If she brings it up it’s a bit of a red flag I think.

This is fun. I’m definitely not a slut :)

Yup, but don't read a book to figure out what is important to you. I'd rather be fat and 100% happy then ripped and 65% happy

Get a "mission". A rewarding hobby to invest in. Fitness is obvious, I find refuge in learning stuff about music and growing things.

So true. More often if you don't feel like you could "lose it" mentally

You got it