I would love to know everyone’s pro tips for “upper level” improving your SMV/RMV. I, like I suspect many others of you, have been working on my appearance and my attitudes and actions. What are your favorite tips or things you so that are beyond just the basic receive/lose weight/look pretty/do nice things for your man? What are your favorite “pro tips”? What are your “extras”? For example, one of mine is that I work on cultivating my natural southern accent because men always swoon over it.
___Lana___ 6y ago
Learn something or improve some skills you already have :
Glitter-Milkshake 6y ago
Fasting. It's helped my skin, stiff joints, and flushes me out. This week I did a 48 hour fast and plan on doing another one next week. Besides that, improving my Spanish and figuring out how to whiten my teeth while being dependent on black coffee, ugh.
kittxxn 6y ago
Clean the look. Some of the best advice I've heard is that you should shower, remove all makeup, exfoliate, shave, comb hair back, and then look in the mirror with plain black shorts and tank top. Is your hair in good condition? Here's a pro tip: when your hair is wet, take one strand, and stretch it. If it breaks immediately with no stretch, do a moisturizing treatment mask with oil. If it stretches far and then breaks, it needs a strengthening keratin treatment. healthy hair should stretch slightly when wet, and bounce back. Are your eyebrows in good shape? how is your skin? how is your body? how are your nails? Once that look has been cleaned, you can start adding clothes, makeup, etc. But only then.
Two words: Dead. Lift. It sounds scary and manly, but learn how to dead lift at the gym - standard, straight leg, and sumo. Don't be afraid to go heavy, and have someone show you proper form. It completely transformed my body. Big booty, tight back, great posture, strong legs, toned arms and shoulders, and wider hips. Everyone always talks about squats, but those are more quad dominant, which can make your legs actually look more masculine.
OhIMeMine 6y ago
I hear ya! Squatting is overrated. I bulk up really easily so if I squat too much I get massive thighs.
cocovioletta 6y ago
I agree, the whole "squat to get a booty" meme should really be "deadlift to get a booty" instead. I do think that after awhile, deadlifting high volume can cause too much hypertrophy in the spinal erectors and make you look a bit thick waisted from the side (unless you wear a belt), so those with only booty and legs in mind should stick to stiff legged/Romanian variation.
DontThinkChewSoap 6y ago
Deadlifts work the entire posterior chain. Glutes, hamstrings, core, back, etc. It’s single-handedly one of the most underrated movements. And there are tons of variations, grip styles, and equipment (gloves) to prevent calluses. Use chalk. Don’t be afraid to lift heavy, it’s key. It’s not something you do quietly in the corner hoping no one looks your direction. When it slams on the ground after you drop knee-height after each lift, it’s loud. Push through, focus on yourself, get it done.
Women should always deadlift if you’re capable of doing so; once it became a part of my routine I never stopped. It takes practice to perfect the form, but it’s absolutely worth the effort.
LateralThinker13 6y ago
Low level: lose the fat.
Upper level: tone and fit.
Lower level: be polite, demure, STFU
Upper level: be proactively kind, nice, generous, and considerate
Lower level: Be open to sex any time he is interested
Upper level: actively provide/offer sex without prompting, and be inventive/creative/keep it interesting
Lower level: Ask him about his day
Upper level: find a way to be interested in his work and hobbies, and support him and if possible participate in his hobbies without burdening him.
Lower level: Ask him to do things for you (build a birdhouse, etc.)
Upper level: Ask him to teach you to do things (demonstrate proficiency and prowess)
List goes on.
IsaGuz 6y ago
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Be as healthy as possible. I weightlift and take care of my food. I still get shocked faces when I say I'm 39, most calculate at least ten years less.
Coy_Smile 6y ago
Im in the.same.boat im 37 everyone says i look in my 20s. It's all about what you eat and how you move.
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SMV to me is more than physical, since I’m married I need to work on RMV too.
My goal until the end of this year is “no more arguing.” If I’m upset about something I think it clearing through and bring it up in 1 sentence calmly and clearly and let my husband respond.
