I met a barista today that seemed interested in me so I want to ask her out. I have met a solid group of guys I have been going out with every Friday and Saturday to game the clubs with. We have fun with it.
I’m thinking I’ll tell her (not ask) “Hey Trinity my friends and I like to go out on Saturday nights to (location) and we have a ton of fun, you should join us there this weekend at 9”
Any tips how I could phrase this better?
Reading the above, I can't tell if you want this barista to hang out with your friends and you, or if you want a date with her. You seem apprehensive about the idea of it, so maybe you should think on it more.
While you're sorting yourself out on the matter, consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
Read MoreI met a barista today that seemed interested in me so I want to ask her out. I have met a solid group of guys I have been going out with every Friday and Saturday to game the clubs with. We have fun with it.
I’m thinking I’ll tell her (not ask) “Hey Trinity my friends and I like to go out on Saturday nights to (location) and we have a ton of fun, you should join us there this weekend at 9”
Any tips how I could phrase this better?
Girl matches me on tinder saying her and her 2 friends are in town for the weekend on vacation looking to party. I feel like I have a solid chance at a foursome, but I also have a guy friend group I pick up girls with regularly on Saturday nights. Should I still invite them out with me and the girls? End goal I want to get in this girl’s hotel room with just me and her and her 2 friends.
Any tips? Never had a 3some let alone a 4.
Girl tried to friendzone me on first date, at the end I told her I wanted to kiss her all day. Where do I go from here?
I went snowboarding with a girl I just met from my new workplace. Incredibly hot 9/10 Russian girl. We were smoking and drinking all day on the mountain getting drunk and stoned shredding pow having a blast. I felt a genuine connection, she is just like me. I didn’t want to escalate on the mountain because it is 3 hours away from our town and the last thing I wanted was rejection and then stuck in a car for 3 hours after the fact. I know I know, fear of rejection is the killer, I usually never feel this anymore, I’m a seasoned red pill man of several years. So I planned all day to kiss her when I drop her back off at her house.
I could tell all day she was trying to friendzone me, this further explaining why I didn’t try to make a move on the mountain. She was talking about how she fucks 35 year olds at our country club with expensive Rolex’s and wife and kids etc (she’s 23) I’m 28. I knew what she was doing, trying to friendzone. I didn’t really know what to do, as I don’t experience this much, I’m a pretty attractive dude, I never really face friendzone issues, but I guess this girl is just that hot (she is).
Anyway, at her house when I dropped her off she seemed very standoffish like she has been in this situation before with many guys and was trying to avoid a kiss or escalation rushing out of my car grabbing her board and going into her house. So I skipped telling her how I felt, figured it wouldn’t go anywhere any ways, just played the nice guy.
BUT she left her phone in my car. I didn’t realize until I already got back to my place 30 minutes away. She added an extra 1 hour round trip for me because she left her phone in my car. I was pissed. This brought my red pill out. When I came to give her her phone I told her how I felt. I came to her door handed her her phone and she gave me one of those fake friendzone hugs where she leans in and just touches my lower back with her hand. I said “whatever” and walked back towards my car still running on the street.
When I’m halfway down her driveway she goes out her door and says “wait! Take these prerolled joints! I feel so bad you had to come back!” She runs to meet me halfway down the driveway and hands them to me. I laugh and say “honestly this is nice of you, but I need to tell you, and I don’t give a fuck what your response to this is, but I wanted to kiss you all day on the slopes. So take that for what it is.” While I’m holding her joints. She says “woah woah woah we need to chill out here.” I said “yeah, you’re right, we do, I just needed to make my intentions clear. Here, take your joints back, I don’t want them.” Handed her her joints back and turned around and walked back to my car. As I’m walking back down ignoring her she’s yelling “wait I’m sorry! I promise we will hang out again! I’m sorry!” I didn’t reply, I shut the door and drove off.
How did I handle this?
You're nearly thirty years old, threw a tantrum when a pretty girl rejected you, and she responded to it by trying to give you a gift to pacify you like some whining baby. While it's not entirely unreasonable to think you could've handled the situation better, I've known guys who handled it far worse, but they were at least a decade younger by comparison.
