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@travellingsomewhere1 Care way less about what happened during the time you had dumped thus freed her.
Care most about how she treats you NOW, consistently over time, and how THAT aligns with your expectations to upgrade a girl to LTR.
Don't go punishing her on an ongoing basis for breakage of some covert contract in your mind. It's like punishing a dog for peeing on the rug hours earlier. The feedback mechanisms in their brain don't make any connection between their action and your reaction which thus seems arbitrary and unnecessarily extreme. This can accelerate the breakage of her pair-bonding ability, thus I believe men have a self-interest in not carelessly hurting the dating pool of women one by one. I wrote an essay about the "Camping rule" of leaving them as good or better as you found them (except for cause) and the Tragedy of the Pussy Commons men can thusly prevent with a bit of forethought and different choices not requiring more effort.
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