No. Do not open your post like this. We don't care. If you have RP advice to give, give it. Men are welcome to post here but you will not get man points. Stop it.
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No. Do not open your post like this. We don't care. If you have RP advice to give, give it. Men are welcome to post here but you will not get man points. Stop it.
Created By LuckyLittleStar
This community was created as a harbor for RP minded women whose goal is to build a lasting and happy relationship with a great man.
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cxj 8y ago
I have done this before and I am sorry. Please accept my apology.
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HappySnowGirl 8y ago
For the love of Pete - thank you. When I read, "Man here", my reading brain immediately starts to blah, blah, blah and I just skip to the next comment.
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marty2k 8y ago
Seriously. Women giving you dating advice is why you ended up here in the first place. You don't need women coddling you to become a man.
windlabyrinth 9y ago
Fish here, I agree.
gcubed 8y ago
What's asking the fish? Did I just do it?
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gcubed 8y ago
Ha, that's great...wise words indeed. Thanks
freebumblebee 8y ago
Relatedly, don't ask the fisherman how to avoid the hook. Talk to your fish buddies. That's why this place is here.
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fish buddies hahaha
Aine_of_knockaine 8y ago
Fish are friends. NOT food.
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i loving the nemo references
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[deleted] 8y ago
hahahaha. the school of fishies.
Kikuhoshi 8y ago
Burble burble :)
VarsitySlutTeamCpt 8y ago
You can also get a flair
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i like ur username
scallopkid 8y ago
Every time I read "man here" or even worse, "male invader," all I see is fedora.
thedude122487 8y ago
I see a giant neckbeard. It always earns them an automatic downvote from me, no matter how good the rest of the post is.
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scallopkid 8y ago
????
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The only thing that matters is the content of the advice being given - not the gender of the person giving said advice.
Women aren't allowed to 'snowflake' on TRP, men are held to the same standard here. Give relevant input. Comments need to succeed (or fail) based on their own merit.
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[deleted] 8y ago
We aren't here to be taught by you. read the welcome message.
It will change because your posts will be removed and you will be banned
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Oh. No. Please don't go
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StingrayVC 8y ago
Go spout someplace else.
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StingrayVC 8y ago
Dear God, thank you.
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Aerobus 8y ago
Thanks, it was pissing me off.
divorcedbp 8y ago
Is the proper response 'Dick or GTFO'?
I see this as the equivalent of the maxim that says 'you don't get bonus points for your argument on the internet if you add "I'm a girl" to it'
What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
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tintedlipbalm 9y ago
Thank you so much for this post, I don't know why lately this sub seems more plagued with posts like that.
Leopardcake 8y ago
I got downvoted to hell one time when the "women don't exist on the internet" rule went into play on TRP and all related subs and I hadn't realized (since I was really only a lurker/casual poster at the time and didn't notice the rule change), then when I saw someone doing an "as a man" post I asked of that was allowed in RPW or if the rule applied to men in women spaces too. I'm glad it's finally being called out officially now.
freebumblebee 8y ago
I know this will sound negative, but it's been kind of annoying to me lately. I lurked here for awhile and only started posting recently, so I'm not sure I have right to complain. But I joined because I wanted to find a non-religious forum where I could talk to people, women especially, about traditional relationships, how to improve SMV and girl game, etc. And it seems like most people here are men, talking down to women about how much women and LTRs suck. I'm well aware of the risks of marriage for men, but I'm a little annoyed having to defend the basic premise of this sub every time I make a comment. I thought we were all here for similar reasons, not to antagonize each other.
SkylarWyte 8y ago
I couldn't have said it better myself. I'm also a long time lurker/recent poster, so hello :0)
I'm so sorry for the men who make bad choices in the women they marry, just like I am for the women who make bad choices in the men they marry, but we're not here to listen to men talk about their issues. There is a whole sub for that! I personally also really don't enjoy listening to men talk about how ever having an LTR or marriage is a suckers game because my husband is not a sucker, thankyouverymuch. But that might be my own personal issue. Perhaps other women do like to hear that perspective if they are the type who are into having uncommitted sexual relationship themselves.... but then, are those types of women really even here?
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Exactly, thank you. Come to the irc
freebumblebee 8y ago
Oh my god that looks perfect. Thanks for the tip!
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If you don't come visit me ill have a sad. Do you want that?? I know you don't.
tintedlipbalm 8y ago
I absolutely know the feeling and agree, and this is why I really appreciate the mods here. A while ago, every week the sub got like 4 threads like "How do I find a RPW?" "As a man, thank you ladies!" It was so cringing but the mods do an excellent job to keep this place as clean as possible.
