1y ago TheRedPill
Got outed as a virgin infront of a room full of girls today
(18 years old btw) Was smoking with a group of people today, mostly girls, and my friends were discussing a party they’re throwing tomorrow night. My friend next to me (who is way more nerdy and timid than i am and somehow he’s managed to get himself a couple bodies) points at me and yells “WE NEED TO GET HIM LAID”. That of course brought up the topic, and since there were many people in the room that didnt know, i got hit with all the questions “why?” “how?” … The looks on the girls faces were crazy. like they’ve never came into contact with a virgin before. faces of disgust . It then also gets brought up that one of the girls in the room with us was 16 with 16 bodies. followed by more questions about how i could’ve possibly went 18 years with no sex. Honestly i’m not mad about it i just wanna get this issue under control. It’s not even that im bad looking or anything. my problem is just that im not very conversational or “fun to be around” for lack of better terms. basically i lack very much of a personality. And on top of that i live in small town central america and work paycheck to paycheck at Walmart. I do have a career as a musician im trying to get off the ground and it sometimes makes good conversation but most women i’ve talked to never really took much of an interest. but yea this my first time on this forum just wanted to share this with someone and maybe ask for any advice.
There's nothing wrong with still being a virgin at 18. I'd be more concerned that the girls who hang out with your friends value themselves so little that they've had so many sexual partner's so soon. Generally, it reads like the situation is that you've got friends and acquaintances of dubious character. I doubt you're really living paycheck to paycheck, because you wouldn't be burning money on cigarettes if you were. The cause of your problem here is that you've got low self confidence in yourself and you hang with the folks you do because they're either all that you're familiar and comfortable with, or you're not confident enough in yourself to handle being around more mature and experienced people.
Here's are some ideas for you to consider. Stop smoking. If you find it's hard to shake the habit, use nicotine gum, lozenges of transition to vaping. Also, get yourself a better variety of friends and acquaintances. Ideally, some who share your interests and can help advise you in what directions to take your interests in or how to build up a knowledge base so you can chart your own course. And lastly, stop caring what other people think of your notch count or lack there of. Unless you've got plans to become a gigolo or a porn star, it doesn't matter, never has, and never will.
To help you with females, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
To help you with your self-confidence and communication issues, consider getting yourself a copy of of the late George J Thompson's book, "Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion" and Mark Ripptoe's "Starting Strength: Basic Barbell Training". Assuming you're not a midwit intelligence, Verbal Judo will provide you with a foundation to navigating conversations with people like your nerd friend and you'll find that it's also generally applicable in most other situations. You'll also find yourself hard pressed to find yourself a better foundational guide to strength training than Mark Ripptoe's aptly named book. You shouldn't have any problems locating any of those books on ebook or bit torrent sites.
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Got outed as a virgin infront of a room full of girls today
(18 years old btw) Was smoking with a group of people today, mostly girls, and my friends were discussing a party they’re throwing tomorrow night. My friend next to me (who is way more nerdy and timid than i am and somehow he’s managed to get himself a couple bodies) points at me and yells “WE NEED TO GET HIM LAID”. That of course brought up the topic, and since there were many people in the room that didnt know, i got hit with all the questions “why?” “how?” … The looks on the girls faces were crazy. like they’ve never came into contact with a virgin before. faces of disgust . It then also gets brought up that one of the girls in the room with us was 16 with 16 bodies. followed by more questions about how i could’ve possibly went 18 years with no sex. Honestly i’m not mad about it i just wanna get this issue under control. It’s not even that im bad looking or anything. my problem is just that im not very conversational or “fun to be around” for lack of better terms. basically i lack very much of a personality. And on top of that i live in small town central america and work paycheck to paycheck at Walmart. I do have a career as a musician im trying to get off the ground and it sometimes makes good conversation but most women i’ve talked to never really took much of an interest. but yea this my first time on this forum just wanted to share this with someone and maybe ask for any advice.
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