This is the first post in a new series “RPW 101”, a recurring feature that will explore core Red Pill concepts as they apply to women and provide direction on successfully incorporating these ideas into your life. These posts are especially suited for single women, women under 20, parents seeking to instill RP principles into their daughters and new subscribers to the subreddit. That being said, everyone is welcome to read, discuss, and ask follow up questions in the comment section.
Feminism has permeated mainstream society to the point where myths of equality, empowerment and entitlement shape even the self-improvement resources available to women. Rarely are women encouraged to embrace their nature; androgynous appearance and masculine behaviours are perpetuated as ideal for all. This is an enormous disadvantage to women who don’t have positive female role models in their lives because once discovering the truth about gender differences, there are very few places where women can receive legitimate advice regarding self-improvement. While there are an overwhelming amount of websites that provide information on makeup, fashion, flirting and other elements of girl game, there is a noticeable lack of quality materials that focus on the most important factor when it comes to attracting and gaining commitment from high quality men: a feminine disposition. Developing your femininity is a critical first step on the road to permanent change. It makes you pleasant to be around, and creates harmony in romantic relationships as men can effortlessly assume their natural role. In line with this, the first post in the series “RPW 101” will center on cultivating a feminine frame of mind. Once this foundation is laid, it will be easier to identify areas to improve in your own life and begin the process of adopting new habits and traits.
Before delving in to the characteristics that make one feminine, it is important to dispel some false definitions that are popular today.
- Femininity is not a weakness. To put it simply, men and women are different. Each gender has positives, negatives, roles and responsibilities that complement the other beautifully. When these innate distinctions are embraced, both men and women are happier and more successful, going even further in life than they would have otherwise.
- Femininity has nothing to do with being a doormat. Submission within your relationship is not equivalent to being walked over or mistreated. It means trusting your man to lead, deferring to his decisions and supporting him in the way he needs. It means being less aggressive, combative, snarky, and sour. Outside of a relationship, being feminine isn’t the same as letting everyone do whatever they want, simply because you’re a girl. Striking a balance between politeness, respect and assertiveness is key in everyday interactions.
Femininity is not acting ditzy or dumb. You do not have to act less capable than you are to be feminine. Men are not sexually attracted to intelligence, and are put off by argumentative know-it-alls, but this does not mean that you have to limit yourself if you are an intellectual. The way you express yourself: tone, facial expression, vocabulary, etc. is extremely important. These determine how others will receive you.
- Femininity is not dressing up or being “girly”. A lot of women seem to think that altering their wardrobe, makeup or hair is sufficient when it comes to making changes. But no amount of skirts, blush or bows will make you feminine if you lack the disposition. Femininity is expressed through appearance but appearance is not the source of femininity. If you haven’t internalised the concepts, you are merely playing dress up. There are no shortcuts.
So what is a feminine woman?
- Yielding: submitting and/or relinquishing oneself over to a higher power. Too often women vie for dominance within a relationship, stirring up drama instead of simply allowing their man to lead. “Allowing” does not mean giving the man permission to lead, it means stepping out of the way so that he can step up. How to be more yielding? Let go of the need to control everything. Say yes more. Be open and flexible to other ideas. Be more generous with what you give.
- Receptive: being open, interested and responsive to new ideas or suggestions. Don’t immediately shoot down other’s statements or insist that your way is always the best way. Keep in mind that you don’t know everything -- humility is key. Create situations where others can share something they enjoy with you.
- Supportive: providing sympathy, reassurance, information or help. On a daily basis you should be offering positive encouragement, listening more than you speak, and building others up with your words. Within a relationship, let your love motivate you to assist, surprise, and satisfy him regularly. Don’t keep score of who is doing what for whom, simply focus on the ways you can enhance his life. Expectations are nothing more than future disappointments.
- Pleasant: socially adept, agreeable, and enjoyable. Everyone, especially high value men, would rather spend time with a friendly and happy woman over someone who is mean or dull. If you want to light up a room simply laugh and smile, easily and often. Make sure your body language is open (hands facing outward, no crossing arms, no frowning, no hunching, etc.). Tell jokes; don’t take everything so seriously. Speak highly of others both in their presence and when they’re not there. And most importantly, don’t whine or complain; entitlement is not attractive.
- Empathetic: directly identifying with and vicariously experiencing another’s emotions, situation and motives. Female solipsism is very real and it can prevent harmony within relationships when a woman refuses to consider other perspectives than her own. To combat this, consciously seek to understand where others are coming from and allow this to shape your assessment of the person. This means considering how other people would want you to respond, act, or treat them in a situation, not projecting how you would want someone to respond, act, or treat you in that same situation.
- Poised: composed, dignified and self-assured. Always carry yourself with purpose and distinction. This means proper posture, presenting yourself well (a subject of future RPW 101 posts), speaking clearly and in a light tone, and not chattering aimlessly. Don’t feel obligated to fill silences.
As I have said elsewhere in this subreddit, the best way to attract someone of high value is to become someone of high value. Take the time to develop new traits, don’t get frustrated if it is more difficult than you anticipated, and don’t get conceited if you see the results that you want quickly. Authentic transformation can only occur if you legitimately want to improve, and put in the requisite time and effort. Female SMV peaks early, so it is important to maximize your attractiveness while you can, inside and out. This all starts with cultivating a feminine frame of mind, as outlined in this post, but self-improvement is a lifelong journey.
A beautiful blog post on the necessity, and lack of femininity in society, as well as the impact this has on men.
A crash course in Red Pill theory.
- A classic post about female nature.