Hey everybody. You can probably see my whiney previous posts if you look at my post histories but this one is different. I just came back from my one week backpacker hippie trip and wanted to share my experiences and thoughts.
~little background info~
I live in Dubai (highly pretentious skyscrapers city). Although I lived here for a year (Did approximately 200 approaches in bars/clubs. Matched around 500 girls on tinder. Only went to 8-9 dates and had 0 (zero, none, nilch. No kidding) sex. I look decent, have a decent job/money. I'm smart. But I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I AM DOING WITH WOMEN. I cant get sex here. Probably because of my shitty English (I'm still not comfortable with speaking in english)
~the trip~
The trip lasted 7 days and all was in Goa/India. I stayed at a hostel (mixed rooms) literally in a jungle. People in Goa are pretty much hippie, no fancy clothes, no fancy cars, bars, clubs etc. Everything is simple. A lot of Russian tourists go there. Even though, it was off-season (right after new year's) there were lots of Russian women. But I had no success with them. Approached only 2 girls in a club since I was stoned most of the time.
Being stoned most of the time made me forget all my problems, insecurities, everything related to real world. It wasn't only the weed caused this. In fact all environment in Goa forces you to "Chill". I forgot about TRP, seduction as well. Almost no internet. Zero social media.
Tourists in Goa hire scooters to run from one beach to another. It is ridiculously cheap ($4/day lol). But as a biker, I went for the biggest dirt bike they had (for the interested: brand new KTM Duke 390 and it costed 14$/day).
It might be forgetting every negativity I had in my life, being alone and free with my bike. Not caring about being dirty or clean. About shape of my hair etc was a big relief. I suggest you guys to go to Goa. It really is a different experience. ~the chick~ on my 5th day of trip, a couple and one of their girl friend (all Londoners) checked in the hostel I was staying. We went to a bear drinking competition as hostel guests. I met all the people in the table and started to get to know them lightly. But I didn't try to "pick-up".
The next they this new group said they want to go to the beach x, which I already visited and is my fav. They said they wanna hire scooters and go by scooter but none of them was able to ride a scooter and they decided to go by taxi. I told this girl "I went this beach before and its an hour ride. I loved the journey last time and I wanna do it again. You can join me on my back instead of going by taxi". She got extremely excited and shook her head up-and down furiously. I took her on my back. Held her hands and pulled them to cover me.
The journey took around 2 hours since we got lost on the way. With each wrong turn we took, each direction we asked she loved it more. I intentionally made her get off and go ask for the directions. She was in an adventure. She was having random small giggles during the ride.
After we got to the place, we went to the meeting spot (we were supposed to meet with the other guys at a specific point. None of us had phones). We couldn't find her friends and decided to hangout together. Bad thing is, we bumped into a guy from our hostel and he joined us. I didn't do any move. I took them to a place to have lunch. They loved the food. I took them to a spot to chill. They loved it. I took them to a drum band show on the beach during sunset. They loved it. Finally it was night time and we headed back to the hostel. This guy left us. I pulled my leather jacked out from my backpack and helped her wear it and we started our journey to the hostel. On the way back she was literally squeezing me and pushing herself on my back. I touched her hands on my stomach and her knees on my side couple of times with the excuse of checking if she is feeling cold. The random giggles became more frequent. She was giggling as we pass each hump. When we reached to the hostel the other guys were waiting for us and we were laughing while they were giving the "HEY! WHERE WERE YOU?? WE WERE SO WORRIED ABOUT YOU" talk. I told her "Hey. The journey was cool. Give me a hug". I hugged her and sent her back to her friends. She excitedly told our story. We were tired and we went back to our rooms.
On the third day, we went to the beach all together. She rolled some grass and asked me to go with her on the rocks and smoke. I couldn't wait to finish the smoking. I pulled and kissed her. And then I took her behind the rocks. We made out on the beach for a while.
Me: "Let's get back to the hostel" Her: "Yeah. Let's... Or. I don't knoow..." (a light LMR which I didn't even recognize and try to act against)
she was on me and I pulled her closer. Pushed her cheek against my chest. kissed her again.
Her: "Did you too get horny on the bike yesterday???" Me: "Lol. Let's get on that bike and get horny on the way back to the hostel" Her: "YEAH!"
I took her to a random empty room. I fucked her so well she said "WOW! Gimme hi5" after the orgasm.
