It sounds like you are some type of a “Gamine” body-type, which you can learn more about in this super-informative video. In it, they describe the various different Gamine subtypes (according to the McJimsey System, not the Kibbe system). From what you describe, it sounds like you might be a Compact subtype. Examples of Compact Gamines are Hayden Panettiere and Simone Biles. They say many modern Olympic gymnasts are Compact Gamines.

The video goes into A LOT of helpful detail on what kind of clothes flatter Gamines, but if you want more inspiration, you can look at what Hayden and Simone wear on a casual basis and see how they make themselves look more feminine. Simone looks quite feminine here, and there are tons of examples of Hayden looking feminine, my personal favorite being this. Even Johanna Jędrzejczyk looks feminine AF when she styles herself to be that way (see here, here, here, and here.

There are some consistencies in these pics that the video highlights, such as high necklines, cropped hemlines, “staccato rhythm” (essentially breaking up your outfit into pieces instead of having one long and monotone look), and color-blocking. These are some things that will flatter your body type!

While attracting body builder men sounds like a good thing to me

As a MMA follower, most guys I know wouldn't have an issue someone that looked like Joanna Jed

Try to focus on feminine silhouettes and looking elegant/well put together with excellent grooming, but avoid items and styling that look too precious/ delicate/frilly/overtly “girly” as it will create a non-flattering juxtaposition.

(These are generally guidelines, obviously there will be exceptions)

For example: I have larger hands and it really helps to soften their appearance them if I keep my nails medium to long with an oval shape and sheer pink-ish polish, and I can get away with wearing a non-flashy medium to slightly heavy weight ring or bracelet, but if I try to wear bright pink polish and thin rings/bracelets it has the total opposite effect.

How wide are your shoulders?

Stay away from clothes that are more boxy in fit. Halter tops provide a nice symmetry to girls with broader shoulders. Also go for more dainty jewelry. Long Skirts also accentuate your body more.

You sound attractive :)

In my case,I have masculine face. People tell me I am like woman body with man's face lol(I have square shaped face).When I smile, wrinkles open up.So I try to practice small smile without showing teeth.And apply natural makeup with lip and cheek tint ( orange and pink shade) For face,I look to youtube video about using make up to change your face shape. Above my eyebrows there is some curve (I don't know what it is called)which makes me look like I am frowning like angry man and while raising it shows more wrinkles. I do Tanaka massage ( go to Google)

Rest I wear clothes which shows my curve.Black clothes helps too as it makes you look lean.