Oh my God, I am in so much pain right now. Went out with a girl... We've been friends for a long time. But we've always been kind of more than friends, there was kissing, blowjobs, etc. But this was 2+ years ago, not much sexual happened in a while. She's quite promiscuous. Always has several guys she's seeing, at the same time. I don't mind this. I am interested in getting sexual experience, not in a serious relationship.
Anyway, we were hanging out today. The vibe seemed good throughout. When I started being more physical with friendly touches, she didn't recoil / move away and she actually started doing some touches back. I thought okay cool, let's go for a kiss, but she rejected it.
I cannot even begin to describe the pain I am in right now. This all happened 30 minutes ago, I followed her to the bus station afterwards and she left. Hugged me and said that "I'm her friend", that I'm "handsome and could have any girl I want".
I can't believe this. She'd fuck anything that breathes yet I get friend zoned or whatever this is. I'm dying. This literally feels like death. The pain is unbearable. I'm cringing at my existence. I just feel like kicking myself in the face.
PAIN
I know I already told you about the book, but you seem to be in a situation similar to @Randorober638. I offered him some more advice beyond just reading the book I think you should consider applying to your own situation. Best of luck to you.
Read MoreHello, kinda new here and I'm seeking some advice.
So no matter what I do I end up in similar situation: I keep watching girls I like pick someone else and then watching them together for a long period of time (usually we are classmates who are in the same friend group and I can't really avoid them because we see eachother everyday).
This happened thrice and it hurt me so much that I don't even wanna date anyone.
Girl 1: Used me for attention, I was kinda her best friend, was stuck in this shit for 3 years, she kept making out with other men, I was a classic beta orbiter, barely managed to get out of this, hurt me a lot
Girl 2: Was my classmate in highschool. She and another classmate got together, openly made out infront of me cuz they knew I liked her, I received snapchats of them after sex in her bed. This was going on for 3 years and really fucked me up.
Girl 3: Was my classmate in college. She and this dude from our friend group started hooking up, we went on a trip and I listened to them having sex every night (6 days) because the walls were so thin, this really fucked me up, I was shaking and crying. And I have to say it completely broke me. I keep hearing their voices when I try to sleep, it's like I developed some sort of PTSD?
These are the only 3 women I ever liked. I'm more of a romantic type and I'm not really into hooking up with random women.
The most funny thing is that I also attract a lot of women, women approach me themselves and I can get a hook up easily but for some reason I can't get women I actually like? Women who like me usually aren't attractive to me, are boring, the women I like are never into me :/
So what am I doing wrong? Why are women I usually like so toxic? Also why do these situations keep happening? Why do I have to watch women I like be with everyone else except me? How to avoid this?
Females use everyone for attention who make themselves available to be used for attention. The challenge for most men is in valuing your time and energy to spend it on other things than on those looking to waste it. Look into a few hobbies that occupy your downtime when not working or studying. Make plans to take day trips to see the sights your state or province has to offer. Challenge yourself to do things that you've been putting off to build up your self confidence. If you're not currently in shape, get in shape.
As for women, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
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Hello, kinda new here and I'm seeking some advice.
So no matter what I do I end up in similar situation: I keep watching girls I like pick someone else and then watching them together for a long period of time (usually we are classmates who are in the same friend group and I can't really avoid them because we see eachother everyday).
This happened thrice and it hurt me so much that I don't even wanna date anyone.
Girl 1: Used me for attention, I was kinda her best friend, was stuck in this shit for 3 years, she kept making out with other men, I was a classic beta orbiter, barely managed to get out of this, hurt me a lot
Girl 2: Was my classmate in highschool. She and another classmate got together, openly made out infront of me cuz they knew I liked her, I received snapchats of them after sex in her bed. This was going on for 3 years and really fucked me up.
Girl 3: Was my classmate in college. She and this dude from our friend group started hooking up, we went on a trip and I listened to them having sex every night (6 days) because the walls were so thin, this really fucked me up, I was shaking and crying. And I have to say it completely broke me. I keep hearing their voices when I try to sleep, it's like I developed some sort of PTSD?
These are the only 3 women I ever liked. I'm more of a romantic type and I'm not really into hooking up with random women.
The most funny thing is that I also attract a lot of women, women approach me themselves and I can get a hook up easily but for some reason I can't get women I actually like? Women who like me usually aren't attractive to me, are boring, the women I like are never into me :/
So what am I doing wrong? Why are women I usually like so toxic? Also why do these situations keep happening? Why do I have to watch women I like be with everyone else except me? How to avoid this?
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