Wanna see how western society has indoctrinated women. Look at your ex lol. She’s absolutely unhappy that you bring home all the money and despises being a stay at home mom.... which is what TRP says to do if you want a healthy relationship.

Victim mindset, she could’ve done research “why do I feel like this”?, could’ve started a business at home to work on while with the kids and sell stuff out of the house, etc.

Dude, I just found this clip from Bill Burr and it’s a perfect fuckin fit to my story:

https://youtu.be/d3hnbJK3-4g

Even Bill doesn’t know what to do

Dude, you shoulda broke your bitch down like a pimp. Then nexted her if she acted up. Firmly told her to stay at home and take care of the kids as her #1 priority, and if she does that well, then she earns the ability to have a career, as long as the kids and house and YOU are taken care of FIRST. Remind her how damn important her role is. She is basically holding down the fort while you go out and collect resources. AND shes raising a couple kids into full grown adults at the same time, AND keeping your belly full and your balls empty!! Thats so important! Praise her for her good efforts every day (positive reinforcement), and appreciate her. If she does something wrong, just encourage her to do the right thing, and reward her when she does the right thing. If she doesnt agree to this then next the bitch.

Don't get married. Don't have kids.

It is this easy.

she suspects him of being asexual or something, because he's got such a low sex drive.

I knew a couple just like that. The husband even bought a house with one of his wives toys. Moved in a second one, three guys, because the husband was "asexual."

Turns out, as soon as a gal came by, that valued him, he had a sex drive. He left, moved across the country, and had a baby boy, with a new life entirely.

Its an extreme beta mode. Denouncing your sex drive for a relationship. The dude probably really has a sex drive, but thinks she isn't really interested in him, so plays this grey area of relationship/gay-best-friend.

He's getting a replacement mother in exchange for his balls.

Big red flag is someone who “struggles to find full time employment”

Just know that she’s saying shit behind your back to the children causing them to hate you, mostly your daughter for most likely do the rest of her life and your son probably depending on if he starts thinking with logical rather than emotion.

Did you dna test those kids?

Wow... I didn't expect this kind of a response, I'm shocked! I know 70 upvotes on Reddit is child's play, but it means a lot to me, so thanks guys!

Just thought I'd throw out a few follow-up details about my situation, in case anyone was interested: We actually separated in the summer of 2016. A year earlier in 2015 I had gotten a vasectomy. She refused to get her tubes tied and we sure as shit weren't going to have any more kids. In retrospect, it was the best decision I ever made. I can rest easy now knowing that I'll never be able to fall into the baby trap again!

However, at the time I was a fucking wreck. For about two months straight I'd spend my time at work scouring the internet for apartments. I'd literally sit there some days on the verge of bursting out in tears wondering what the fuck I was going to do next. Living in a foreign country meant I couldn't just go home so I had to find a place for myself. I couldn't really rely on any of my friends, since they were mostly friends-through-her, because I never had a social life here in Germany outside of the context of being with her. In the end I found what's basically a perfect bachelor pad: about 645 ft² (60m² for us here in Europe) for a pretty decent price. It's split maybe 60/40 into two rooms.

My bedroom is absolutely massive. I have a giant boxspring bed that's comfortable to sleep in and rock-solid to fuck in. My living room is also nicely sized and has wide open space and a small kitchen with a bar on one wall.

Shortly after moving out in September 2016, I started going to the gym, which made me feel better, but shit was so chaotic with my financial situation that I had to go full-on austerity, which meant cutting all extraneous expenditures, including my gym membership.

Now that things are stabilized and I actually kinda feel bad for just vegging out at home, I may reactivate it, but I may start out slow with a regimen of push-ups, sit ups and jogging to get myself into that kind of mindset. I hate gyms and I hate working out, but I realized today that I could probably hack my laziness by thinking of it this way: I work 8 hours a day for The Man and have the rest of the day off. Maybe if I dedicate 1-1.5 hours for working for/on myself, I could find the proper motivation.

I'm finally free to do the things I want to do. I've gotten into drone photography and I already have a piece of my own hanging on my wall. I bought a digital piano and I'm going to start taking formal piano lessons. These are all things I felt I could never do as the live-in errand-boy for my ex.

> I was doing better than ever in my career, but she was at home juggling the kids and trying to simultaneously fulfill her desire to be the strong career woman she's been told to be.

cuz that's more important than the kids. Your choice is disgusting.

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Enjoy it man. I have a different storyline but a lot of similarities. Two kids. Left my ex after 11 years at age 37. I had nothing left in the tank.

