Girlfriend Wants to Wait for Sex
So I have been dating this girl for about a month we are both 20, and she gives a lot of mixed signals when it comes to sex. At first I didn't mind because she was giving me hand jobs and blowjobs right on the second date. However when it came to sex she said she wasn't ready, and I guess I was willing to give her some time since she is ok and more that will to do everything else. She isn't the type to be a prude about it, she has even given me multiple handjobs in public without me asking.
Its honestly really confusing with her because there have been times when we are making out and we will be naked and doing stuff she will literally tell me over and over again to put it in, but then when I go for it she will pull back. Then she will say that she isn't ready yet and things are moving too fast. She told me that she is a virgin and I can tell that she is a little inexperienced.
Im not sure what to do, because we will talk about it afterwards and she will say that in the moment she wanted to but she didn't think it was a good idea. Also recently she has been asking about girls in the past, and she wants me to go in detail about the things that we have done and whatnot. I told her some things and it seemed like it got to her because then she started talking about how she isn't ready and how now she wants to wait 6 months. I feel like I'm being used right now, what do you guys think?
What's done is done. You can't undo the past, but you should still learn from it when preparing for the future. No matter how consistent or pleasurable her handjobs and blowjobs might be, I still think it's kind of silly you declared her your girlfriend after just a month of dating. At least you had the guts to ask these questions as soon as you did so we can set you straight. There are guys who'd only ask after months of this sort of stuff, begging and pleading for sex.
Assuming she's sincere about being a virgin, if she wants to wait on sex I see no reason to stop enjoying her handjobs and blowjobs, if she's taking the initiative to give them. The thing to remember is that this girl's been flakey on the matter of sex after sucking and jerking you off. To me, this suggests she has a waning interest in you and with females their interest in you is everything. I also can't say that you spilling your guts about yourself helped the matter.
As for what I think you should do now, in addition to developing some fulfilling hobbies for your idle time, you should start looking to date other females in addition to this one. Give this chick who jerks and sucks you off less priority in your life so that when she cuts you loose you're not too emotionally devastated by it. You might still be disappointed when it happens, but it won't last long knowing some other chick's available to you. Besides, you're young and could definitely benefit from gaining more experience with them. If one girl doesn't want to have sex with you, you'll be less concerned over it, because the importance of any one of them will diminish as you become confident you can draw in others. It'll also put them in a situation where they'll have to put in the work on their part to encourage you to spend time with them and chicks tend to like competing against other girls for a guy.
To those ends, consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
Read More@Durek_The_Bald im not gonna lie that was actually a really good read
@Lionsmane8 I definitely agree with you and from her actions i do believe that she actually is a virgin
"Meanwhile explain to her that you have needs and that you will be looking to satisfy them elsewhere."
Are u suggesting that I talk to her about an open relationship?
Girlfriend Wants to Wait for Sex
So I have been dating this girl for about a month we are both 20, and she gives a lot of mixed signals when it comes to sex. At first I didn't mind because she was giving me hand jobs and blowjobs right on the second date. However when it came to sex she said she wasn't ready, and I guess I was willing to give her some time since she is ok and more that will to do everything else. She isn't the type to be a prude about it, she has even given me multiple handjobs in public without me asking.
Its honestly really confusing with her because there have been times when we are making out and we will be naked and doing stuff she will literally tell me over and over again to put it in, but then when I go for it she will pull back. Then she will say that she isn't ready yet and things are moving too fast. She told me that she is a virgin and I can tell that she is a little inexperienced.
Im not sure what to do, because we will talk about it afterwards and she will say that in the moment she wanted to but she didn't think it was a good idea. Also recently she has been asking about girls in the past, and she wants me to go in detail about the things that we have done and whatnot. I told her some things and it seemed like it got to her because then she started talking about how she isn't ready and how now she wants to wait 6 months. I feel like I'm being used right now, what do you guys think?
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