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Of course men love it when women initiate sex? It reinforces their feeling of being masculine and desired. You don't have to be aggressive about it. Just dress up in something sexy, rub up against him, kiss his neck etc. It's not "initiating sex" as much as giving him the green light to get sexual.

ArdAtak 5y ago

Men LOVE it when women initiate sex. Despite what women think, sex is more than just dick friction for guys. Bu initiating sex first you're sending the signals that:

1) I'm attracted to you and I want you

2) I trust you and I feel safe with you

This combo is a HUGE turn on for guys.

ManguZa 5y ago

The analogy don't work. A man appreciate his wife initiating sex.

One is about his role as a provider, the other one his about her desire for him.

LaneysWorld2 5y ago

Try to initiate sex in which you are still the submissive one who is pleasing him, not the one who controls it and he won't feel emasculated.

qwerty_slut 5y ago

Exactly

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How do you do this?

RubyWooToo 5y ago

One way is to dress in lingerie or wear very little around him. He will automatically see that has an invitation to sex.

Rub up against him when you walk past him, or grope him playfully.

When he leans in to kiss you, respond passionately.

qwerty_slut 5y ago

Just wear tight clothes.. or no clothes.

hirokinae 5y ago

“I want you, tell me what you want me to do to you”

An employee going to his boss and asking for more work doesn’t come off as demanding or overstepping his bounds.

Same as a wife going to her husband and asking for sex is almost never going to do anything but make him feel incredibly desired.

Grabbing him and pushing him into the bed while forcing his hands behind his back, that’s something that might not jive with some men (many still will go with it) because being forceful and controlling is masculine energy.

But simply getting naked and asking for things to be done to you is both feminine and extremely empowering for a man.

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I love this answer, thank you! I'm definitely going to try that line. The idea of asking seems so incredibly hot as well.

LaneysWorld2 5y ago

True, it's not about initiating it yourself, it's about asking him to initiate by showing him your willingness to fulfill his desires and just have the kind of sex he enjoys the most.

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That's not sex and not what I asked..

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pearlsandstilettos 5y ago

Blow jobs are sex and this is one possible answer to the question. Don't get snarky because it's an answer you don't like.

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I hoped for a little more intelligent discussion than stating the obvious everytime a post like this comes up in this subreddit. Blowjobs are blowjobs, sex is sex. This entire thread is about how to initiate sex and the question I asked was how to initiate sex in a submissive way.

Even if you do think blowjobs are sex, how do you initiate without coming across as sexually aggressive?

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i_have_a_semicolon 5y ago

Take shirt off, plop in front of him, smile. Say, "want me to suck your dick?".

I normally lead with , "wanna fuck?"

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pearlsandstilettos 5y ago

Let's just go back to my initial instructions for you not to be snarky to other members of the sub then.

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LaneysWorld2 5y ago

We can talk about it in the chat, I don't think it's appropriate to do it here.

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pearlsandstilettos 5y ago

no idea

Only contribute if you have something useful to say.

Hivro 5y ago

I am more of a lurker but I feel the need to post on this..

If you have someone who is so sensitive or uncomfortable in their own skin that you have to worry about who initiates sex as if it would kill someone's ego.. well.. you have much bigger things to worry about.

Same thing for the check, if a girl paid for me and I just couldn't feel like a man because of it.. well.. I probably wasn't a man before anyways if something that small can throw me off

RP wether for men or women and a point needs to be dropped in favor of "let's just be real here". Looming this cloud of calculations over your head past the point of reason only hurts you to be honest.

Men like to be pursued. Women like to be pursued.

Sex is passion, regardless of who starts or how. Let's be real.

Pie_021 5y ago

I don't I've ever heard a man complain his girl wants sex and initiated.

If you want to be super feminine about, dress for the occasion, sit on his lap, maybe a little tease, and let him do the rest.

ClearBolt 5y ago

Assertiveness and aggression in a limited amount is exciting to see in a woman. I think a good rule would be to initiate sex just enough so that he is aware it might happen but not expecting it as a norm; it keeps makes it surprising and surprises in sex are exciting. For a guy being in charge is fun, being surprised is fun, if you balance it right a guy can get both.

The feeling of being sexually desired enhances a guy's sense of self-worth. That's really the feeling you should be aiming.

nowyougotdryballs 5y ago

The feeling of being sexually desired enhances a guy's sense of self-worth. That's really the feeling you should be aiming.

I can't up-vote this more than once, so I'll just say this gal right here is wise as they come.

MakeAmericaRichAgain 5y ago

Masculine men are totally fine with their wives making the first move. If we're not interested, we say no. (Hint: we're never not interested.)

ReddJive 5y ago

There are times when my girl needs to take out her aggression. Maybe her day was shit. She'll jump me. It'll go until I'm tired of it then take control back.

Those are times I like sex to be a fight. So yeah. Men have a range.

gcubed 5y ago

Initiation is nothing more than the signal that she is ready and in the mood. It's nice. It doesn't necessarily affect how the sex plays out, and it certainly doesn't challenge my masculinity in any way.

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pearlsandstilettos 5y ago

RPWs do not look for short term flings.

Other men express that they want their lady to initiate things sometimes.

I think at a deeper level it’s about something else. It’s about showing your man that you really want to please him sexually, and that you like it and in no way see it as a chore.