Greetings TRP. This is my first post in TRP and it's my first successful cold approach as well.
I live in India, where sex is a taboo topic in most if not all parts of the country. This means unlike the west, girls don't expect men to hit on them. If they do, its usually trouble and the wrong kind of man. Families are conservative and arranged marriages is the major player responsible for this country's population.
I always had this stop me from exploring and talking to girls. I was scared of being misunderstood, possibly ganged upon by people surrounding us, as our societies are very feminist and consider the female's word always right in a situation like this. All it takes is one woman to say out loud "this guy is harassing me" and undoubtedly the public will seldom let you go without a beating. Period.
Anyways 2hrs ago I'm on a bus back to home. It's raining outside and I see these two girls board and sit in the next row. I assume they're friends and notice one of them(HB6) taking peripheral looks at me. I'm aware of girls doing - they avoid direct eye contact. The other girl becomes invisible to me while this one is trying to grab my attention. I've been working on my body so that my shirt fits perfect and make sure no matter what I have a straight posture and I take up space when I sit. Most likely she noticed these signs. A few minutes later this girl gets off at her stop and I become aware of the second girl who's an HB6. All the seats next to her are empty with just a man sitting right in front of her. I say to myself "I'll make up my mind to sit next to her when he gets up". That was unlikely to happen but my brain kept on making excuses. Then I get a rush of adrenaline to just stand up and sit next to her no matter what. I suppress this feeling at first unsuccessfully. My desire to break out of my bubble is strong and I can't see a better opportunity so I take the first steps and sit next to her.
At first when I begin talking she's very defensive and doesn't understand my words. She had her headphones on and it made a little more difficult. I'm a little nervous but I show no signs of panic. We continue to talk and I make sure I look deep into her eyes. I tried to talk with a deep voice but that didn't happen. (trying too hard would've been creepy) At one moment though I said "this is random but can I have your number" to which she replied "why" instead of no and was laughing while doing so. Wrong. Don't ask for a girls number before you impress her. It comes off as being needy. Your confidence will impress her. That's exactly what I did. And then she gave her number to me without questioning further.
Tbh it feels great right now. I know she wasn't extremely attractive which might have made it a little easier on me but I guess we can call this a start. I have no clue as to what to do with her number now but I'm happy with what happened today. All because I took a small risk instead of sitting back doing nothing.
Redpillpaint 5y ago
I am from southern part of India. Even worse women are considered as god stupid shit. I bet there are a lot of horny girls in India than anywhere else in the world. But they shaped by society and media. I moved to Canada 8years ago.
Focus on your studies or work. Move to Western part of the world. Make sure you lift and not be a skinny fat dude.
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SKRedPill 5y ago
You should know the story of Krishna then - pure gold.
Game in highly conservative countries is very different - think of the society as what it was before condoms and the pills. Females have a lot of power in such societies (even more so than liberated societies) as men have to commit first. On the plus side, cheating means destruction.
Nevertheless, the laws of attraction don't change one bit. Shit tests will happen. And yes, sex can decline after marriage (usual reasons).
Some cases are just too shamed without the awareness and can never get used to sex at all, while some girls of the latest millennial generation get fed up of the taboos get on the feminist bandwagon and move totally to the extreme other end of the spectrum, giving even promiscuous western women a run for their money. Nevertheless, it doesn't seem too bad, considering that in 5 or 6 years, they'll be the most populous nation.
The problem is though in the Northern part of that country, there are a lot of aggressive betas and omegas who couldn't game if their life depended on it and usually end up as abusers -- it's very different down South. In most Southern states, they're below replacement fertility already.
bikermonk 5y ago
Was just wondering how a thread full of Indians is missing Gods and Mythology. Indian thread confirmed.
Jai Shree Krishna
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Redpillpaint 5y ago
Its not just northern part. All parts of India have aggressive betas because of their past rejections. Especially brown knights every part of the city thinking it will get them laid.
gixxerthouguy 5y ago
"Brown Knight" - made me laugh out loud!!
