The rape fantasy part isn't really what I'm worried about. It's the abuse fantasy regarding the argument we had. It's more of fantasizing about him losing his temper. The rape fantasy is more of a biproduct.
Just hearing that it's not so uncommon from another person helps a lot. I think I've been so immersed in my relationship I've been devoid of outside perspective of other people's real sexual lives. Outside of what's on tv.