Don't be like me.
I found TRP in January of this year after catastrophically failing with a gorgeous slut that made every attempt to have sex with me but I felt it was "not right" or "immoral" or truthfully "I was not worthy."
I read and digested everything TRP had to offer from the sidebar to gilded posts to lurking heavily and only finding the best EC posts that resonated with me to read.
I stopped drinking and smoking for 3 months, started lifting, gaming chicks (at work, shitting where I eat but its not like I was eating that much) and felt I was powerfully alive and making changes to my life but so far all I have done is return to my drinking/smoking ways and back to the comfort of betaness.
Being beta isnt just some lifestyle or programming they have indoctrinated you into to. It is the most comfortable and easy way "they" have developed to make you complacent and happy as a normal human being.
They know what you want and need. They know what you truly are and what you spiritually need as well. They don't care to subvert that because they want you to be the best worker and taxpayer and consumer you can be. This is the pinnacle of my problems to overcome.
I don't know how to start my own business (wtf do i sell?) or find meaning in this "brave new world" we live in. I don't know how to convince myself that this time frame we live in has purpose. I don't have to kill/hunt to survive, I don't have to search for a water source to sustain my body, I dont have to lock down a girl/ltr (they hunt me) and I am not sure how to get past all this need for pussy and food and gains and find purpose in it all.
I lost my sales job going door to door selling solar PPAs (you rent the solar but get a lower electrical bill) due to missing quotas, which I was good at but of the 12 deals I closed in 3 months, I only ended up getting 4 paid for, because the other 5 didn't pass credit and the other 3 cancelled for reasons I can not change.
Even so after all this bullshit, TRP carries me on. It is the way I view life now and it is the one that shows results, consistently, if you actually do what the sidebar educates you to do. I don't think now the drinking and smoking was what was holding me back (although I understand it causes changes in the brain and ultimately doesn't solve your problems), it is my own weakness to accept responsibility and truly be the man that I am most proud of.
Do not let your addictions hold you back. I know a shit load of you drink and smoke cigarettes and weed everyday. This is not what is holding you back. It may help to stop these actions to find your sober mind, but it is not an excuse to continue doing what it is you think you want to keep doing. Reddit/TRP is the same. You came here to be some kind of student or came here to lurk and feel like your part of a change, But if you are not actively living in the moment to create that change, then you are just using TRP as something fun to do because it makes you feel rebellious or part of some great counter cause (which is exactly what your life is missing, cause/purpose/meaning).
Reddit and all its cool subs are not the answer, Drinking is not the answer, Smoking cigs/weed/meth is not the answer. These are just catalysts you can use to get out of your normal state of mind but you can not benefit by always trying to live in them.
Learn everything you can and apply theory. An alpha male always tries to push his boundaries and see where the true perimeter of his territory is.
Do your best to change. Everything in life changes. If you are not changing into something else then you are not living.
DVidojkovic 5y ago
This post makes me think about a few topics that have been torturing my mind for some time.
Reading so much stuff and yet implementing so little.
Another thing it made me think is that how I'd read a few stuff about gaming, and it's just fun. I hesitate to import it into my outside life, or if I do I do it in small quantities. I saw somewhere that game should come on it's own, and from living in your frame and maintaining it - which is one of the reasons of why I don't want to dedicate myself to learning/studying game.
Lifting definitely helps you, whether it be starting out your day or just boosting your confidence. Not sure if it's a placebo effect, but after around 1-2 weeks of drinking a protein shake after every workout session I started noticing bumps on my biceps and triceps a lot more.
EDIT: You don't have to keep some strict diet, unless you're got a bloated fucking ass. Cut off fast food, consume protein before your workout session and go to the gym an hour after you've finished your meal.
Ill_Will7 5y ago
Absorb as much info as you can here and then stay off reddit for a time and let it sink in. While also going out into the real world and testing things youve learned.
Youll see progress.
DVidojkovic 5y ago
I feel like I shouldn't be forcing my game and let it come naturally from maintaining frame and not giving it too much attention.
