So you're accusing the girl of bringing false charges with no reason to think they're false then. Unless there's some extra info here
Look up abundance in the dictionary. What you've listed is a nice state to be in, but it isn't abundance. Self-sufficiency or stability might be more applicable to the state you describe.
+1. One of the more constructive pieces of writing I've seen recently and without the use of long-winded examples to prove OP's point.
You might find the book Sapiens interesting, as it goes into the evolutionary background behind your points 2-4.