Summary: Women are good at the sex and relationship game. Better than men. Women are all about having the sex they want with as little investment on their part as possible. But the number one female strategy isn’t spinning plates. It’s serial monogamy. A string of short term relationships that are primarily sexual, with just a little bit of investment to keep the reliable source of quality sex intact, that end as soon as either person finds someone better, gets bored, or gets too needy. Red Pill men often ridicule the idea of a “relationship” as involving too much “investment”, but a relationship may often result in more sex and higher quality sex for less time and energy than acquiring and maintaining plates.
The ideal male sexual strategy, by definition, would be the strategy that enables a man to invest as little as possible while still having the greatest amount of sex and the highest quality sex possible. Essentially, the best “sex-to-investment ratio”. The theoretical ideal would be having to invest zero dollars, zero minutes besides the time you spend actually having sex, zero attention besides the time you’re having sex, zero emotional energy, and so on, while women just fall out of the sky on to your dick and eagerly start fucking.
Obviously, the theoretical ideal doesn’t actually happen in the real world and most Red Pill guys aim for the more practical ideal: Every time you go out looking for casual sex, you find a woman willing to go home and have casual sex with you without wasting too much time, money, or emotional energy, and the woman finds you attractive enough that she’ll continue to have casual sex with you in the future, on request, with only a minimal investment on your part.
Even that more practical ideal doesn’t actually happen that often. No guy meets a woman to take home every single time he goes out, without exception. Even the world’s hottest men sometimes go home alone. And plates break. No woman continues to show up at your residence for casual sex indefinitely. They eventually want more from you or eventually find a boyfriend or eventually find someone else they like fucking better. Which keeps men running out the door every weekend to beat the bushes and meet more women, putting more time and energy into keeping their supply of casual sex going.
A slightly more realistic ideal would be that every man is supposed to find the ideal strategy that works for him - whatever strategy results in him investing as little as he can to get the most sex and the highest quality sex. For some men, that route is not going to be going to bars every weekend, but might be cold approaching women by day, or online dating sites, or his sex-positive friend circles, or even relationships.
A lot of Red Pill guys piss on the idea of having a “relationship” with a woman, because a relationship means you’re “investing” your commitment into a woman. But what is a “relationship”, really? It’s just a verbal agreement to be sexually exclusive with someone else. All it takes to end the relationship is a word. Either you or she can end it at any time for any reason and just walk away. And even though neither one of you is supposed to cheat, cheating happens all the time, and the only consequence of cheating is that the relationship usually ends if the other person finds out.
So does a relationship with a woman really require all that much “investment”? Only if you’re a needy “beta” guy. A “beta” guy who finally scores a relationship with a woman will run around trying to cater to her expectations and keep her happy. He will invest heavily in her because in his world, women who are willing to date and fuck him are hard to come by, and in his mind, he turns any girlfriend he dates into his future wife. He is then extremely hurt and pissed off when she doesn’t end up acting like a good wife, gets turned off by his needy behavior, stops having sex with him, and eventually cheats on him or dumps him. Conversely, an “alpha” guy who enters into a relationship with a woman tends to keep on living his life, fucks this woman most nights, and if the sex ever tapers off or she becomes unpleasant to deal with, he moves on because he has an easy time getting other women. Essentially, an “alpha” guy can objectively look at a relationship situation and make an honest call: is he investing more attention and emotional energy than what this relationship is worth? If so, he can cut the girl loose and move on.
Understandably, some guys prioritize avoiding attachments. For them, investing as little as possible into any woman is more important to them than maximizing the amount of sex they have or maximizing their sex-to-investment ratio. Even if investing a little bit more would get them a lot more sex, their priority is to avoid attachments and investment entirely.
But if you’re a more practical guy and your goal is to have as much sex as possible, and the highest quality sex possible, while putting in as little effort as possible (essentially, the best sex-to-investment ratio), that’s not going to happen going out to bars every weekend trying to meet new women. That’s going to happen with a girlfriend. You see your girlfriend 2-4 times a week, go out for food or drinks or a fun activity, then go home and have sex. Over time, she learns what you like, you learn what she likes, and the sex gets better. After a few months, she probably starts to try to exert some power over you, has less sex, tries to insist that you do various things for her, tries to get you to move in together, and so on. Eventually, the attention and emotional energy she’s taking from you becomes more than the sex is worth. If you’re an attractive guy who can get other women easily, this event usually happens a lot later in the relationship, but if you’re still a work in progress, this tends to happen a lot earlier. But in either case, at that point, you cut her loose and repeat the process with the next girlfriend.
Serial monogamy. It’s what girls do, and it works. If your goal is as little investment as possible, regardless of the actual amount of sex you end up having, stick with plates. But if your goal is the best sex-to-investment ratio that gets you the most and the highest quality sex, don’t piss on the idea of getting yourself a girlfriend. Just approach your relationship with reasonable expectations: Don’t get married. Don’t expect her to act like a good wife or think of her as a possible future wife. She’s not. She’s just the woman you’re having sex with right now. Know what women are like and what to expect, recognize her power plays and shit tests, string things along and enjoy the sex until she’s demanding more investment than she’s worth, then call her bluff: actually dump her and move on. Instead of letting her use your relationship as a tool to lock you down and get you to invest, use your relationship as a tool to get yourself more sex for less investment. Then discard it when it’s no longer doing its job.
As long as you’re getting lots of high quality sex for a little bit of investment, let her think she’s winning. Let her think she’s in control. Just enjoy the sex until she gets a big head and steps out of line, or until you find someone better, then replace her. It’s what women do, and it works.