerment, identify with the feminine and above all, despise the parody of masculinity they are shown is ‘illegitimate’ and inauthentic.
Boys are systematically taught to make women and womankind their Mental Point of Origin. This is why it is so difficult for men to unplug and abandon their old Blue Pill selves; feminine-primacy was literally conditioned into them since they were kids.
Nikolas Cruz, like many other teenage shooters is the product of this feminine-primary education system, not a Patriarchal “teach boys not to cry” machismo school. He is a monster of their creation; one taught to cry on demand and emote like a girl. He’s the result of a participation trophy mentality that demonize men and masculinity to the point that he never learns how to bounce back from defeat, rejection or simply life’s adversities. No men and no masculinity is available to teach that kid how to harden up and be resilient, or how that masculine discipline is not bullying or hazing, but a necessary part of a boy’s maturation into a masculine man.
But to throw society off the trail a false narrative of hyper-masculinity ruining our otherwise feminine-correct boys is perpetuated. When the next school shooting takes place the Village will again want the public to believe it’s masculinity and men’s fault for what is really his emotional outburst. The Village will attempt to place the responsibility on men, on fathers, while in the meantime perpetuating the idea that men/fathers are superfluous at best, a societal burden at worst. Men are useful catspaws in so many ways, and in perpetuating this narrative the Village reinforces the female-correct theme for grown men too.
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Whatever breaks a man, makes a man.
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siriusisness 6y ago
what makes a man?
...is it the power in his hands?
BigLebowskiBot 6y ago
Ummmm, sure. That and a pair of testicles.
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BigLebowskiBot 6y ago
Ummmm, sure. That and a pair of testicles.
domo101dc 6y ago
What? Am I wrong?
TheRedPike 6y ago
You are arguing with a bot, dumbshit.
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This is the money shot:
What ever aspect of maleness that serves the feminine purpose is a man’s masculine responsibility, yet any aspect that disagrees with feminine primacy is labeled Patriarchy and Misogyny.
Yea...father in law, father, brothers, friends and colleagues all plugged in and tell the world how manly their unappreciated slavery can be. Then they shame a man who lifts his head and nopes the fuck out and puts himself first.
Im taking as many bitches and money bags to my grave as possible. My kids will be well adjusted with strong sense of self and my hobbies and interests will keep climbing up and to the right
Yes, very selfish shitlord here
INNASKILLZ2K18 6y ago
Yep. And those same plugged in dudes, who spout how much their slavery is something to aspire too, all secretly harbor an inner bewilderment as to to why their basic inner need to fuck women and get respect, isn't being satisfied. At some point, the smart ones cotton on to the fact that something isn't right in their belief system. If they haven't been fed so many blue pills as to actually convince them that even the suppression of this inner-need is to be appreciated, too.
LittleLegionaire 6y ago
Without context this is exactly what women want, men who don't give a fuck and are out there for themselves. There pussies gush and they shake from the tingles, they want to fuck the ever loving shit out of that man - but this is in the context of a man who's accomplished somehow, physically attractive, and or has some kind of charisma or money. Your basement dwelling MGTOW (or if we're not perpetuating stereotypes) or average guys who say "fuck women, they suck, memyself&I Til the day I die" dries up pussies real quick.
This man is a threat because however useless he may be, he is holding power or at the very least taking up space that other men interested in preserving the feminine imperative could take - "How dare he not want to submit his beta self to our cause, what a waste". So they vilify them.
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They vilify the hawt giivenofucks guy too. But they fuck him with glee
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Correct. Women think of who they already feel attraction than imagine some attainabilty.
Its not the attainability they find attractive
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mummersfarce_is_done 6y ago
Is Christian Grey her bitch in the third book? Is this legit?
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Nah that would ruin the entire premise of the series... girls want the dominant fantasy not the other way around
DatingCoach111 6y ago
Pain is the gateway to masculinity, but resiliency is its key.
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Ex wife told my son not to mansplain. He's two. Increased custody can't come soon enough.
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Dr_skalmanski 6y ago
Did that really happen or are you joking? Thats beyound insane.
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I appreciate your doubt because it is insane, but it happened. After we relocated to Seattle she gradually shifted more toward social extremism, which makes sense if you are familiar with the area.
