I work in a male dominated profession and a lot of times I get so upset about a man undermining me or sexualising me because I'm female ... But then I remember, most men I work with are actually really patient and respectful. It's just the bad ones that stick out. I love the way they always want to share their knowledge to me. Some might call this mansplaining, but I'd drive myself crazy if I concerned myself with that. There's either condescending or polite - for both sexes. And I love men who know how to work with their hands so I'm genuinely interested in listening to them.

Edit: the men I refer to here in this comment are men on the construction/building sites, not at the office.

Well, I was complaining about my super heavy period to my boyfriend (I just got the copper IUD and this is my first period with it… not fun). I told him I’ve bled through multiple pairs of period panties, cheap ones from amazon, not meant for heavy flow apparently. He said “send me a link to the period panties you want” and bought them for me.

I didn’t expect that. I was just venting. It was really nice of him.

Also, I recently bought a bike rack for the back of my car and I had NO idea how to put it together, so the guy at the store who helped me find it - who was super helpful btw, I didn’t even know what kind I wanted, I wasn’t even sure I could buy one there - helped me assemble it and secure it to my car. I greatly appreciated that.

When we show submission and softness, almost all men will treat you kindly. Of course there are exceptions to the rule.

But men always seem eager to help. They love solving our problems. I think this is sooo sweet!

Late to the party but I love this! My boyfriend bought me lunch today and a random guy on the street complimented me (non cat call esque) by telling me I had on a really pretty dress.

When I was 11 years old I was being deliberately followed by a creepy adult man. When I tried to walk past him he stood in the middle of the street so I couldn't. I ran in the opposite direction and hid in a shop doorway. An older indian man and a man with red hair approached me and saw that I looked distressed. They both walked me back to my house and made sure I was OK.

I had a guy offer to pay for my bus fare when my bus pass wasn't working (it actually had no money but I didn't think that), but I refused because it wasn't convenient (I needed to take two buses and then come back) and went out of the bus to go home. But, I appreciated his gesture. Also, I lost my student card walking home and a man called me saying he found it. I was so grateful for that.

I think it's awful to see that good men aren't appreciated enough and they're all painted as rapists, this and that bad thing, etc.

My boss asking me if I was alright. I’ve been extremely stressed out and feeling worse about it since no one seemed to notice. He took me aside and told me he’s here for me. I almost cried

The other day I was talking to my female coworker while waiting for my husband to pick me up for an impromptu doctor visit, which was due to the fact that I had a sudden hole in my vision and felt like I might faint. A guy who works in the office next to where I was came over and said he overheard me talking and offered to help me walk out to my husband if I wasn’t feeling well. Was super nice of him. Never spoken to him before or after.

A random guy helped to hoist my heavy luggage off the immigration checkpoint platform and I didn’t even get to thank him because he just grabbed his luggage and left after that swift act. I was surprised because I’m not the type of girl who usually have pretty privilege.

I don't have much experience with men outside, I'm still young but I have seen boys in my college become men when we needed them.

Once we were traveling together in train, we were like 7 girls and 8 boys, so the guys took care of taking tickets, making sure we girls had comfortable seats, also when the train was crowded they even stood in front of us to make sure we don't feel uncomfortable near strangers.

This experience really made me respect men around me so much, even tho they are young but I know if anything, they will be there to protect us.

I was too shy to actually thank them.. but I was really grateful for their gestures.

Thank you so much. People like you give myself and many others some much-needed hope.

EDIT: VERY much-needed, as I've just been banned from a subreddit for so much as leaving a comment here.

Well this didn't happen today, but I'll mention it anyway. I was crying silently at work during my break, by myself, just overwhelmed by work related things. A male coworker was on a trajectory to his locker, saw my face, stopped walking and asked "Are you crying?" He was due back to work, but he paused to talk anyway. Told me to take a vacation, go to some lake, do some fishing lol he was trying so hard to help. When he couldn't stay any longer, he left, only to come jogging back 30 seconds later to give me some chocolate from his locker. He couldn't find it because he had eaten it already HAHA so he offered me an Indian tea biscuit, instead. Our interaction made me smile big through my tears, and I'm sure I looked a right mess. Thank you, dear coworker.

This post made me smile.

I am currently 5 days away from my due date with our second son. Even before I was pregnant, men have always held doors for me. Now that I'm huge, I've had men go out of their way to beat me to the door so they could hold it open. This week I also noticed that my car was over due for an oil change. I called the dealership to ask if I could get an appointment. The guy making the appointment said he could squeeze me in next Thursday. I told him, ok write me in, that's two days after my due date but if the baby isn't here by then I'll be able to make it. He gave a quick pause and then asked if I could hold a minute. I agreed and when he got back on the line, he told me to come in at 330 that day. He told me he wanted my car to be in good, running order for my trip to the hospital and bringing baby home. Blame it on hormones but I cried at this man's willingness to go out of his way to show me kindness. I have many loving, kind, and supportive men in my family. I respect men out in public and can honestly say that way more often than not, they are respectful and kind to me. I like this thread idea!

I have an online guy friend who is so nice to me. He understands that i'm a slow replier. He never gets insecure or angry when i leave him on read for hours. He's sweet and a good listener. He's the only guy who doesn't hurt me.

Just this month I was catching a train and this man was loudly swearing and cursing at something (like politicians and institutions in general) like a damn madman, next to his very quiet wife. He looked like a drunkard that would make you cross the street just to be sure! Anyway I had to get up in the train just behind him with my heavy bag and the pier was so low that you had to do a half split to climb the stairs. The second I put my foot up the stair the man turns around, calms himself 100 to 0 and asks "oh, do you need help with your bags?"

My husband rubbed my head until I fell asleep on his chest last night. It’s the little things.

It's easy to make a case why any class of people based on any arbitrary criteria are horrible based on the fact that bad people do exist and the law of large numbers alone. Taking a broader statistical look at the data though often tells a different tale. I think if we were to conglomerate the data regarding people of class X into an individual that sometimes engaged in this pattern of behaviour and sometimes in that we'd have a more balanced view of reality, but we're predisposed to focus on the negative rather than the positive.

There's good reasons for that too mind you, pronounced propensity for loss aversion isn't a common thing for no reason, but it's still good to take a step back every now and then and remember that not all X suck as hard as that focus would otherwise make a random observer think, whether X be men or women or whatever really.

Yeh I love this! My mind is full of all the kind things my Dad has done for me over the years. He went and cleaned my car inside and out for me when I last visited my parents. I also appreciate my ex husband continuing to make monetary contributions to my daughter's expenses.

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What a beautiful thread you started OP

A man ran across a parking lot the other day to let me know I had a brake light out! And then of course there's my fiancé who was kind enough to fix it for me

I was 18 and the youngest girl in a combat sports training camp in Israel.. First time away from home and went with my best friend, who was slightly older. The legal drinking age was 18 at that time, so I had too much wine

A couple of slightly older guys in the training camp helped me and my friend stumble back to the hotel; I was nearly unable to walk, but still aware enough of my surroundings that I knew they never touched us inappropriately. They made sure we both got to our hotel rooms safely and kept an eye out for us the morning after, encouraging us to drink water and such lol

We still keep in touch over facebook!

I am a man and this thread just made me feel so good about the world.

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My boyfriend had a cough/congestion. Instead of staying in bed he went to another room so he wouldn't wake me! I came out and told him he can come back, I can sleep fine through noise, but it was so nice of him.

This is a great idea!

This post is so heart warming. Thank you to who made it and to all of you ladies appreciating what we do. It just makes me want to give more.