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Morphs_ 5y ago
Why did I read this in an Indian accent?
Redpillpaint 5y ago
Because media portrayed all Indians have an Indian accent. They work in grocery store, cab drivers and an IT professional. Don't blame ya!
Keep up the good work!!!
Morphs_ 5y ago
I know it's a generalization. I have been to India though and of course people have the accent there. If you've been in Canada for years I guess it tapers off.
Redpillpaint 5y ago
It does only if you hang out with locals and not with immigrants. I have met guys, who had typical Indian accent lived here for 20yrs.
antidoxdevice 5y ago
Hows canada for picking up?
Ganaria_Gente 5y ago
Just keep in mind Canada is sort of the Sweden of North America.....
hammerhearth 5y ago
I'd give you gold if I were betabucks
Redpillpaint 5y ago
I live in toronto. It's multicultural but you have to be in high smv to pick up women. I would recommend states it's easier than Canada
hammerhearth 5y ago
LOL Toronto is a feminist hell hole. The men are women. The 80/20 rule does not apply. Its 95/5. Go into any gym in Toronto. You'll find a dude squatting at most 225lbs.
Redpillpaint 5y ago
I can't agree more. If you game well in Toronto. You will be a beast anywhere in the world. It also highest number of MGTOW in the city. I think that's why it's easier for me, whenever I go to states. Definite lay everytime.
As it sound bads. My friend sent me this quote other day when was whining abt bitches.
"You are responsible for your own circumstances. If you're not getting what you want, stop blaming the world"
Start working and become the best version of yourself.
hammerhearth 5y ago
I'll drink to that.
Godspeed, my friend.
trpboy123 5y ago
Which state? I am from Kerala.
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Reformed65 5y ago
Hey, I remember reading a while back that in Kerala, it's a matriarchy there, but I can't see to find that information with a simple Google search, is it common for households there to be led by women?
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Ganaria_Gente 5y ago
But of course: for the supremacists, a matriarchy is still misogyny. Never misandry
Capt save the hoes....
TheRedPike 5y ago
Can you and /u/tankriderr get a room and stop shitting up the sub? kthxbye
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ananyo007 5y ago
Greetings brother. Glad to see people from my country in this sub. I never had to cold approach but somehow, girls just seem to drop on my lap passively. Social norms are definitely a major problem. The lack of bars and club culture, unlike the West also means lack of hunting grounds.
Overall, I had to tweak the conventional rules of the game to work for me.
So, yeah... I agree cold approaching without context in a society like ours is a different ball game. That being said, I deal with strangers on a daily basis (med school student) and getting people to open up directly correlates with my job.
Anyway, I'd love to catch up with other Indian redpillers on this sub.
Cheers.
weezylane 5y ago
It's a risk like I mentioned. So you have to be careful in choosing and study your target before going for the approach. If she has high social value, she can and will use it as leverage and you're left at her mercy. Total devastation unless you're already a pro gamer.
Dawnguards 5y ago
Isnt the india the place where people get murdered when woman decided to tell that you hurt her?
coldser 5y ago
Im turkish and believe me turkish girls are fucking hard to get
nester79 5y ago
I'll check it out - thanks
ymca_lemur 5y ago
I am from the United States and my former partner's family was from Gujarat, India. She was born in Brooklyn. I was born in Europe and have lived in the United States basically my whole life. We were together for 6 years and then broke up.
I want to move to India because I am attracted to Indian women and more importantly the culture, food, and I want to travel Asia. Would I have a difficult time dating Indian women in India? I'm in my late 20s.
Stron2g 5y ago
White? Check.
Congrats girls from every foreign country love you.
corsega 5y ago
I'm a white American and gamed in Bangalore for two weeks recently. I'd rate it as on par with most cities in America as far as difficulty.