I was in the middle of my nightly Skype session with the kids when she said it. There was a tone of jest as she said it, but the fact that she said it at all shocked me, and I have no way of knowing how often or in what context she says it to him, let alone whatever else she might be seeding into my kids while I'm reduced to the sidelines.
Dealing with her is like walking a minefield, and I must be very careful where I step because she has retaliated against me in the past and has threatened me previously using the kids as leverage.
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You should have told her you are not tolerating her behaviour, and punished her in some form. Withdraw your attention and affection. Then give it back when she behaves better. Its easy to break a bitch guys, just really watch your own reaction and behaviour and never break frame.
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This isn't just some random bitch or another plate to spin - this is the mother of my children. We've already married and divorced, so there's nothing to build or break. Do you have children? Are you in a situation where an ex has total custody of your children and you're totally reliant upon said ex in order to have access to them? I literally don't have a leg to stand on until I get more custody set in a parenting plan revision that gets approved by the court.
I don't know what you mean by "punish" here. I won't stop paying my court-ordered child support or alimony, and I don't do her favors unless it involves our children in some way. I'm not going to "withdraw attention and affection" from my children, obviously, and she doesn't seek any from me. We aren't friends or even exes who go back and forth flirting and fucking - we have a co-parenting relationship with zero romantic or sexual intent behind it, so my attention and affection is already set to a strictly professional level. I have no interest in souring our co-parenting relationship either, since that would not be in the best interest of my gaining additional custody later on.
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omega_dawg93 6y ago
one of my biggest fears is being confronted by an over-emotional, "i wear my emotions on my sleeve," and "i'm in touch with my feminine side" type of guy.
a man will fight you.
this guy, when his emotions fully take over, will cut your throat and eat your esophagus... while putting on man make-up.
i don't deal with emotion-driven men... at all.
LiquidReaper- 6y ago
youre right, and yes you would
pookie513 6y ago
Right under these men are the validation seekers. Not only are temper mantrums damn near socially acceptable, they're encouraged, for the lack of a better term, if the "amog" is fueled by insecurity.
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DalekJay 6y ago
A miserable little pile of secrets. But enough talk… Have at you!
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Just wanted you to know at least one person appreciated this reference.
DalekJay 6y ago
I thought I would be downvoted, but Redpill has culture apparently! Haha
RcskaSedd 6y ago
You hit a somewhat small niche within the community. SOTN is great game tho.
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Rollo-Tomassi 6y ago
There is no conspiracy, but there is a feminine imperative that all women follow: https://therationalmale.com/2012/03/13/the-hypergamy-conspiracy/
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Yep and let's bring in more "refugees" they'll be easier to control, and of course disarm them to bring more power to the super fucking rich. And illegal immigration, so great points as always.
I disagree about valuing the dollar, that can continue, we just need nationalism and more people to keep accepting being PC is wrong. Open discussion and debate will end this as it would destroy PC culture easily, but you can't have a debate and that's why I think they went after Milo so hard. An articulate Gay Jew...uh oh...But Shapiro is filling in nicely.
redpill77 6y ago
Is this something you believe to be possible?
Only in the way that there is no partriarchy. It's useful to name it even if it is a naturally arising phenomenon. I do agree we should clarify that its way too big to be considered a conspiracy or intentional. No one chooses to favour women, it's just natural.
perplexedm 6y ago
standardized, subjugated workforce without their own stand, always ripe for exploitation.
This post is golden.
BTW: http://www.psypost.org/2018/02/men-higher-testosterone-levels-report-protective-romantic-relationships-50799
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Great post.
One point I would want to add to is that government and big business benefit greatly when women feel empowered because they spend more or "encourage" their men to lavish on then, and women tend to buy more often than men and are easy to market to.
tekn0_ 6y ago
It’s much deeper than that. An empowered woman is a misnomer. The hands that drive the empowered woman through social structures that eventually rest in the hands of a few is the real issue
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There we go. The real red pill.
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CloseYourHearts 6y ago
“The technique of infamy is to start two lies at once and get people arguing heatedly over which is the truth”
Rollo_Mayhem3 6y ago
The Federal Reserve Banking and fractional reserve banking, aka fiat currency that that government can print out of thin air to support the big business interest's speculative and shady financial instruments. I think some people woke up enough and that is how Trump beat Clinton. I just think that unless you had investment accounts or owned a home or were on a fixed income...you don't notice wtf is going on.
