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EmotionalSupportRat

Posted 5y ago in DISCUSSION - Permalink - Locked - 85 Views

I just saw a picture of the child of a friend, who is absolutely gorgeous in the sense were no matter which ethnicity looks at him, he would be considered beautiful. Kind of model material already at age 4. I could feel a sense of primal "jealousy" coming up, or longing, for a beautiful child. Thus, partner. Not for my own viewing pleasure, but more thinking about, how such a child may have it easier in life. How important is the physical beauty of your (potential) partner for the vetting process?

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aussiedollface2 5y ago

This sounds terrible, but I care more about my future daughters beauty than sons! (We are currently trying to conceive, no children yet). xo

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

Mhh, I get where you are coming from! An ugly guy can do a lot with charm, athleticism or status, a girl/woman not so much.

cynicalhousewife 5y ago

You can't really gauge how someone is going to look as an adult at 4 years old. He could end up 300lbs with premature baldness for all you know.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

That is very true lol. But the parents are health conscious, active, smart people and they don't live in the US. I think he will be pretty fine weight wise. Maybe he will be bald...but that doesn't make a man ugly imho if the bone structure is fine etc. (my partner is bald :D ). But of course, there is never a guarantee for anything. He might become disfigured or what do I know.

Skrillerman 5y ago

I think the development of the child is the most important part.

If your son eats good stuff, does A LOT OF SPORTS AND has a high testosterone level all the time he will develop manly and good features. Will have good skin , nice overall frame,good social skills and and and.

Best example is mouth breathing. If your child always breathes with an open mouth it will most likely get that specific mouth breather look.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

Very important points, thanks for mentioning. I will make sure my kids will do sports and model that behaviour. Mouth breathing is something I will also watch out for...I have seen the fucked up effects in my own family.

KittenLoves_ 5y ago

I think average looking people can have gorgeous babies, and vice-versa. So if you're specifically thinking, "I need a hot man to have beautiful babies," you may not necessarily get the perfect-looking children you hope for in that way.

Some examples -- my best friend is very good looking, but her parents are (and always have been) very average looking people. Not necessarily "ugly", but nothing to write home about either. Or, on the other end of the spectrum, my boyfriend and his parents are very good looking people, but his brother is not.

You can't guarantee how your child will look, if it will be attractive in the future, etc. All you can do is love it and give it all the non-physical advantages possible.

Mest666 5y ago

thus chasing beautiful people is pointless. fuck humanity.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

That is very true of course! Forgot to write that a beautiful partner of course does not guarantee things. From my observation of beautiful people, though, one parent is/was usually beautiful or at least has "striking"/"strong" features, such as high cheekbones/good facial bone structure. But of course, also ugly or average parents can make beautiful children. In the case of my friend, both her and her partner are beautiful people :p.

ragnarockette 5y ago

I agree. Just look at Bruce Willis and Demi Moore.

My husband is extremely handsome and I feel like I am pretty good looking. But we are both brown hair, brown eyes, normal white people features. I don’t feel like we would have anything that would stand out and make our child anything other than average looking.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

Bruce's genes are really strong, but not in a good way. Even with his new wife.

[deleted] 5y ago

I'm more focused on character than looks.

UnblinkingLycopene 5y ago

That kid still has time to get ugly. I wouldn't focus on this.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

Nah, you can really already see it in the bone structure and overall facial symmetry with this kid. The mother is the same type: beautiful since birth. No awkward teen phase even. Just surprisingly good genetics. It's definitely also how she got the confidence to get that high quality man (not just in the looks department).

badtz555 5y ago

I think genetic recombination is too powerful to get overly hung up on this. Look at the parents of really beautiful models, or even their siblings. Usually their families are pretty average looking. Extreme beauty is rare and to a great extent just luck. With that said I do think a huge amount of attraction (maybe even the vast majority of it) is based in wanting certain genes for one's offspring. This goes for beauty as well as intelligence, charisma, athleticism, etc.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

"With that said I do think a huge amount of attraction (maybe even the vast majority of it) is based in wanting certain genes for one's offspring. This goes for beauty as well as intelligence, charisma, athleticism, etc." -I don't get this part, can you explain?

badtz555 5y ago

As in the reason we become sexually attracted to people is because subconsciously we want to reproduce with them because they have good genes to pass on to children.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

Ahhhh, okay! I heard about this in terms of overall health. Would make sense, that it would be because of beauty, too.

