1y ago TheRedPill
What should I do if she starts dating somebody else?
What do you do if you're dating a girl, you haven't fucked her and she starts dating someone else and is losing interest for you?
That has happened to me several times and I usually just say "I'm not playing this, I'm not gonna be one of her spinning plates" but then when I withdraw from her that early in the relationship that makes it a lot worse and she just ends up running towards him and completely losing interest on me.
I know that if this happens I fucked up and lost her interest and I need to improve my game, I just wanna know a better strategy for regaining her interest and hopefully making her dump him and come back to me than just witthdrawing from her because that is definitely not working when there's somebody else involved and you're not in a LTR with her.
Any advice?
Find other women to date. Once a female has lost interest in you, it's best to move on. Sure, you could waste more of your precious finite time and energy doing things to renew her interest, but it'll only communicate to her which of you has placed the greater value in the other, diminishing her interest in you. This is counter productive to the goal of finding a mate, as it's time and energy better spent on someone new and there are plenty of other women to approach. Better to reflect on what you're aware that you're doing which kills their interest, if their interest was actually sincere.
Consider investing into a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, who until his passing was also known as Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several mens focused sites and a podcast. His media is a bit pricey, but it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from in RP aware circles. I'd suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
Beyond that, the best advice I could offer is that if exclusivity of any sort is something you want, you'll have to seek out females who show a sincere interest in such exclusivity with you. While you mull that over, get yourself some sleep, then in the morning move on from this girl and resume...
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@Problematic_Browser Thanks for your advice, however I think most of us are here to learn how to increase and maintain attraction, if moving on solved everything game wouldn't exist, we wanna know how to increase our chances with every girl not how to give up on them
1y ago TheRedPill
What should I do if she starts dating somebody else?
What do you do if you're dating a girl, you haven't fucked her and she starts dating someone else and is losing interest for you?
That has happened to me several times and I usually just say "I'm not playing this, I'm not gonna be one of her spinning plates" but then when I withdraw from her that early in the relationship that makes it a lot worse and she just ends up running towards him and completely losing interest on me.
I know that if this happens I fucked up and lost her interest and I need to improve my game, I just wanna know a better strategy for regaining her interest and hopefully making her dump him and come back to me than just witthdrawing from her because that is definitely not working when there's somebody else involved and you're not in a LTR with her.
Any advice?
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