I think regardless of gender if you do presence absence it'll have an effect. To be honest with you there's a girl I liked a lot here in Mexico who then started being quite absent and it made me want to talk to her a lot more. Eventually we stopped speaking entirely so there's a limit to it but it definitely helps not making yourself too available.
Fully, fully agree we can change who we are and that our brains are plastic. Only thing is we need to consciously do it. Otherwise we are being molded by our circumstances which is never going to work out good for us.
My pleasure. I think it's definitely something that we need to keep in mind consciously. It's so easy to just take words at face value and forget that to really look into past behaviours and what you can do to change yourself
This is highly relevant to me right now and I made this mistake. Except that I'm not leaving the country I'm in for another couple of months. I forgot about the mystery and not telling everything as well to keep her guessing.