This is not about cheating. It’s about having your own life outside of your LTR. Keep your friends in place, keep your hobbies in place, do what you want to do when you want to do it. You don’t need her permission to go to a concert out of town with you buddies. Make your plans and go. If one day you don’t want to be in a LTR then break it off and go back to ONS and spinning plates.