[deleted] 5y ago

My kid is gorgeous, hubby and I are low SMV. I would say it's just pot luck

the_goatgrrrl 5y ago

i wonder, why do you think you and your husband are low SMV? i mean, attractiveness is to a certain degree something you can work on...when i walk through the city i like watching people and, at least to me, 90% of the unattractive ones dont need to be unattractive, they are out of shape, have bad skin or hair, are badly dressed, behave in a bad way and so on...but very few people are ugly

[deleted] 5y ago

We're both a lot overweight but working on it, cheap clothes with no real style, plus neither of us is anything much to look at face-wise

the_goatgrrrl 5y ago

good for you! working out is always good, not only because of smv but its important to stay healthy...there are ways to be well dressed without spending a fortune or being a fashion fanatic :) just be careful about the colors, nothing to bright, check the material, look out for thicker fabric, chose synthetic stuff that looks natural so you dont have to iron it, clean cuts, nothing with holes, no boot cuts, no deep V's, no prints (cheap prints ALWAYS look like cheap prints)clean your shoes regulary, if you buy one piece, buy another small one like a scarf or a hat in the same color, wear two pieces of the same color (orange pulover with orange socks to a neutral pant and shoes; olive green shoes with an olive green scarf, neutral pants and jeans) check your body shape, see what clothes fit your shape...just thought it might help you :)

[deleted] 5y ago

Thank you :D

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

I always think cases like these are really fascinating. Seems to be a lot of luck involved, yeah.

freew33zy 5y ago

Like others said, parent beauty =/= child beauty. My parents are both average (though they aged well) and my sister in her prime was probably a HB8.5 and I'm less great looking but still pretty attractive. My LTR has straight up ugly parents, yet is very good-looking too.

That said, yes, better looking partners will give you better looking kids on average--so do put SOME weight in it. Also feed your kids good food and not shit food--that's really going to be where you make the difference. I think my LTR is so good-looking because of that, because the parents, though ugly, do eat incredibly healthy.

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

Is your sister the first child of your parents, or the first female child of your parents? I heard the theory, that firsts can be much prettier than the remaining children, especially if there is a small age gap in between, as mum's get vitamin/mineral wise depleted with every pregnancy. Nutrition seems to play a big role in beauty, very fascinating....does your LTR have siblings?

freew33zy 5y ago

LTR is only child. Sister was the first--I was 6 years later. I look good, better than my parents, but my sister was stunning. Your theory holds up well among this very small sample size.

imtheoneimmortal 5y ago

husband beautiful, also kid, but he become fat,
isn't about all beauty but beauty isn't nothing

IsaGuz 5y ago

Unless severely disfigured, which would cause total discarding because of zero attraction... Zero. The man has guts, drive, brain, loves me and treats me well? As long as I feel attraction, that's good enough.

I don't think being too beautiful is that good, either. Models have the worst self-esteem ever.

Kara__El 5y ago

I regularly pray for healthy children or no children at all. My husband and I are probably average looking plus effort, so I'm sure our kids will look fine. When I was dating, I sought someone whom I COULD find attractive, as rarely does anyone but an actor turn my head. Overall health was probably more important. Does he smoke? Is he massively overweight? Does he drink too much?

EmotionalSupportRat 5y ago

Yes, the latter would be deal breakers. Not interested in fucking up the health of an unborn child if it can be avoided.

teaandtalk 5y ago

I am fairly sure our children will be average looking! My husband and I are both fairly average, good with effort, and I can fairly well anticipate what our children will look like. I think average is perfectly fine, the uncontrollable stuff is much less important than the rest!

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