Ill_Will7 5y ago
Either way you want to do it, one thing is certain. You have to start getting in front of girls.
Try small talk, little compliments, going for numbers, etc.
DVidojkovic 5y ago
I've been trying to engage in small talk and the least of kino, for example grab by head and pull to playfully pester, if you get my drift. I've usually had positive results
Demiurge_Decline 5y ago
Hear Ye, Hear Ye,
I have come to believe that everything you do is a habit, addiction, or ritual. For you, me and everyone.
Habits are learned. Addictions are involuntary. Rituals are made of beliefs whether they are real or not.
The key is to make all of the above positive, fulfiilling, and growth producing.
Remove the habits, addictions, or rituals that are negative and replace it with the opposite.
This is Red Pill.
tekn0_ 5y ago
Dude! Succinct and to the point! Thank you
DeontologicalSanders 5y ago
Great post. This does not get talked about enough.
To take it one step further, it is important to realize that every habit can be considered an addiction. Every behavior we habitually engage in is due to the existence of a dopamine feedback loop. The key is whether or not the behavior itself is tangibly constructive or a waste of time.
Example: I lift weights habitually. I feel great when I do it, and ancy and useless when I don't. The feeling of accomplishment at having done the work or hit a new PR is a big part of the reason why I go. But just because it feels good, doesn't make it useful. If it weren't for the tangible positives (muscle mass, endurance, physical strength) that it provides, it would be a giant fucking waste of time.
Reading what TRP has to offer is constructive only if you institute it in your own life to the tune of tangible, measurable improvement. To do it halfway is to be process- instead of outcome-oriented, and maybe the most important aspect of being a man is being responsible for results.
Be a doer, not a thinker.
10211799107 5y ago
I disafree with your viewpoint on lifting. Take my view for instance. I'm TRAINING to become the strongest person I can be at a given bodyweight. A strong body is harder to kill and better equiped at dealing with the odd things that happens in life called sickness, injuries, atrophy due to age and weakness as you age.
Train for the ultimate event in your life which is OLD AGE. Death will catch up to all of us. We cant control predisposition to cancer or unlucky events. But you can control how strong your body becomes.
I'd rather be strong and get cancer for example, than weak and get cancer. The former will make the road to death more bearable than the latter which is weakness and suffering.
DeontologicalSanders 5y ago
You didn't disagree with anything I wrote.
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iamanalterror_ 5y ago
I fucking hate weightlifting now. I don't know how the hell I pushed through it all 3 years when I started, but I don't want to do it anymore.
I dread going to the gym. It's an all-round unpleasant experience. I used to go 3 times a week, and now I go once per week.
Fuck man, I just don't give a shit anymore. I don't care if I do well at all. I've done TRP and it got me to a place, but now I'm bored of it, and am not going anywhere
MrCongeniality1 5y ago
I'm nearing 40 and I used to enjoy going to the gym when I was younger. I got quite ripped and felt really good about it, but things change. I didn't appreciate when I was younger how much your brain, priorities, and motivations will change as you age. I struggle to go to the gym because it's such an artificial activity - work out in a box for 6 hours a week so you can...what? Sure, being generally healthy and capable is a good reason, but you can put a lot of time in working out that feels like a poor return on investment. Having a body that attracts women is fun, but that motivation diminishes a lot faster than most guys realize. Right now, I like to use my body in ways that require strength but gives me something else - even just chopping wood is way more satisfying than lifting heavy weights in the gym. It sounds like a couple of things could be going on for you:
A man needs a mission, but he shouldn't need it to be energized to get off his ass. If you feel that unmotivated, your brain has been fucked by porn, weed, tv/video games, diet, etc. You need to clean the easy pleasures out of your life and let your brain's natural motivation return.
