When do you validate/comfort your plates/gfs/LTRs/etc? I've found since coming across TRP I am very rarely validating or complimenting women, and it's almost causing more issues than if I were to be validating them. I tend to do it if she earns it in some way, be it dressing up nicely for me, getting me something, or doing something else nice for me. When I find I don't do it, the woman seems to start questioning whether I actually like her or not, will become insecure, and comfort/shit tests will increase. I believe in expressing validation through actions rather than words, and this seems to get me in some trouble
@drake its 100% my fault. She started off very sweet, and i got her to a point where she was somewhat submissive despite being a control freak. When she developed feelings for me she started to go crazy because i didnt allow her to control me or feed into her fights. I just walked away. My mistake was letting her reel me back in when she would be sweet again and wed have make up sex. But just as soon as she made it up to me she would have another emotional outburst and blow up on me, accusing me of things with no evidence, berating and belittling me, threatening me with leaving me, etc. There are many narcissistic qualities about her that i dont know where to begin, or have the time right now to type out. I eventually lost the ability to walk away, the fighting and getting back together became addicting. This girl is also not only the hottest ive been with, but the hottest ive ever met too. She had many other very rare and good qualities, this was before i knew about narcissism so i thought if i stuck it out she could change, because she seemed to be working on herself. The sex became very emotionally charged and intense with all the fighting we did. Overall just lost the ability to walk away fully despite being unhappy and frustrated, i kept seeing other girls but this one had claws deep in me
Read MoreAnyone have any experience or advice following a relationship with a NPD woman? Feel completely drained after being with this girl and how she brought so much trouble to my life.
I was seeing this girl who ghosted me after i showed some needy behavior. I started sleeping with her best friend and now shes contacted me saying she wants to make things work again. How does this make sense