Even though there were "as a man" posts here and there, I do think it had exacerbated these days which is why this post was needed. If you encounter a poster that is being anti LTR and antagonistic again please do report it, that is not a RPW stance and I'm sure the mods will handle it
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Why haven't you come to the irc yet, jerk
tintedlipbalm 8y ago
Lol, I will go when I am ready :P chat intimidates me.
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You can come lurk til you're comfortable
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because MRP thinks they are an LOL "council of captains" and theyve been coming here lately to school the little ladies. Feel free to vomit quietly in the corner
iceberg100 8y ago
What's MRP?
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/r/marriedredpill
CrazyHorseInvincible 8y ago
Perhaps it's stepped up lately because they got their asses handed to them in TRP when they tried to claim marriage was "Red Pill on Hard Mode" (cue sound of chest thumping).
TheTerrorSquad 8y ago
Stand back the Male Invaders are here
HappySnowGirl 8y ago
MRP = the blind leading the blind, but dang is it ever entertaining to lurk there.
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MRP=the gross leading the verbose
DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
No. I think people feel like offering a different perspective can be helpful, because the sexes are different and a sub dedicated to attracting men could benefit from hearing from men.
I wouldn't read anymore into it than that.
And personally I'd really appreciate more women's perspectives over at TRP as well.
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katiemonster 8y ago
FWIW, I don't see the issue with starting posts with "man here," either. Personally I like hearing from the men, and I find it useful to not have to play detective to figure out what perspective the poster is coming from. I think most of the guys who do it are probably just trying to make it clear that they're giving a male perspective rather than the usual female one, since this is mostly a female sub. I'd probably do the same thing if I posted on TRP. (Although it sounds like maybe most of the guys don't like that?)
It does sound like we've been getting some inappropriate posts here recently that had to be deleted (I'm only here on and off, so I haven't seen them), which I think is mostly what people are unhappy with.
tintedlipbalm 8y ago
Don't you think a mod would know more than a random observer about where the influx came from?
This place is primarily for like-minded women. Men are welcome as long as they respect the rules and what this sub is about.
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Go read twox and askwomen then.
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tintedlipbalm 8y ago
She didn't tell you that for defending male input, she told you that because you said
This is not about female or male perspectives, this is just about the recent increase in men starting their posts with "Man here" and acting like that gives them more cred
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There is no men's and women different RP perspective. This is a place for the RP perspective
DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
Men and women having different perspectives on the world and relationships is a fundamental part of RP. We're different. We want different things. Of course we're like minded but that doesn't mean we can't offer each other different insight. It's a good thing.
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Did you see where the welcome message said "like minded women"? We aren't feminists and have no desire to ban men or make a "safe space for women" whatever that is, but there is literally no place on earth nonreligious women who think like us can congregate. Is it too much to ask for the men who do post not to make us want to throw up and leave?
DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
I agree, and I don't think you should be made to feel that way. That's really why I wanted say that a lot of these guys who are volunteering a male opinion aren't necessarily trying to condescend or be jerks to you.
Some certainly are, of course, but they are clearly assholes, others are just trying to help.
neiti 8y ago
I am glad this "male here" issue is being addressed, since it has been bothering me too. Sometimes guys will post something that contributes nothing to the conversation and it feels like they're doing it just because saying their opinion makes them feel important and maybe they want attention for being men in a girl sub. Sometimes it'll be something that compliments the women here and I don't want this sub to be filled with men stroking our egos. That's toxic. This thread is definitely not hostile towards men like you previously stated. I for one appreciate male posters a lot when they have something meaningful to say about topics they know something about and I'm sure others here feel the same way.
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Microfuzz 8y ago
This is hilarious.
DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
I can understand that. This thread just rubbed me the wrong way as it seemed rather hostile toward male posters.
Personally I like coming to and particapting in RPW because as much as I appreciate what I've learned from TRP, there's only so many "Guy finds prudish wife's college gang bang tape in attic" threads I can read before wanting to shoot myself. So its nice to come over here and see that not all women are openly hostile toward men (cue this thread haha). Its also why I said TRP could use more female input every once in a while.
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DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
Hmm, good point, makes me wonder what kind of crazy comments get removed from TRP, haha.
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I was a mod for asktrp, the trolling was atrocious
DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
Lol, I can only imagine.
tintedlipbalm 8y ago
Quite honestly, many female posters noticed how the type of posts the OP talks about were taking over the discussion here, and are thankful this is being addressed. This may inconvenience some male posters at first, but if they enjoy their stay at RPW they will be happy to modify their posting style a bit to keep it focused.