This means shut my mouth and let my thoughts run through for 12 hours and CONTROL my emotions. I’ve been doing this for several weeks now and the result is amazing and my husband is so happy!
rachelandclaire 6y ago
100% this. Stop debating.
the_goatgrrrl 6y ago
IM IN! Thats an amazing idea!!!
LateralThinker13 6y ago
Yep. STFU is the gold standard for a reason.
letgoor 6y ago
Not sure if this is what you are looking for but recently I’ve cleaned up my Facebook and Instagram pages. I don’t even post on these anymore, but I took down some pictures that could be perceived as “slutty” or somewhat suggestive.
Even though I’m a virgin, I don’t want a future romantic partner to go snooping on my pages when he’s getting to know me and find something that makes him think I’m low-value. I basically went through my page and thought, “if my future boyfriend’s mom saw this picture, would she raise her eyebrow?” I cleaned up a LOT. Just because I “know” that I’m high value, doesn’t mean that I have been consciously portraying that image on social media. My brother always tells me he thinks girls are “easy” and slutty if they post pictures of their a$$ and boobs all the time.
One particular girl I went to college with literally slept with almost every guy from our school. Not exaggerating (we went to a small school.) This girl has a body count in the hundreds. All she does is post THE sluttiest pictures of her online. I can’t help but notice that even though she has 1,000+ friends on Facebook, a picture of her LITERAL ASS in a thong bathing suit only gets 30 likes. One of my friends with about 1,000 friends also, who is super beautiful and conservative (not slutty, very clean cut) can post a picture of herself smiling, fully clothed, and get 100 likes and multiple comments about how beautiful she is, etc.
It’s almost like the first girl has devalued herself by sleeping around so much and posting so many pictures of her pretty much naked, that she can’t do anything else to get attention- and it diminishes over time. Her personality sucks too, so her hot body is all she has to “offer.” It’s sad, and she looks dead inside already.
clazcat 6y ago
SMV is really a two pronged approach.
You can be a 10/10 on the looks scale and have a shopping problem with thousands of debt.
Or be the most loving woman in the world and seriously overweight. I try to keep this in mind when evaluating myself.
Personally at the moment the things I’m working towards to get to that upper level-
Losing the last ten pounds / stop being skinny fat- I’m a healthy body weight but I want to have the best version of my self.
Going blonde again - it’s my natural colour and I feel natural looks best
In the process of purchasing my own house - who doSent love a girl who can financially support herself and contribute passive income to the family
Learning how to sew & cook much better. I can already do both of these things better than the average woman, but becoming an AMAZING cook is a goal
Edit: also be wary of who you hang out with. My friends were dragging me down a lot. The dragged me into drama and then men associated me with that. It’s better to have no friends then crappy ones. You should vet your friends just as much a man. When you do, you’ll have better friends
[deleted] 6y ago
I agree totally on who you hang out with! It’s better to just have zero friends than having friends of no morals.
clazcat 6y ago
Bad friends also typically means meeting the wrong men through them. Great women tend to attract great men so when searching for a captain it becomes a lot easier if your associating with the right people
[deleted] 6y ago
Absolutely!
the_goatgrrrl 6y ago
Be good at small talk ans conversations in generall..also, laugh! not to loud or anthying but do laugh wholeheartedly when you feel it! To me talking the first time with someone is a little dance with a stranger...i keep telling myself "its not about me, its about the other person having a good time interacting with me for a short amount of time" try to make people comfortable, imagine you're there to provide a good time for them
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LateralThinker13 6y ago
FTFY because men don't like women who are bundles of unreasonable emotion. Passion is good; irrationality is not.
Remember that movie "Sliding Doors"? One passage near the end sums it up: "I'm a woman! We don't say what we WANT! But we reserve the right to get pissed off if we don't get it. That's what makes us so fascinating! And not a little bit scary."
That kind of passionate irrationality is why men go MGTOW. Passionate with rationality is good. Passion, full stop, is not.