Why do women want a Fendi purse when they already have a perfectly good one in their closet?

These women need a man to complete the status picture that allows them to compete with their BFF frenemies when they gather for lunch at the latest instagram-worthy restaurant.

They are not interested in sex. They can get (and usually have gotten) as much sex as they want fucking hot but poor dudes on the down low (or traveling to Bali / Jamaica / Africa as part of the female sex tourism trade). And as you mention, they don't necessarily need the extra money, just like they don't really need the Fendi bag.

But everyone and their mother (including their own) will regard them as incomplete if they don't have the perfect home life. And that starts with a top tier man:

Why does she need someone richer? Not for the money (at least at her level). Because it implies that he chose her for something besides her wealth. Her personality, her looks, etc.

Why does he need to be hot and charismatic and funny and desirable? It's actually not for sexual attraction (she'll fuck the pool boy when he's gone, or keep a cub on the side as she enters her cougar years). It's because of what that says about her: he's desirable enough to get loads of women offering casual sex all the way to marriage, but only she tamed him. He chose her, and not for a ONS, but for marriage.

IOW, it is all about her. She may not even be interested in kids (or if she is, it's only because those bitches from high school keep posting pictures of their totes-adorbs kiddos on instagram and she has no reply). She knows she needs a man because ultimately they crave male desire (not the man himself; just his desire) because it's another token in their game of status one-up-manship.

If they really just wanted a good man who would take care of her and their family, and be a great partner for the rest of their lives, then they wouldn't care if he has the "right" job or came from the "right" college, etc. But the only way these psychopaths have sustained themselves on the bruising path to extraordinary salaries (when most people would level off and focus on other parts of their lives after hitting a comfortable level, like say 1 crore) is because that number becomes a status object as well. It's why Elon Musk wants to become a trillionaire, while he admits to couch surfing at friends' homes. You think he needs the extra money? The number is just another status object for someone who's addicted to it. And for a woman like this, a man is the biggest missing status object that she needs to acquire.

I think as men, we have absolutely no clue how innate and intricate women's status competitions are. For most men, "status" boils down to one main thing: How hot is the girl you're fucking? Beyond that are other levers but they're entirely optional. Even money isn't a big deal; I've hung out with multi-millionaires and a few billionaires, and no one really cares, except perhaps when that money allows them to attract a woman hotter than you can get.

And I think it's because we're descended from chimps. In chimp colonies, male status is very, very clear. You are higher on the status chain because you beat up the other guy. And if you wish to increase your status, you challenge the alpha to a fight, beat his ass, and his kingdom is yours. There's no other way to gaining respect and status for a guy. If you're a low status chimp, you have two choices: fight the guy above you, or leave the colony.

In contrast, female chimps don't overtly fight each other. While lineage is perhaps the most important determinant, it's not the be-all and end-all the way fighting is for males. Who grooms whom, who is allowed to discipline who's children, even who walks first on a path, are all part of the hustle.

So while status is equally important for both sexes, for males, it's down to one single factor, and it's explicit. Once it's settled, it's done. For females, it's a multitude of factors, most of which are varying degrees of subtle, and it's never explicit. Always implicit, varying, calibrating.

Which is why for human females, they spend so much time negotiating status among other women, while us guys scratch our heads and wonder why they waste so much time in pointless games.

Why do they want a relationship in the first place?

That's the neat part, they don't actually want the relationship itself, they despise being a worthwhile partner and call it "emotional labor" and misc other euphemisms to avoid outright admitting that they think they are entitled to the status and conveniences of a relationship while inputting none of the work. It's just another check on the GirlBoss achievement list.

Meanwhile the man will be expected to earn enough to support at minimum two people in an upper class lifestyle in the Big City with no assistance or appreciation. And buh gawd he better not think he gets to rest for 5 min after getting home from his 80 hr work week at a job he hates, no, he better chip in on childcare and housework immediately with a smile too.

These women literally expect some creepy Stepford husband shit and are baffled when men aren't interested.

Well said.

Over the decades, I have developed a theory: These women are increasingly asexual and ambivalent towards men. They're Corporate Nuns © or mental lesbians. They have lifetime friends with other women from childhood competing to be at The Cool Table or The Mean Girls. They claim The Patriarchy suppresses them but they are terrified of being condemned by other women, even women on the street they don't even know.

Not only that, but they even despise men. There's feminism, of course, which taught them that men are oppressors but also trad-feminism which teaches them we are disposable ATM machine sexual beggars. They find the ideologies alluring because it guarantees to them servants to please them, but the paradox is that they regard such men to be pathetic and disgusting to share a bed with.

Their solution is quite simple: They'll TOLERATE a man if he's like a Marvel Superhero: If he has ultra high social status so that ALL women will regard him on her arm in public as a status symbol, like a designer purse. Those men are desirable of course BUT she can't tell the sisterhood she "slutted" for him by paying her own way on dates, or asking him out. She needs to require him to be "sensitive" enough to reject other women for her but still do everything the betas do.

"Why are men so selfish?" she thinks.

She didn't think about this before until age 39 similar to not studying for an unpleasant exam the night before. There are women who do get pregnant at age 39 and certainly some betas would snatch them up. After decades of hamster wheel building Franken-Beta-Chads, the best she can do is call someone and say:

"Here's $10 grand, go out and find Franken-Beta-Chad. If he hurries, he can wife me up and put an IVF baby in me AND please my parents AND impress all my friends! Do you need an extra $20 for cab fare and expenses?"

Cross posted in r/WAATGM.

India's traditional numbering system is a little different than US systems. We have names for intervals of 3 digits, i.e. 1,000 = thousand; 1,000,000 = million; 1,000,000,000 = billion (I understand in England it's different: 1 billion = 1 million x 1 million. Someone correct me if I'm wrong?)

In India, they go by two digits. 1,000 = thousand; but then 1,00,000 = lakh; 1,00,00,000 = crore So 1 crore in Indian terms is the same as 10 million. Convert 10 million rupees to USD with exchange rate of 95 INR = 1 USD => ~$105,000 dollars (or 1 lakh dollars if you prefer :-)

(to go higher than 1 crore, we use 1,000,00,00,000 = 1 thousand crore (10 billion) and 1,00,000,00,00,000 = 1 lakh crore (1 trillion))

Now, $200k doesn't seem like much to American ears, but to earn 2 crore rupees in India, you are extraordinarily rich. Using this calculator: https://indiaincomecheck.in/

It would put you in the top 0.044%. The equivalent salary (based on income percentile) in the US would be somewhere between $5-10 million annually.

That's what she's looking for in a man. Oh yeah, and he has to be hot, never married, and no more than 3 years older than her. And now you know why she's looking for 12 years and hasn't found anyone...

(NB: she apparently lives in Singapore, and is looking for someone there. I'm not sure what $200k means in terms of income percentile in Singapore. So maybe she's a touch more realistic there :-)