No one is saying men shouldn't post. If the advice is solid, there's really no need to preface it. It's not about hostility, it's about focus. RPW are interested in how our relationship is with our men, or how to get a good man, it's not about being pleasant to every male commenter on the sub.
DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
Thats understandable, but the two aren't mutually exclusive.
tintedlipbalm 8y ago
They aren't, but still it seems it rubbed you the wrong way that certain kind of posts are explicitly not welcome and somehow this is hostile to men here in general?
I am pretty sure this is just a misunderstanding in your part, because you're not even one of the offenders. So you don't see anything wrong because you haven't done anything inappropriate. Keep posting like you normally do and there will be no issue.
DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
No, I do get the need to deal with assholes, my origininal post was to point out that a poster opening his post by indicating that he was offering a male point of view in a female centric forum didn't necessarily mean that he was being a condescending prick.
I've seen plenty of posts that started with that opener that had reasonable, inoffensive advice, so I took issue with those being painted with that same brush and didn't want people to misread the intentions of honest posters trying to offer helpful advice as assholes just because they prefaced their post with the fact they were male.
Aine_of_knockaine 8y ago
The thing is think about it this way. Very often any woman who posts "woman here..." in TRP is looking for some form of attention regardless of whether or not the quality of the post is on point. It's an attention grab. The same is believed of men here. If you have good advice you have good advice. There isn't a need to qualify that advice with your gender.
tintedlipbalm 8y ago
Still an annoying type of post to read, if you ask me. Seriously, it sucks to come to RPW to read a bunch of "Man here" everywhere.
You're still implicitly arguing about what you want of this community personally, but keep in mind you're not quite the target demographic.
MorePancakes 9y ago
But I want my man points.... /s
Temuzjin 8y ago
Alright, will do.
Microfuzz 8y ago
I appreciate it when men and women point out their gender in TRP sub comments. Part of what`s interesting about the discussions is that is often revealed that men and women can have different perspectives on identical situations, so I think it's wrong to pretend all comments are equal.
jade_cat 8y ago
I don't know about TRP, but in RPW there is a flair for men.
am_i_a_unicorn 8y ago
And another excellent reason why I love this place.
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SkylarWyte 8y ago
Thank you! Men coming in here and explicitly describing sexual acts is one of the things that makes me feel uncomfortable posting sometimes. I don't want to read posts to me from, or talk to, men about their sex lives. I think it's inappropriate. So does my husband. I am really happy to hear women talk about sex from there perspective but there is something more sexual about a man coming to tell a bunch of women what he did in bed. I don't want ANY sexual interactions with other men, and here seems like it should really be a safe space from that but lately.... not so much.
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Lolol
Lok_Die 8y ago
Considering those guys who write erotica and sell it on amazon easily make 50-100k a book... Might be a good idea.
balancespec2 8y ago
Hold the fuck on..... I've been told by thousands that I'm a Talented writer and that I have a deep sexy voice.... is there actually real money in that???
If so I will totally write some shit and then narrate it.
Lok_Die 8y ago
Of course there's money there
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TempestTcup 9y ago
Yeah - I was considering starting to write sci-fi young adult bodice rippers just for retirement cash :)
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Freaking thank you! That post the other day really didnt belong here.
We all know the one.
eatplaycrush 8y ago
This "man here" stuff only makes you look like a beta anyway. If you're a serious male contributer get flair and let that be that.
LadyKitten 8y ago
I was going to say - I like knowing when it's a male post instead of a female, because as we all know sometimes that advice is distorted by the different ways genders perceive things. But you covered that by suggesting they actually get the flair :D
eatplaycrush 8y ago
If they didn't put "man here" I am fairly certain we would still be able to tell the difference between female and male comments. They write differently and often times they also include things about their women or about how they would look at the man's position which already shows that they are a male. There is no reason to point it out because frankly, I do not care if you are a male or female as long as the advice is RP driven. It isn't as if RP theory for men and women are polar opposites, despite the fact we focus on LTR/Marriage while TRP has an influx of focusing on plates. If you're posting on RPW then the comments should already be driven by LTR/Marriage thoughts and views, if you want to post about other things then go to TRP or one of their accessory subs.
The male flair should be given when that male proves they understand this sub is focused on LTR/Marriage and they can give solid advice from their side. I am pretty sure that is already how it works anyway because I know the mods here don't give credit where credit isn't due.