That day at night, she also asked to have sex on the bike in public. (Yeah I did it)
~The Question~
at some point after sex, she told me "You are not flirty at all. You are taking yourself too seriously". Well, that remark has no point regarding this FR since I got the sex. But, she is right. (See my previous post "How to flirt?").
I wasn't flirty but I got the sex because I was the cool alpha guy who happened to give her 2 days of great adventure. I can't be this cool guy at home (Dubai). Environment is so different. I don't know anything about how to flirt. What are your suggestions to make me attract chicks back home?
swordfish1985 9y ago
Nice FR, I was in Goa too. Did you by any chance were in hostel with name starts with W? I been there but was not there for more than 3 days so didnt get much time to enjoy.
Zagooda 9y ago
Nope. Actually I started having fun after the first 3 days. Smoking and forgetting about women helped a lot
justbeaman 9y ago
Great FR. Interesting story. And you have no reason to be shy speaking English. You have a better grasp than most English speakers.
Gillzer 9y ago
His written english is very good. However, speaking english can be a much harder task, especially for people with a non germanic first language.
gran_helvetia 9y ago
My thoughts exactly, also I confirm this having a latin language as mother tongue
justbeaman 9y ago
I agree with you. Regardless, still nothing to be shy about. He should just go for it. Dr. Pepper.
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Excellent "date" idea (getting lost on the bike). Good job.
Zagooda 9y ago
Bike dates are -personally- awesome. When you first get on the bike they will be shy to hold onto you and try to find a place to hold on the bike.
Don't say anything. Catch the bitch's hands and make her cover you with her arms firmly. Give her a side-grin over your shoulder while you slapthethrottle-gearitup-turnonthegas.
BOOM.
Don't talk. You already kickstarted the tingles and the vibrations will do the rest.
Take a break after a while to chat, smoke etc. Keep it short and stay around the bike. Let her experience being with a "biker guy".
Disclaimer: I am not a good player. I'm not a player at all. I'm so stupid that I couldn't grasp it after almost a year of lurking. So use my advice accordingly.
Silverbacked 9y ago
One thing you need to work on is your self-esteem, you clearly have "bike game" down pat :) Everyone has a little piece of the puzzle. I've never ridden a motorbike, so this is all good info for me, and for anyone else in the same situation.
Keep working it, don't be too hard on yourself.
Good luck and congrats on getting laid.
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For Dubai you need to figure out your demographics (go to places where you will have a higher SMV than the other guys)
I can't recommend Models by mark manson enough. It's life changing
[deleted] 9y ago
I'm going to India next year. Mumbai and Rajasthan then wherever. Thanks for the recommendation.
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Well I won't be doing drugs so is it worth going?
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WeCantHaveFun 9y ago
Wrong. The reason why is in your text.
Fucking disgusting. I hate it when a bitch does that. Makes me want to double check for a pair.
Always ruins the post-game for me.
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Yeah should've just grabbed that high five hand and pinned it behind her head and gave her a 2nd round
WeCantHaveFun 9y ago
It's so fucking masculine, I can't even get my dick up after something like that.
The shitty thing is that the best lays, those who are noisy, active, and up for anything, are the ones most likely to say manly shit like that. Such a double-edged sword.
Just like how all of the data shows how as a woman's partner count increases, the more masculine she becomes. I pump & dump them because as we all know the second time is never as good as the first, and she has no long term positive expected value.
SeekingTheWay 9y ago
its because high libido is caused by testosterone level and so is masculinity.
HAMMURABl 9y ago
thought exactly the same.. good for op, but personally i wouldnt want to fuck such a girl.
Zagooda 9y ago
Well, man, you know. After a long lasting dry spell you don't care to pump and dump a reasonably hot bitch.
I'd expect just some giggling/smiling and sidling up to me from a girl I really like.
henry589 9y ago
Your writing indicates that you speak English fluently.
ChrismanDC 9y ago
Being a non-native english speaker, I observed that a lot of young people have a certain problem with english. They're being confronted with english constantly via the internet but not getting a whole lot of speaking practice, thus having a high level of knowledge but still a very thick accent. And this can make you have very little confidence in your speaking easily.
DaegobahDan 9y ago
RSD's Tyler makes some great points about this exact topic. Your mission shouldn't be to fuck as many girls as possible. It should be to entertain yourself and have an amazing time for you. Girls sense that vibe and will latch on. You barely have to do any work. That's the true alpha mindset "I don't give a fuck if I can't.....(X/Y/Z) because I am here for me, not you.
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