Good post, thanks for sharing. I'm so happy I found this place in my 20's and can avoid making the same mistake you made. Good for you for getting out of the marriage and improving your life.

you should make a paternity test for both your kids

but she suspects him of being asexual or something, because he's got such a low sex drive

AWALT, a cheating woman will always find fault with her husbands sexuality. i've had married plates tell me their husbands are gay. it's all about shifting the blame and sparring the feelz

The word ‘cuck’ gets used a lot lately. Many people have taken a try at describing the phenomenon, but I think all existing descriptions of ‘cuck’ miss why the point and the power of the word. They miss why ‘cuck’ is not merely a modern ‘faggot’ or ‘hippy,’ but actually something much stronger. The perfect description for a modern epidemic that is destroying our nations, our societies, and our souls.

To understand why ‘cuck’ is so powerful, we need to understand its origins and literal meaning. The word cuck is a short for cuckold, which is a man whose wife is cheating on him. More specifically, in modern usage, a cuckold is a man who KNOWINGLY ALLOWS his wife to cheat on him – either because he gains pleasure from it or because he is too weak or cowardly to stop it. But this is not the original source of ‘cuck,’ nor the one that best describes why ‘cuck’ is the perfect description for the modern age.

The term cuckold itself comes from the cuckoo bird: a bird that is a brood parasite. The cuckoo bird lays its eggs in the nests of other birds. Once the egg hatches, the young cuckoo will swiftly destroy or eat most or all of the nest’s original inhabitants. The parents of these murdered young who come back to a nest with a baby cuckoo in it will ignore the carnage, and dutifully raise the young cuckoo as if it is their own chick. Indeed, because cuckoos are often much larger than the birds whose nests they parasitize, it is possible for cucked parents to literally starve as they struggle to provide for the murderer of their real children.

In both cases, human and bird, we have a subject which has utterly abandoned the self-interest of itself and of its kin in the favor of others – often the very others who have wronged them.

You may wonder: why do cucked birds not fight back, or abandon the cuckoo? There are many reasons. Some birds seem to genuinely be unable to tell that the cuckoo is, in fact, not their own. You might think this would be a uniquely avian feature – but see human ‘cucks’ who seem completely unable to differentiate between foreigners and their own kith and kin when deciding who is deserving of aid and alliance.

Other birds are aware of the dangers cuckoo’s pose, and will try to destroy cuckoo eggs and chicks when they find them in their nests. Cuckoo birds have a strategy for dealing with this, however. Although cuckoo birds refuse to raise their own young, they are not above providing some amount of parental protection. When they find that one of their eggs has been removed from a nest they have parasitized, they immediately destroy the entire nest, and attack the smaller parents, often killing them. With such a threat hanging over their heads, it’s little wonder that small birds so strenuously provide for the cuckoo in their midst. And after all, sometimes a young cuckoo might leave one or two of the original brood alive. Imagine those young birds for a moment. Aren’t those young birds lucky to be so culturally enriched as to have a kind cuckoo brother in their nest? And although the cuckoo will take the lion’s share of the food and space in the nest, those other birds really shouldn’t be so selfish. After all, it’s not like cuckoos can build nests of their own!

In this context, it is easy to see just why ‘cuck’ is absolutely appropriate to a certain breed of today’s politicians. A cuck politician is a cuck when he or she takes pleasure in his nation’s people being cheated on. He gains political standing and a sense of moral superiority when he allows poor little cuckoo birds to roost in his nations cities and towns. A cuck politician is also a cuck because he knows that if he were ever to act against the cuckoos in his midst, he would invite disaster. Riots, terrorism, beheadings… And, of course, the approbation of his fellows cucks. Much better, in the mind of the cuck, to appease the cuckoo birds. Sure, a few of his own people might end up devoured or pushed out of the nest. But, better that than to have the nest destroyed entirely, right?

Let’s go back to nature, briefly. You may wonder if birds have any other defenses against the cuckoo menace, or if they are doomed to always raise the offspring of their enemy. In fact, they do. Some species of birds, when they discover an adult cuckoo, will form a swarm and drive the bird away or kill it. For the cuckoo is, though large, ultimately a parasite. The amount of cuckoos in a given area can never grow larger than the number of birds which it parasitizes, for the cuckoo is incapable of raising its own young.

In this context, again, we see a remarkable analogy between the modern situation and the natural world. The cuckoo nations – and let’s not pretend we don’t know who these nations are – are incapable of building their own power, or raising their own strength. The cuckoo nations will never, inside their own borders, build empires and armies and technological wonders which dwarf the rest of the world. The best they can do is to attempt to take these things from others, when they find them. And yet, the cuckoo must rely on stealth and subterfuge most of the time, for it ultimately is weaker than those it parasitizes.

