I suspect that it pretty much happens in the way OP described in his detailed posting.

"...women in the workplace are insane, completely fucking scary, you really do need to appease to them in every way or risk getting fucked with, they're so totalitarian, uptight and gossipy, they're only concerned with passing blame and avoiding being called out..."

Blue Pill and Social Conditioning goes deep in the psyche. After a lifetime of reinforcement, it's virtually impossible for some men to unlearn this behavior. These guys are doomed to a lifetime of misery and suffering with some intolerable shrew. Society is not doing men any favors with this "just be yourself" and "be a nice guy crap."

On women being loyal...I've heard something similar as well, but on another forum and with much the same wording.

"A woman should never be a focus of man's life..."

I concur and support this statement.

Get your body, your health, your money/finances, your confidence and intellect, and your masculinity in order.

I'm not saying men don't have to exert some effort toward women, but when you're ready you won't have to max effort.

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Paternity by estoppel can result in court-ordered child support for spending time with another man's kid(s). Courts don't want to pick up the tab and they need suckers to foot the bill for Mr. Deadbeat's kid(s). Spending time is enough to start a lawsuit and cohabitation as a family is not necessarily a requirement. KNOW THESE LAWS!