I got lots of IOIs, but it's a low trust society, so even though I got 20+ numbers, girls wouldn't meet up for various reasons (mostly their friends cockblocking).
antidoxdevice 5y ago
If youre white it shouldnt be a problem. Not sure for other races
weezylane 5y ago
Indian women prefer foreigners because they smell/see hypergamy. You'll stand out in the crowd and have a beginning advantage. I don't see many downsides besides they're not usually very open and that the general public is basically a giant cockblocking feminist.
destraht 5y ago
My Indian Sikh friend in California just married an Indian Sikh woman with a master's degree in business and he has a bachelors degree in business (how fucking boring and typically dispassionately Indian). She never learned to drive and now my friend spends a good portion of his free time waiting to pick her up and drop her off at her job. I haven't bothered to let him know that I'm back in the country because he is honestly so fucking boring that I see it as a waste of time. Before he was married he sometimes secretly dated local white women for sex (because he wouldn't want to create Indian community controversy) but because they offered sex he never considered them as anything more than slutty impure local women. Now he has his great pure woman but that is only possible because she has refused to engage in typical modern behavior like driving. She was hard under her parents thumbs for the first thirty something years of her life and now she is very dependent upon my friend. He has been married for several years now and I estimate that he appears to be aging at 2-3x the rate now. His hairline just started quickly receding, he now has a small gut and his face looks puffy. What a good Indian he is! Doing everything correctly according to his faith and culture. I'm sure that the other Indians are so proud of him. They all own fancy liquor stores and they count them as if they were cows to the point that he married his wife one year after he opened his first store. They don't have children yet (even though she is in her late 30's) because they want to open more stores and to improve their financial situation. Does this sound great to you?
VickVaseline 5y ago
I had no idea that sex was a taboo topic in India. I mean come on, you guys were the ones who came up with the Kama Sutra.
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VeTech16 5y ago
Take your bullshit and hindu hate to r()india.
weezylane 5y ago
When west developed science it was enforced through education. We forgot to do the second part correctly here regarding ancient knowledge. The whole point of yoga was to awaken kundalini aka sexual energy.
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Could you link it for a curious Westerner?
SKRedPill 5y ago
Read the story of Krishna or the flavours of heroes and heroines in dance and music -- ancient India knew more RP than the rest of the world put together.
VeTech16 5y ago
The hindu scriptures have a lot of description of sexual life, Kama Sutra, yet our society is conservative.
deville05 5y ago
Taboo happened when christianity conquered the world including india and india adopted the christian regressiveness cuz it favours the fragile ego of shitty beta males. Sadly unlike the west.. india and many muslim countries haven't been able to break away from that.
nester79 5y ago
Christianity never conquered or influenced India by much. What history book are you reading?
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VeTech16 5y ago
Wtf, bhai tu shashi tharoor read karta hai, i see you are a closet randian
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I thought the spread of Islam to (some) parts of India contributed to that as well.
VeTech16 5y ago
Nah, islam didn't damage indian too much, i mean they ruled and massacared hindus for nearly 800 yrs (not in a stretch) yet they stand at only 14%
bikermonk 5y ago
Brit Bashing Found. Indians Confirmed
VeTech16 5y ago
They must be bashed, they are the ones responsible for the biggest issue of our country, the hindu vs muslim divide, and the rise of the Brown Sahibs
bikermonk 5y ago
Yeah before that we were such a cute little cohesive society, keeping the boundaries just at castes
VeTech16 5y ago
The situation was much better, go read history.
RajaRajaC 5y ago
Arre yaar Kya Kya sub mein tag karte ho
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almostaristotle 5y ago
OK man, good job and congrats.
But before you go down this hell hole let me just tell you my experiences from gaming a year in Mumbai.
So this is my experience in the most westernized city in India. And do not get me wrong. Girls in Mumbai are having a lot of sex but just not with guys who tell them they're cute out of nowhere. It's all social circles here.
My advice is do the approaches just to work out the anxiety and to prove to yourself that "I can do this" but do not expect great success.
Put all those hours in gym, studying and get the fuck out of the country to the west as the top comment tells you to. There are enough loan options etc. to finance a western university education now.
