This is nonsense.
He isn't there (and I don't blame him personally). She will see through that garbage unless it's real.
Absolutely not. She just wants to meet with you so she can make sure you're still interested in her enough that you can't move on. She already moved on.
Don't even show up. Don't respond when she asks why.
Can add data point from personal experience.
Right. Instead of losing the game, don't play it.
This isn't a work conversation.
Here's the deal.
As a professional in software development... Take this free advice with a grain of salt and the knowledge that I don't work in security.