See how the cuckoo operates. When it cannot win by force, it uses subterfuge. ‘Islam is a religion of peace.’ ‘Diversity is strength.’ ‘We are just like you.’ And the cuck believes them, and embraces its own destruction. For once the cuckoo gains strength, and no longer needs the cuckold, it immediately turns on them. The human cuckoos hold own hand out in supplication, while holding in their other hand a machete. Although they could never defeat the West in a straight fight, they do not have to. Merely the threat is sufficient, when a nation is run by cucks.

And our nations ARE run by cucks. Let there be no doubt about it. Cucks in both senses of the word: they refuse to recognize their enemy, and they can great pleasure in siding with him against their own countrymen. You can recognize a cuck through their signatures, ‘All people are the same, we should endeavor to help foreigners just as much as our own people.’ ‘It’s unfair for us to have so much, and them to have so little. Let us take all we have built and give it to those who have built nothing.’ This is the cuckoldry of nations, and is what is meant when a politician is called a ‘cuck.’ Elect a cuck at your peril.

But cuckoldry in the modern world goes far beyond immigration politics. Cuckoldry has become an entire mindset. The modern cuck is not a cuck only in one circumstance, but in ALL circumstances. When the modern cuck has to choose between foreigners and his countrymen, he chooses the foreigners. When the modern cuck has to choose between his race and another, he chooses the other. When the modern male cuck has to choose between men and women, he chooses women. When the modern cuck has to choose between his family and strangers, he chooses strangers. And, (of course!), when the cuck has to choose between himself and a stranger when it comes to fucking his partner, the cuck chooses the stranger!

So much of your post is about her. What she did and didn't do during the marriage, what she is doing now. At the very least, she is still occupying way too much of your mental real estate.

Your description of the failure of the marriage is all about her. Nothing about what YOU did (and didn't do) to cause the failure. Were you leading her and gaming her? Were you dominant, attractive, physically fit? Or were you a fat, boring beta who got home and flopped in front of the TV? The reason it is important to analyze your behavior and understand your mistakes is that if you don't, you'll fall into the same behaviors and make the same mistakes again with your new woman.

What are your lifts now?

Have u started reading the side bar?

Be the best Dad you can be in this situation.

No bad mouthing the 34 y/o mom who has needs.

Women will fall all over you, and keep falling over you.

That is not a bad thing.

I am in a similar situation with a few tweaks. I am turning 40 next month and my kids are a bit older. I was actually the one that cheated after she went ice cold sexually as she retreated into full-time mommy mode. The girls were just sugar baby types with no commitment, you wife messed up by getting emotional. Rather than wanting to work, she simply refused to work. I still paid for maids and daycare while she sat on her ass watching reality TV and messing with social media trying to project an amazing life. As I have learned, women will do as little as you will let them get away with.

As upset as I am about the 15 year marriage where I made so many blue pill, "nice guy" mistakes from start to finish. As bad as it sucks to pay huge amounts of child support and alimony, I am thrilled it is over. I cannot even explain how free I feel. My kids love seeing me without a nagging woman around, we have a blast. My only regret is not pulling the plug 5 years ago. Strangely enough. When I changed my mindset, grew a backbone and started putting myself first and working on myself... my ex-wife started pulling out all of the stops sexually. I got a vasectomy without telling her. Pretty sure she was trying to get pregnant to entrap me. I would get rough and talk brutally dirty to her and she loved it and will still come around every 6 weeks when she needs to get turned out. I realized I failed the relationship by being too nice and not having a backbone from the start. I was the stereotypical "nice guy beta", raised by a single mom with only aunts and no real men around. I was a D1 athlete and looked the part of an alpha but internally I was the nice, gentle guy I was raised to be.

The cultural disdain for the SAHM is such a shame. It's effectively emotionally disarming children before they have a chance to be properly socialized and nurtured. Any married men reading this who are attempting the dual income with kids thing be warned. It's not in your favor. You've actually double fucked yourself by first marrying and then buying into the whole career woman crap. If they spend most of their time around coworkers, you'll naturally be a lower priority. You won't have enough time with each other and they'll be easy prey for men that do have the time.

My son was born in 2010. For the next few years I actually started to hate coming home, largely because when I did, I'd get the screaming baby shoved in my face, as if she were saying to me "now you can finally do something useful today!"

This is very common. I think this is why.

Indeed, he is her new footstool — not that she would get more than that to "commit" (read: to let her use him).

Before the days of reddit, I would go to a bar and hear these stories from old men. Made me the never married, successful, stress free dude I am today.