Do not waste hours and hours sarging in a place like India, it is simply not worth it. I can show FRs from pua groups where guys sarge for 6+ hours walking around for "2 number closes and 2 instagram closes", only to get blocked on the first message.
weezylane 5y ago
This could be a trp post in itself. You've nailed all the points correctly and part of every rp'd indian knows that the vast literature on here talks exclusively for free minded societies aka west. And tinder here is as good as toilet paper: Indians don't use it.
almostaristotle 5y ago
Thanks for the kind words.
I only commented to save all you Indian men from getting sucked into the hours of walking and getting blocked on whatsapp ordeal.
Trust me, spend 5k on a good escort every month and study for your GRE.
rA9_001 5y ago
i have a few questions about GRE. Can i PM you?
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trpboy123 5y ago
Hahaha I am from India too mate. I totally understand how you feel. Even if we seduce women, we can't fuck them because only people in LTR fuck in our country and no other girl is ever willing to do this. There's no plate system in our country too, i.e. no FWBs. All we can do is approach, make them our girlfriend, fuck them after 2 years lol.
saransh661 5y ago
It's a lie you tell to please yourself, I've been fwb with my college seniors, made a 6 month LTR from 2 hr train journey, hooked up with 2 random chicks in 2 seprate events and I wasn't the first to initiate conversation in any one of them and this was pre redpill. Not super good looking and had skinny arms.
PS: I live in India
Satou4 5y ago
Tingles are tingles regardless of culture. I think you have that strategy wrong.
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throwawayclarkken 5y ago
You are so wrong mate . I fucked girls silly from your part of the country . Mind you hb7 minimums
You gotta up your game and become more desirable to do that . Long way to go
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ananyo007 5y ago
I had 3 chicks as FwB, apart from my LTR. One of them wanted to lose her virginity to me. Being from a feminist society (Bengal) helps.
trpboy123 5y ago
You are probably good looking. That would be the only reason why that would happen to you in our country lol
Winterwolf98 5y ago
Move to Bangalore dude. Don't blame the country blame your game.
9gagGod 5y ago
Cultural differences and social norms play a big part whether you like it or not. Many more rural Indians feel dating or interaction with the other sex shod cod be kept to a minimum. People's lives are literally at risk depending on their family structure if they have sex before marriage. Obviously game plays a big part as the upper classes are far easier.
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subthrowaway321 5y ago
Better than in the west when your ltr is fucking everyone and youre an asshole when you kick her to the curb.
Stron2g 5y ago
then she goes to court and takes the kids, house, and car from you
subthrowaway321 5y ago
Judge then denies it so she lodges a false rape accusation at you. So, you end up sitting in federal, pound you in the ass, prison. All because you thought she wasn't like all those "other girls," and was special. You spend eight years in prison doing nothing but lifting weights and meditating, all while taking in as many books as possible, basically going monk mode for a very extended period of time.
Once you get out, your mom asks you all the time why you can't just find a nice girl and settle down. Your family, friends, and all of society, try to shame you for not wanting to ever seriously date, or marry ever again.
Am0rph 5y ago
Hi, long timer lurker here. Hardly ever saw an India post so probably a good time to get in the first post here.
I first got introduced to TRP via an online sports forum and found it interesting so stuck around. But I never get 80-90% of the stuff thrown in here. AWALT I get, Beta/Alpha I get but rest of it is so different between Indian culture & the west that it makes absolutely zero sense to me. The one thing TRP absolutely gets it right and on point is - take care of yourself, lift, look good and be successful.
I am a married guy with kids but with quite a history of dating behind me. A few quick tips -
a. increase your social circle, the more groups you have, the better the chance to meet girls b. this is basic TRP stuff but still - dress well and smell good c. don't try to close it too fast; barring the elite circles in South Del/South Bombay, you're not going to get ONS or sex on the second date. Stick around, girls want a relationship before they will jump in the bed with you d. Better to find girls who are not living with family; so a Mumbaikar working in Bangalore or a Delhiite working in Mumbai with an independent place of her own
Be cautious when approaching women in bars & pubs, unlike the west women don't come to these places alone, 50% of the times they will be with their friends, the other 50% will be with boyfriends. If you have to approach, approach the whole group. I can't count the number of times I have brought entire groups of people (mostly all girls groups but sometimes also groups with guys) to my place for an 'afterparty'. There you can isolate the girl you fancy and since she will feel comfortable with her friends around, things can flow nicely (although no make out or sex will happen, only conversation).
