I am going to consider my first RP relationship a success. I have been with an amazing guy for 15 months and we are going to Paris in August for a much needed vacation. Last night we were FaceTiming and talking about activities to book in Paris. His phone vibrates from a text and he looks at it and chuckles. I playfully ask what was that and he replies his one female friend asked him if he was going to propose to me in Paris.
He goes, "Yeah, I am too broke. I would have to use an onion ring."
I laugh it off and change the subject saying I am hungry and now want onion rings. I was actually nervous about him possibly proposing soon. I am going to say yes, because I love this guy and am content with being with him forever. I feel safe, emotionally, with him and we complement each other. I should be happy his response was an indication he feels the same, but he has expensive tastes when it comes to some things (Paris was his idea). He is broke because he is paying back student debt from law school and has only been a lawyer for four years.
I would be happy with an onion ring. :O
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NittanyLioness84 8y ago
There is a chance he is using a deception approach...he has done that before...he said he is allowed to lie to me about presents...But Paris would be an awesome proposal site.
KatherineKelly 8y ago
I would make it clear to him that you did not choose him because he can buy your love with money in any shape or form but because he represents the best example of what you find valuable in a fellow human being and as a man.
I would much rather marry a poor man who has ambitions and expectations for himself than one who thinks a woman would only want to be with him for his money but otherwise would find nothing to value in his company and companionship.
Try to strongly impress upon him that your love and values are not so superficial that you would only be with him for the size of the diamond he can deliver.
That you "Have his back" no matter what. In good times and bad.
Not out of obligation or insecurity but because he represents the best of what you think a man could and should be and that goes far beyond earning or having money.
Money means nothing if you cannot trust or respect him as a man and a human being.
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DreamBoatGuy25 8y ago
I've done the "spend stupid amounts of money on my girlfriend" thing in past, if you don't need it let him know. It's true some guys have weird complexes where they have to spend money on their gf's but most of us are content to chill out and spend time together. Most of the time we do fancy stuff it's for you.
Now I will say that it's going to take some convincing. Don't think you can just say, "oh yeah, I don't need anything fancy", etc. You're really going to have to sit him down and make sure you get through to him.
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Tell him "It's not the ring that matters, I just like being with you." It'll make him feel more confident to tell you things regarding ring finances. My fiance was going to postpone the engagement until he could afford this really gorgeous $1,449 engagement ring, but I told him it's the commitment that matters to me not some rock on my finger. He would up waiting until a really pretty $700 ring went 50% off at Zales and he bought it for me and it's everything I could've ever wanted!
I always keep in mind that there's an inverse relationship between high engagement and wedding costs and duration of marriage.
NittanyLioness84 8y ago
I am just gonna let him go and figure this out for himself. I wanna be totally surprised. He knows my size because he got me a really nice David Yurman ring for my birthday.
Ariel125 8y ago
my husband was in the Army at the time and I have a modest ring (which I adore). Like another poster said, tell him it's the commitment to him that matters, and not the price of the ring. A side note, he could actually be trying to throw you off and really is planning something. But best to just try to forget about it and just show him you love being with him in the meantime! Have an awesome trip!
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TheTerrorSquad 8y ago
Grow up.
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MStockyy 8y ago
Very few jobs in the Military are combat related or even fire a weapon against an enemy.
TheThingsIThink 8y ago
When I was in Fallujah the guys in admin, tech, and supply were put in trucks and on guns. When shit gets real every one is a rifleman
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