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There's nothing wrong with being a man and participating here, the RPW sub should have RPW relevant advice, just as TRP should have TRP relevant advice - the gender of the poster is secondary to the content of the actual advice being given and shouldn't be highlighted. TRP doesn't want women to 'attention grab' and any statements of 'I'm a woman' are permitted only within a very narrow context, the same should hold true here. The first step of giving RP advice is understanding who it is for (men and women are different and have different goals and focuses). Men telling women to be plates for example, is not an appropriate suggestion on this sub, because the ladies here are interested in LTRs and Marriage only.
There are many effective male users on this sub that understand the goals of RPW and give relevant RP advice that is beneficial and useful to the users here. You can be a dolphin for all I care - if your advice is solid, that's the only thing that matters.
This really shouldn't be a controversial idea, and no, we aren't 'shaming' any male users or telling them to stop commenting. Just understand where the similarities and differences are between RP male priorities and RP female priorities.
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Great response!
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LTRs and Marriage are the only Red Pill dating strategy for women.
From the side-bar:
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The fact that you didn't know the answer to this question means you need to actually read the sidebar. LTRs/Marriage, and self improvement are the only things we talk about.
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The answers to all your questions are stated in the side-bar.
Sleeping around is detrimental to a woman's value. Again this is RP 101.
Read the sidebar and do not offer advice on this sub unless you know it is RPW relevant (I've had to remove several of your comments already). This is your only warning.
We need knowledgeable users offering insights and opinions, not people that are surprised to learn very simple RP ideas. Please, at least read the effing F.A.Q.
DerAmazingDom 8y ago
I'm not so sure about that, though
It seems to me that they'd give that kind of introduction to just shed some light on their perspective, and where they may be coming from
Of course, I may be wrong
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You are. Plenty of men just post RP advice, even that contains indication they are male in it, without this intro. It is there for a reason
frozen_strawberry 8y ago
can we have the same rule here they have over at TRP where when you mention your gender you get banned?
CrazyHorseInvincible 8y ago
That rule has some specific text accompanying it:
The reason we wrote it isn't to make the sex of the poster a "don't ask, don't tell" phenomenon. It's to give us something to invoke when someone tries to use her vagina-ownership to "snowflake" or grab attention.
Similarly, saying here that one is a man could be a similar phenomenon. However, I have also seen it as a disclaimer, on the order of "hey, fish here, not fisherman, take this with a grain of salt".
frozen_strawberry 8y ago
Yeah but that's exactly what I meant. It's just been annoying lately, feels like most comments here come from men and they always start with man here..
Lok_Die 8y ago
Gender has its place in dispensing advice and information.
However attention grabbing is useless and counter productive.
frozen_strawberry 8y ago
mentioning your gender here or over at TRP is usually attention grabbing though.
Lok_Die 8y ago
Thus why mods exist, lover.
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jade_cat 8y ago
There already is a flair for men, but they have to manually ask for it.
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TBH, I actually like when men start with "Man here.." in SOME instances... particularly for those posts relating to wondering about a man's behaviour/opinions/etc.
Sometimes it's nice to hear a reply from "the source" -- in addition to from other RPW :)
bicepsblastingstud 8y ago
There are rare instances in which it's helpful to announce gender. Generally, these occasions occur when someone is trying to explain how they personally would feel about something.
However, mostly it happens with posters who insist on talking about how "alpha"/successful/desirable they are. These posts are garbage.
An example:
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throwaway_groupie 8y ago
This sub is also theoretically full of women who will behave like they're supposed to- so the scared beta men come here to talk to us instead of going out in the real world to hunt one down IRL.
freebumblebee 8y ago
Wifey and hubby are two of my least favorite words in the English language. If they can be considered words.
TheGurw 8y ago
"Husby"
shudder
abdada 8y ago
Hubby rhymes with schlubby.
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RPSigmaStigma 8y ago
Is "trans-toaster here" ok? As a trans-toaster, I think it's highly relevant that I receive Internet points for being one.
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Let your advice stand on its own merit. Same reason TRP doesn't want women saying "female here" on the main sub.
tintedlipbalm 9y ago
The majority of times you can gather contextually when a commenter is male, no need to point it out in every single post. It is rather annoying and fills this sub with "man here" opinions. As long as you give RPW appropriate advice, it really doesn't matter. You may like it when someone at TRP stars "Female here/As a female" but it's actually frowned upon over there.
TempestTcup 9y ago
Men and women generally write differently, so we will be able to tell your gender by the way you write.
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Your opinion wasn't solicited. man here posts will be removed, repeat offenders will be banned
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Nobody asked for your input
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There is RP advice and non RP advice. The sex of the person proffering it irrelevant
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