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LoveWitchXo

Posted 2y ago in RELATIONSHIPS - Permalink - Locked - 1.9K Views

I dont have the highest libido and my man is always in the mood. Sometimes when we’re both just waking up I feel him rubbing me up and sometimes it will turn me off because I think that sex is “too much” or some other thing like that.

When we have sex he is really affectionate. We’ve been going about twice a day & he has been kissing me and holding me and telling me he loves me :3 im very happy! Because yeah I may not feel like it completely it always feels good with him. I take pride in satisfying him & in return he gives me the affection i need

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CryptographerTrue499 1y ago

I have been married for almost 10 years. I have never said no to sex and it is starting to get to me. Yes, he’s happy but giving him sex doesn’t mean he’s going to magically do the things you want to be happy. It’s honestly just another chore before I can unwind in the evening. I see the giving him sex whenever he wants it brought up a lot, but there doesn’t seem to be a reciprocal thing we’re telling men to do to keep their wives happy. I just wanted to chime in because I can attest that sex keeps men happy, but it doesn’t mean you’re going to also be satisfied with that arrangement.

pearlsandstilettos 1y ago

I've been re-skimming Laura Doyle's First Kill All the Marriage Counselors (I believe retitled Empowered Wife) and the first couple chapters are about identifying your own desires and then bringing them up to your husband so he can make you happy.

This might be worth checking out if you are feeling like it's all giving and no receiving on your part.

Key-Progress-8873 2y ago

This is great and I am happy for you! He probably thinks the same - by getting physical with him more often, he now feels that you've also become more affectionate with him. It's always a two way street.

thepretendchristian 2y ago

The secret to a happy marriage is lots of sex ;)

I notice my man’s overall mood is lighter when sex is in abundance. When he’s at work, chilling at home, etc. A lot of pent up stress is released when he’s been released. He’s much more cuddly and touchy with me during these times. I’ve noticed that I feel more connected to him also and my own stress levels dwindle down.

I always tell my friends: if your man is having a rough day, give him a spontaneous blow job.

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ant2k15 2y ago

I always say you don’t give a blowjob with your mouth you give it with your heart.

VasiliyZaitzev 2y ago

Awww.

“And what happened, then? Well, in Whoville they say – that the Grinch's small heart grew three sizes that day."

ConductionReduction 2y ago

Mans just needed a blowie

emmalai85 2y ago

We have sex everyday too. 16+ years. Sex is really important to us too. Although he doesn't need it 2 to 3x a day as often as when we first met in his 30s(he's 50) but daily is still preferred for us both. (Although we still average 2x a day alot, and morning is a key time for him, too lol )

Sex is great.

magic_damage 2y ago

The sex is the glue of the relationships.

Jenneapolis 2y ago

A guy told me this once! And it stuck with me, pun intended :) seriously even if you fight a lot, doing it often holds you two together.

ismystreetname 2y ago

After me and my bf argue or after he upset me, the sex right after is the best and he finishes super loud and hard especially lol

VasiliyZaitzev 2y ago

So, men are very sex-motivated, particularly in our youth - not sure that this is a secret - and thus we respond positively to positive stimuli.

Never underestimate the power of a random, no-strings-attached, blowjob, and then reap the benefits.

marcelmarceau1972 1y ago

Great! One thing I've seen works for some couples with different libido is the 'all-day physical treatment'. I feel for us men it keeps us 'active' and focused and affectionate on our wives and helps with developing the intimacy. The 'all-day physical treatment' consists of looking for each other and holding hands, hug, being physically close to each other.

If you haven't done it, at the beginning it might feel forced, but the physical closeness 'activates us'. I was watching Disney's "The Hunchback of Notre Dame" and they show that when Esmeralda walks close to the villain, he gets all crazy about her (they depict the hair's aroma entering the guy's nose). It makes couples feel physically "connected" and the night talks can be longer and enjoyable without necessarily ending in sex. I've talked to guys, and we agree it keeps us 'hungry', it normally increases the sex in both sides, but even if you don't have sex it both still enjoy the days more.

Sex is such a lovely and extremely enjoyable way to 'glue' couples!

MOSFETBJT 2y ago

You might have a reactive libido

Competitive-Gas3935 2y ago

I’m so jealous reading about this :( how I wish my man was in the mood more often.. I’m always in the mood and I’m just at his mercy to initiate ..

LoveWitchXo 2y ago

im sorry to hear that

Competitive-Gas3935 2y ago

:( just gotta get used to it..

cohost3 2y ago

I have the same problem. It can be very devastating.

Livid-Mathematician3 1y ago

Have your guy get his t levels checked. 1/3 of men have some kind of sex drive fall off as they get into their 30’s.

Competitive-Gas3935 2y ago

Idk if my story will help but.. my partner opened up the other day and told me that he feels that I have high expectations in all aspects of our relationship and it’s worn him down overtime to the point that even areas where I don’t really expect anything feels like an expectation (so expecting to have sex when I want it).. so I’m going to work on dropping the expectation.. I don’t actually know how but I’ll start from stopping initiating and hoping and just making myself busy with other things..

eyenaobrown 2y ago

I went through this in the beginning of my relationship . I made a rule of never saying no and let’s just say my wedding is in October

OilyB 2y ago

The simple machinations of human sexual/emotional biology. Right now I'm the best boyfriend ever because my gf also rarely says no. Somethings hard inside my formerly evil soul melt away further and further every year we're together. I've never been happier and neither has she.

QueenWint 1y ago

I'm way less affectionate than my husband. It is nice but generally, I don't care about it much and the same with nice words. So not much of a motivator haha.

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thepretendchristian 2y ago

Sex releases some grade A oxytocin and endorphins for both parties. Don’t skip out on it just because you feel tired or not really in the mood ;)

xtcj88 2y ago

Oh no, happiness? That sounds awful!

AriesLeoSagFire79 2y ago

Can you not read? Nowhere did she say her man wasn't happy.

She said that fulfilling her man's needs and desires even more led to him also fulfilling her needs and desires even more.

amadexodus 2y ago

You might want to familiarize yourself with our Wiki to better understand our attitude toward relationships, sex, and the differences between men/women.

OP said she's very happy, her SO is very happy....what's the problem?

pearlsandstilettos 2y ago

I think everyone else has covered the issues with this comment and I'm going to remove it because this sort of selfishness in a relationship is simply not good RP advice. Please get yourself on track before you try to weigh in on people whose lives are happy.

tennis_dude13 2y ago

Are you single? Did you know that men and women view sex very differently while in a serious relationship? What if I told you that men feel way more connected to their partner if they have sexual interactions on a regular basis? Men and women are quite different. Our brains are wired differently. This isn't my opinion. It's a biological fact.

No-Capital-4110 1y ago

Yep

LoveWitchXo 2y ago

it’s not just to make him happy, i say yes to sex because i want to even if i may not be fully in the mood is what im saying but to each their own

TrueBroccoli8 2y ago

What OP figured out is relationships are multiplication, not addition and subtraction between two people.

I want to make you feel good because when I make you feel good you make me feel good too, so I want to make you feel even better and it grows exponentially as we reinforce those bonds across multiple dimensions of our relationship.