R3dSt0rmR1sen 6y ago
Alternatively, you could take American history and highschool economics and know about central banking.
Rollo_Mayhem3 6y ago
umm, they don't cover the specifics or debate the merits of fiat currency, gold standard, and fractional reserve banking... maybe in a private school they might by and large they don't
R3dSt0rmR1sen 6y ago
I don’t think any of these concepts are necessary to understand the value in a central bank. (Hint hint: most major countries regardless of ideology have one. I’m sure their leaders are ignorant plebes compared to TRP though)
Rollo_Mayhem3 6y ago
Central bank extracts value by devaluing the currency. That's the point.
phoenix335 6y ago
Their narrative breaks apart when looking at the fact that almost all school shooters grew up without a real father figure.
Looking at the ghettos, with 70+% of kids growing up there without a father in the home, gun violence is beginning to sound like a terrible consequence of fatherlessness.
Huru_Guru 6y ago
A dick and a pair of testicles
LittleLegionaire 6y ago
I agree.
But to women "man" is superflous, they want the impossible Super Alpheta, the one who will give them the emotional rollercoaster and good hard fucking and make them feel EVERYTHING while at the same time being reliable and a nice provider. This man does not exist, it's impossible to be both abusive man and a paragon of virtue (otherwise society would be overrun by multi-personality disorder and be even more dysfunctional).
I think the greatest explanation for why women cheat is purely to satisfy her need for feelz too. Not only does cheating satisfy their urge to get fucked good and hard, and perhaps feel secure in the prescence of someone more alpha, it is defiant, disobedient, treacherous, and above all, dangerous. With risk of danger there is excitement, and excitement is the best emotion for women. They don't want to be happy, they want to be perpetually excited, which does not mean "thrilled" per say, more always stimulated in this case.
Also I mean, is a greasy 5'3 110lb soy boy equivalent to Chad Thundercock who's 6'3, 210lb and shredded to the teeth? Both have a dick and balls, But one is a man and the other is nonexistent.
Huru_Guru 6y ago
Your right to a degree. But I think every person is different and every encounter is different. I read the situation and act accordingly to get what I want
I feel like the reason I cheat personally is because I’m always in the moment( and being impulsive asf). I’m not thinking about anything else other than what’s going on right now. It’s gotten me in trouble more times than I can count lls.
TravelingShitLord 6y ago
I think this is all our (men) fault. We have allowed this shit to go on and on over the years. Its up to us to fix it and raise boys to be men.
If women don't want the blame to fall in their laps, then they will get none of the say on how to go forward to fix it.
starkimarki 6y ago
You'll be undermined at every opportunity. Boys now have the opportunity to demand to be treated like girls, this is the pathway of least resistance, of course we know that this demand will never be met, but boys are led up the garden path and then thrown from the cliff.
To what should they aspire? Here in Germany there remains the dream of professional football, but when that is quashed what then? I don't see men here being presented in any positive light.
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I'm very glad you were all here to father me into adulthood. I really think my Dad would have, but he's just too old to understand with the advent of the internet and how things are with feminism.
This shit took so long to finally work though, I'd say from 2014 but 4 years later it's "complete" (though now you just start getting better and better) and I've accepted another...agnostic viewpoint. It's really like leaving a religion, you're abandoning an entire bullshit faith-based except the evidence is right here in your everyday life-belief system.
redpill77 6y ago
Slightly tangential but worth clarifying:
Is it true that there really is no self-awareness among these women? I think that just like our standard woman, who doesn't fully believe everything that feminist rhetoric espouses, there must be plenty of women who recognize that vulnerability and its advantage that she can dominate the relationship are not wholly desirable nor should they be her sole consideration for a long-term relationship. They still see some of the reality and try to maxmimize both sides of hypergamy to the extent that is possible.
I understand that this post addresses the popular rhetoric that is taking over and which people eventually follow, but we should acknowlede where the true zeitgeist stands, as it trails behind.
Believeinyourflyness 6y ago
Great post. Nobody can deny that society is heavily feminized but I personally don't see how the educational curriculum these days favours girls, at least for the subjects worth studying. Care to explain? I always thought the main reason for girls performing better was because boys focus more on sports.
UshankaDalek 6y ago
I read this earlier today. Love the artwork, as well.