As you clean up you will have more perspective to set yourself toward some goals. I personally think that a man needs to invoke his instincts for building, adventuring, competing, and caring/providing. Find a job that has or is building toward some sense of adventure, invest your money in building something tangible (land, a home, a motorhome, etc.), join a tribe of men where respect has to be earned (gym, martial art, sports, etc), enjoy women on the side without attachment, do not engage in a long-term relationship unless you want to build a family - when you do feel that readiness to build a family (and have real resources to commit to it), telling a woman that you want that is about as alpha as it gets.
gELSK 5y ago
// , There's stuff beyond TRP. Way beyond
SilkTouchm 5y ago
You could try calisthenics.
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Man up, TRP has the toolkit to build you into a good man and can guide you. its up to you to stay stagnant mate, i dont go to the gym YET but i know deep down that exercising and improving myself has more value than just chasing some fuckholes.
DakJev 5y ago
Good post OP. By observing my multiple failed attempts to change, I realized that my brain is not at that level yet. Im just coming out of a severe addiction to league of legends, a website calculated over 260 days of total game time, considering I use the internet even more than LOL, my true addiction is to the computer and the internet itself. The reality is that I have developed literally no sense of discipline in real life due to the brain changing effects of addiction. Now Im taking baby steps, need to learn how to crawl again. We all have our vices, however we need to realize that are inability to cease these vices not only is associated with low will power, but a brain that is impaired due to long term dopamine addictions. Tbh, I’ve stopped buying self improvement books, they are worth shit to me, only because I buy them out of novelty since I crave dopamine after stopping my main addictions. Its all about action, and my brain needs to finally get used to moving!
gELSK 5y ago
// , That's same difficult shit right there.
I struggle with some of that stuff still.
iamanalterror_ 5y ago
What are your baby steps? I struggle with the same thing, and guilt-trip myself every day because I'm not changing.
tekn0_ 5y ago
Baby steps are literally baby steps. What would be the smallest step you can take to bring about that change? Do that exact step. There you go
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That's called INTELLECTUAL MASTURBATION.
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80% action vs 20% theory.
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I'd say that most people myself included fit in to the reverse of that EG 80% theory vs 20% action.
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You need to be tilting the other side.
_Neon_Shadow_ 5y ago
How do I know when I'm no longer participating in self improvement masturbation and actually internalizing RP?
Pillautomas 5y ago
Go do an approach
What did you feel?
There is a lot of aspects of RP. But, that is a good benchmark. Meditation, Reading Classics, Strength performance benchmarks. Mainly in your day to day life. Are you actually in control? Can you feel that irregularity in your breathing when you are reacting to a situation because are not in control of it.
You choose to ReAct. Instead Choose yourself Act. Play the Part. Until you're in control of yourself RP is not internalized. Shame, guilt are attacks to stop you from living the life of your actualized self. Don't stop.
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TheMuslimMGTOW 5y ago
Self-improvement is masturbation.
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Nah, intellectual masturbation is what 'self improvement' through books is. eventually you need to stop theorizing and act.
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iamanalterror_ 5y ago
So you're saying we should do less of it?
What kind of low effort answer is that?
gELSK 5y ago
// , There's more to a man's life than mere self, although that's a good start.
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Dibby 5y ago
So what's your answer there, Tyler Durden, self-destruction?
TheMuslimMGTOW 5y ago
Yes. Just eat those tendies and play your video games while reading TRP.
punchsucker1 5y ago
He means you should be actively working to change yourself, not merely 'improve'
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action speaks louder than words
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GLADmyNAMEaintDICK 5y ago
I really don't know what you're getting at. I know it's a movie quote, but what truth do you actually find in it. I don't see masturbation as self-improvement, which it should be since self-improvement is masturbation according to you.
One requires no effort while the other demands a significant amount of self-control and discipline. Both are rewarding to varying degrees but they are not equivalent, and honestly not even very similar. One is a short high and the other is true lasting fulfillment.
Do you mean that some people merely "improve" to become validated and thus the reward is superficial and built on insecurity, much like masturbation is superficial and often used to relieve the the stresses of life, often built upon insecurity, due to their inability to put in the work and achieve what they actually find intrinsically rewarding?
I'm really just spitballing, I see this quote all the time and it's just vague to me.
TheMuslimMGTOW 5y ago
Your third paragraph pretty much nails it on the head.