Winterwolf98 5y ago
Sign up for more shit and more classes that girls show up, this gives context to talk, works like charm . I live in the most conservative shit hole (south India).Don't try cold unless you're sure she's alone and is interested in you. India has a good number of Billy betas who are perverts. So being alpha puts you in the map. Work, make money and get the fuck out.
VeTech16 5y ago
Sadly we are very conservative, but we are changing and progressing
suxxos 5y ago
If Indian society is so feminist, why are there so many rapes and murders of women?
Redpillpaint 5y ago
I moved to Canada 8years ago. Whenever there is a rape or murder of women in India. Even though I don't watch news some how I hear it through people.
In these 8 years living in Toronto. One guy raped 12 women near a dark bush bus stop. That's why Ontario come up with a rule at night women can get off where they want. Not that many people knew about it. I hope you don't know about it.
Our media supports feminist and western society want to exaggreate everything happens in other countries. It happens in other parts of the world too.
Men are repressed all over the world. In India it's worse because guys don't get laid through clubs or pubs like western parts. They are virgins till they get married and pop a kid right way become the bread winner.
Am0rph 5y ago
India is a 1.3 billion people country, crimes WILL happen. India sees far fewer sexual assault crime compared to the western world. Depending on which white country you're in, you're 10-15x more likely to get assaulted (Sexual, women) than in India. Don't even get me started on gun violence, drug abuse etc etc. We in India are doing okay, so no thank you for your concern.
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millionairesai 5y ago
Dude I am from India too. What you did was great but you are yet to know about PUAs in india. The best PUA in india according to me is kshitij sehrawat he has a youtube channel called iron man lifestyle. I have been on PUA whatsapp group trust me cold approach works in india all the techniques works except for the claw.
weezylane 5y ago
Idk what claw means but if AWALT is true then so must be pickup. I'll check out his channel :)
Insendi 5y ago
It’s definitely more daunting approaching in India but you gotta remember AWALT. They gonna have tons of LMR and LMR to HB scale isn’t proportional at all but a lot of them are quality women
Theottomanpaki 5y ago
Am I the only one here from Pakistan, the country that is India's best friend?
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Nawaz sharif is surely our friend.
Lib3rtarianSocialist 5y ago
Another one here. Too young to share experience.
naIamgood 5y ago
Pakistani in the states, we are generally better looking than indians so got a slight edge just dont reveal to early that you are/were a muslim.
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universalabundance1 5y ago
You grew a pair and got out of your comfort zone. You've leveled up, congratulations.
Alpha_Jedi 5y ago
One must crawl before they can walk, walk before they can run, and run before they can sprint. It's a building process so keep at it. cheers.
SKRedPill 5y ago
There's no such thing called no-fault divorce yet in India - but in urban areas the divorce rates are increasing and the judicial hell is on another level.
But anyone who thinks it's very conservative haven't been to the colleges.
Theottomanpaki 5y ago
Gaming is different in our part of the world, not impossible. I've been doing cold approach pick up in malls, restaurants, parks etc and have gotten better results here than I did outside of Pakistan. This is coming from an average looking 5'8 guy, granted I don't look like an Indian.
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5'8 is above average in India.
pabloesco6969 5y ago
Bro that’s crazy I mean I know Indian girls.... kudos bro... get them all
OnlyCuriosity 5y ago
feminist society? i thought India had a rape problem and the rapists didn't suffer any consequences
surischmuri 5y ago
Eeek. As if this circlejerk would listen to reason.
Nordskie 5y ago
Well, we just passed death penalty for rape (where victim is under 12). I don’t think you’re aware of what’s going on.
I thought it was the UK where rape gangs get away for free.
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