4d ago TheRedPill
@jprdl I have a Slavic wife and she turned out to be a full blown Soviet Kobieta: harsh in language to those she's intimate with, but slotka with those she is only acquainted with. It's not uncommon for her to say: "I hate that bitch Kasia! She gave me these nice chocolates and now I have to buy her something even MORE nice! I'll show her! Off to Poski gourmet!"
She gripes I don't do enough housework but I imagine if I did, she'd probably bang a biker gang. Nonetheless, I do certain housechores because I always have but if she does more, that's her problem. For example: I do my own laundry because I don't want her to muck it up, I fill the dishwasher because there's a certain way the machine has to work, and the recycling has to be sorted (she refuses to learn how to do so correctly) and so on. If she asks me for something, I remind her that there is a Ukrainian word for "prosze" (budlaska) but I rarely hear it. I still tell her each time "pozhalsta".
20 years married. When she stops nagging, that's when I check my chai for poison.
It is astonishing though how us men have to be so cognizant and aware of our own existence, what we need to do, or not do, and so on similar to dating when women act like children and even married, they're still just better functional children, like older teenagers.
I remember a word of wisdom from an Americanized Pole (didn't speak or know Polish) who told me: "Your problem is you regard women as men when they're women. You have to think of them at all times as women". I realize that I simply have to remember they are women. They don't possess the same mentality as we do. I can do this with my cat for instance. When she's unusually human for a cat, and has an almost hyper aware consciousness, I'm amazed and in admiration but I know 10 seconds later, she'll be biting my toes because she thinks they are malo myszki.
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Want to share a Nice Guy Story:
Took my 7 year old daughter to an activity birthday party being hosted by her BFF's mother at a karate studio. I brought balloons and a gift and said hello to the mother (who was tatted up a bit, but otherwise appeared "normal"). Throughout the party I chatted politely with other fathers and routinely went to the mother and asked if she needed any help with picking up things and cleanup. My daughter later relayed to me that her BFF told her that the mother said I was "creepy". I can only guess that perhaps she thought I was too nice of a guy. I was not intrusive in any manner whatsoever.
So ok, I backed off. I didn't chat her up at all if I saw her at the playground with the kids and when my daughter held her own birthday party at our house, I left her be but nonetheless had a great time chatting with other guests. My daughter quietly relayed to me that I was no longer officially a "creep". One thing my daughter says that was interesting is that her BFF's mother is "Americanized".
While Russian women are (almost) as standoffish as American women, I find, they generally aren't so easily spooked or would use a term such as "creep" against men simply being nice. Perhaps it's because "nice guys" in America are viewed as "creeps" since this is how they try to hit on women later?
Or perhaps, I wonder, if my kindness and helpfulness was interpreted as "beta"? Do women, particularly americanized women, find men offering to help as feminine and therefore repugnant and unable to simply admit (and accept responsibility for this feeling), they simply label such men as "creepy" so that they can complain (real) "men" don't offer to help with chores?
I read a study that men who do an equal share of feminine housechores were surprisingly 50% MORE likely to get divorced than the ones whose wives complain he doesn't do enough.
One of the strongest lessons of the RP for me is how I learned that much of what I want to do, which is be kind and generous to people, often backfires. That I have to view other people much like with my child in that I can't simply be totally honest and kind with her because she might get spoiled and bratty. I love that I can be kind and sweet to my cat and she... doesn't punish me for doing so.
Read More1w ago TheRedPill
Another post by a (presumed granted) feminist with unfathomable tears of sorrow: twitter.com/TracyEdwardsMBE/status/1777639961686127017
1w ago TheRedPill
This is pretty darn hilarious. This is EXACTLY how I reacted when I heard about all this. Eating microwave popcorn while their world burns: twitter.com/DevonEriksen/status/1777174163557327252
@First-light I'm chuckling. My wife is a Soviet woman and "chemistry" for her involves mixing Plutonium and gasoline. My wife was similar to my grandmother who, back in the era of oppression, was more pragmatic about relationships and didn't expect a Disney/Hallmark romance provided entirely by the man. Granted, she's a blonde pain in the arse most of the time, but she's a mature person.
@polishknight, @moorekom, @woodsmoke, @Land_of_the_losers, @lurkerhasarisen So how about this one? She's lost hope, but admits to chasing Chad (similar to another one I found in the same comment thread.) Chasing Chad or Single Woman tears?
@polishknight, @moorekom, @woodsmoke, @Land_of_the_losers, @lurkerhasarisen So how about this one? She's lost hope, but admits to chasing Chad (similar to another one I found in the same comment thread.) Chasing Chad or Single Woman tears?
@Vermillion-Rx Taylor the Fiend did a cute analysis of one aging woman demanding men take her out on dinner dates and laughed that this was something only young women could pull off and even then, the young women would probably go for a coffee date if the guy is good looking meaning that if she insists upon a dinner date, she's probably wasting your time.
What's interesting about women is how even nice ones trying to advise men can't be honest about what actually works to further men's goals (not the women's) or the woman gets what she wants and then she's not happy with "the chemistry" anyway.
What's funny about my courtship with my wife is that it all went terribly wrong but we're together 23 years anyway: She picked a restaurant and it had no prices on the menu which was a bad sign and so they hit me with maximum prices and I had to go to an ATM. We went on a movie date after that and she picked a film "Unfaithful" about a woman cheating on her husband and the husband murdering the lover (I laughed my head off while she was in horror.) So decent people who go on bad dates find a way to work it out while men who take lousy women on ideal dates still wind up with a mess.
Read More@Typo-MAGAshiv I told a woke woman friend of mine that the Simpsons weren't funny anymore and she got all defensive about it. I have my theory as to why the Simpsons has collapsed but it may be because of writer's block (they've run out of ideas) and/or the new writers they tried to bring in were woke DEI's and lame.
Even so, there's plenty of non-controversial stuff they could make fun of if they were creative. I loved one episode in particular "You only move twice" where Homer gets a big raise to work at a different Nuclear power plant and it's run by a James Bond villain who turns out to be an actually nice boss AND Homer is actually a top performer but the rest of the family hates the move. There's still tons of stuff they could have fun with if they had someone who was passionate about these genres but the DEI writers are probably a bunch of zoomers who have little cultural experience.
I even tried to watch the Halloween episodes recently because those are sometimes fun but even those were lame. It's dead.
Read More@Typo-MAGAshiv @woodsmoke There's an element of tragedy in the Nelson Muntz character: Despite Nelson bullying Bart, the Simpsons did their best to show him kindness including Marge taking him in and even including him in activities. Bart rescued Nelson's father who had been suffering as a circus freak (albeit for the wrong reasons, to get him out of the Simpsons house). Muntz then told Bart that he still was going to bully him despite what he and his family had done.
I went to my H.S. reunion and found that it was life affirming that most of the losers simply dropped out of touch. By the 10th anniversary, one was deceased and another in prison for selling drugs near the school, but those that made it to the reunion were usually quite kind and non-cliquish. One bully actually apologized to me and said he turned his life around and was working off a Karma debt coaching and helping out kids.
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