Consider investing in a reliable ready reference you can pick up and study to better prepare yourself for engaging the opposite sex. I'd suggest that you get yourself a copy of Doc Love's "The System: The Dating Dictionary". Doc Love, also known as the late Tom Hodges, wrote a weekly advice column that's archive is mirrored on several sites and a podcast. While his media is a bit pricey, it's a solid foundation a guy can branch out from, but I would also suggest you review his advice column to decide if his view on dating and relationships is aligned with what you aspire for yourself. To save yourself a search, give this scribed link a gander to find out if his book is something you'd like to add to your library.
Sadly, the girl was indeed successful in friend-zoning you. You did things during the date which killed whatever nascent interest in you she had when you asked her out. Once a female loses interest in a guy, it's done, over. There's little to be done to renew that interest and the tantrum definitely didn't help. You're going to see her at work, so remain friendly as you've always ever been, but beyond that you don't waste any energy with her or thought on her.
Whatever you did, you strike me as self aware enough to figure out what those things could've been and remove them from your life. For now, use this experience as fuel for the fire that stokes your engine of self improvement and development. Focus on being the best you can be.
To get over the pain, you're going to have to living your life better than when you got over the other girls that rejected you in the past. Make it a goal to shake any bad habits you've developed in your life. If you're masturbating, as well as smoking pot, and regularly getting drunk, those are as likely a place to start as any. Replace them with more beneficial habits. Make it a goal to continue to live your life better than you did the year before. As time goes on, you'll learn to not feel pain or frustration from these failures, but only disappointment. There will be times you'll be disappointed in yourself and in others, but you will learn to accept that which is in your control and that which isn't.
After all, there's more to the red pill than women. They're just companions at best, accessories at worst.
Read More@TwoInchesOfShaft so I just gotta let this one go? No fixing this situation either in person at work or over text?
Girl tried to friendzone me on first date, at the end I told her I wanted to kiss her all day. Where do I go from here?
I went snowboarding with a girl I just met from my new workplace. Incredibly hot 9/10 Russian girl. We were smoking and drinking all day on the mountain getting drunk and stoned shredding pow having a blast. I felt a genuine connection, she is just like me. I didn’t want to escalate on the mountain because it is 3 hours away from our town and the last thing I wanted was rejection and then stuck in a car for 3 hours after the fact. I know I know, fear of rejection is the killer, I usually never feel this anymore, I’m a seasoned red pill man of several years. So I planned all day to kiss her when I drop her back off at her house.
I could tell all day she was trying to friendzone me, this further explaining why I didn’t try to make a move on the mountain. She was talking about how she fucks 35 year olds at our country club with expensive Rolex’s and wife and kids etc (she’s 23) I’m 28. I knew what she was doing, trying to friendzone. I didn’t really know what to do, as I don’t experience this much, I’m a pretty attractive dude, I never really face friendzone issues, but I guess this girl is just that hot (she is).
Anyway, at her house when I dropped her off she seemed very standoffish like she has been in this situation before with many guys and was trying to avoid a kiss or escalation rushing out of my car grabbing her board and going into her house. So I skipped telling her how I felt, figured it wouldn’t go anywhere any ways, just played the nice guy.
BUT she left her phone in my car. I didn’t realize until I already got back to my place 30 minutes away. She added an extra 1 hour round trip for me because she left her phone in my car. I was pissed. This brought my red pill out. When I came to give her her phone I told her how I felt. I came to her door handed her her phone and she gave me one of those fake friendzone hugs where she leans in and just touches my lower back with her hand. I said “whatever” and walked back towards my car still running on the street.
When I’m halfway down her driveway she goes out her door and says “wait! Take these prerolled joints! I feel so bad you had to come back!” She runs to meet me halfway down the driveway and hands them to me. I laugh and say “honestly this is nice of you, but I need to tell you, and I don’t give a fuck what your response to this is, but I wanted to kiss you all day on the slopes. So take that for what it is.” While I’m holding her joints. She says “woah woah woah we need to chill out here.” I said “yeah, you’re right, we do, I just needed to make my intentions clear. Here, take your joints back, I don’t want them.” Handed her her joints back and turned around and walked back to my car. As I’m walking back down ignoring her she’s yelling “wait I’m sorry! I promise we will hang out again! I’m sorry!” I didn’t reply, I shut the door and drove off.
How did I handle this?
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