2y ago Ask TRP
I have no respect for my dad, I’ve had no proper male masculine role model to look up to and it makes me insecure. When I was young my mum and dad split up and we moved into a different area. My parents remained friends and I got to see my dad pretty regularly so it wasn’t like he wasn’t in the picture Anyway I moved back to his when I was 16, after secondary school to move back to the big city I was born in and try to spend some time with my dad that I didn’t growing up. As I’ve got older (I’m 20 now) I’ve come fo realise my dad is just the opposite of anything resembling a positive masculine influence. I find it hard to connect with him on deep topics that are important to me, and to be honest, I don’t feel like I’d ask him anyway because I don’t feel comfortable doing it. My dad definitely cares about me and try’s to support me, but even when he does this it just feels fake and I can tell he doesn’t want to do it but he doesn’t want to say no to me. In a way he’s a bit of a walk over, it’s almost like he’s guilty because of him and my mother splitting and the only way he thinks to solve it is to appease me with money, feels creepy. Even from a general point of view, since their marriage he’s had a few relationships that have gone wrong and is now living in a flat on his own at 57. Barely any assets to his name and has basically lived for the weekend, to go to the same pubs/city centre for all his life and hasn’t really showed any ambition. I don’t like having to say this about my own dad. I’ve also started to understand more and more why mum, who’s ambition and successful career-wise, left him. I feel like all this has resulted in me being less confident, with worse social skills and lower self esteem in my adult years. Despite it, I’ve actually had a serious relationship and had quite a few plates already so I haven’t let it hold me back completely but It’s something that still angers me, the feeling of how much easier things could Hsve been having a more prominent father figure to guide me in life.
I know this was a rant but it’s a complicated situation. If anybody can relate or offer any wisdom it would be appreciated .
Read More2y ago TheRedPill
I know this is a shit test but not sure if I am responding properly
Been out with a girl twice now. In between that we’ve messaging plenty and talking so interest is there. Anyway on our second date yesterday it went really well and there was a lot of touching kissing. She came back to mine and gave me a hand job lol (she seemed a bit hesitant to fuck) and I didn’t wanna push it too much. Anyway, at some point in our date I made the mistake of mentioning how I had been on a date a few weeks back, thinking it would make me seem more high value put I said it in a subtle way not trying to make it a big deal. Even though she still ended up coming back to mine and the interest remained the same, a few times she said snarky comments like ‘maybe go ask ____ that’. Today I messaged her a picture of something she left and she ended up saying something like ‘give that to the other Sophie’ (both girls had the same name and she knew this)
Anyway, although I can feel it getting to me a bit I’m trying to actively avoid becoming defensive and going on the back foot so I said something along the lines of ‘Do you mean Sophie M, Sophie K or Sophie L’ to try and Agree and amplify.
Would this be an appropriate response? How should I react if it continues and she brings it up again down the line. I’ve literally just sent this message so had no response from her yet. I can understand why she might be annoyed at not being the one and only girl I’ve taken on a date recently but also I think it’s her trying to test me.
Thanks for reading
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2y ago The Hub
I know this is a shit test but not sure if I am responding properly
Been out with a girl twice now. In between that we’ve messaging plenty and talking so interest is there. Anyway on our second date yesterday it went really well and there was a lot of touching kissing. She came back to mine and gave me a hand job lol (she seemed a bit hesitant to fuck) and I didn’t wanna push it too much. Anyway, at some point in our date I made the mistake of mentioning how I had been on a date a few weeks back, thinking it would make me seem more high value put I said it in a subtle way not trying to make it a big deal. Even though she still ended up coming back to mine and the interest remained the same, a few times she said snarky comments like ‘maybe go ask ____ that’. Today I messaged her a picture of something she left and she ended up saying something like ‘give that to the other Sophie’ (both girls had the same name and she knew this)
Anyway, although I can feel it getting to me a bit I’m trying to actively avoid becoming defensive and going on the back foot so I said something along the lines of ‘Do you mean Sophie M, Sophie K or Sophie L’ to try and Agree and amplify.
Would this be an appropriate response? How should I react if it continues and she brings it up again down the line. I’ve literally just sent this message so had no response from her yet. I can understand why she might be annoyed at not being the one and only girl I’ve taken on a date recently but also I think it’s her trying to test me.
Thanks for reading
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