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After my recent breakup and dealing with severe anxiety and heartbreak, somehow I managed to act.

Will not get into the breakup of my relationship, it just happen recently. I am lost, feeling lonely and heartbroken, jumping from severe anxiety to just anxiety on a daily basis.

As I was trying to keep busy from thinking about my pain, i spotted a chick on social media, I had her as a friend for a while but never spoken with her, i did see her around the city a while so I decided to message her.

I texted her some compliments about the way she rides her motorcycle, I thought nothing of this and moved on with my day. Later she replied that she's surprised that I noticed that and that she's happy for the compliments.

We started chatting about motorcycles and school and life, nothing too deep, just lightweight stuff.

Morning comes and her messages are just the same but she quickly turns into a sad message as she had her Long distance "relationship" end. In my heartbroken pain i decided to just voice message her with simply "You are sad, let me take you out of the house and you will feel better". She rejected my proposal at first but I insisted one more time with "how about I convince you to go out and fell better about today?".

I get the simple text back 5 minutes later "alright, i think i'm going out, where are we meeting?".

We ended up meeting in a good place in the city and what was supposed to be a "1 hour walk and we talk" thing, ended up being 3 hours of walking and talking, then driving her car, then staying in the car for more than an hour.

After much talking and personal insights into ourselves, we ended up french kissing in front of everyone, as the car was parked front first next to a nice place full of people.

We have plans to go out again "As friends" because we are both heartbroken and we need to take it easy. I don't care either way, even if she ends up being just a friend, she's a good addition to my life.

What i've learned here?

I'm strong yet I don't know it yet.
Just because some bad thing happened to you, it does not stop you to act on your logic and do something, even if it means risking feeling worse.
I got game, both in text and face to face. When i was with this chick, i turned her around from "not wanting to kiss" to having a full blown making session.
Heartbeak hurts a lot, my mind is filled with bad thoughts, but when I was with this chick, my brain was quiet, the pain was less present.

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dreams 1w ago

If attraction is what you're trying to build or maintain, you have to slowly divulge information about you and yourself to her.

If a man is heartbroken the best way through that is to slay some pussy to feel like he still has it. It's women who need emotional support (and especially from men to know they still "got it" to boost their ego). If you need emotional support and don't have it find a therapist or if you can, exercise instead.

Heartbreak stems from investing more in your relationship than they invest in you. If you're heartbroken the most likely reason is you fell for the last girl because she manipulated you into being addicted to her. Learn game, learn how to prevent yourself from being manipulated so that you have the upper hand in your relationships. The party who is less invested always gets away with less heartbreak if any. The difference is that this girl invested more in her relationship (the guy got off cleaner), and you invested more in yours (your girl got off cleaner) and thus you are both heartbroken. Heartbreak and anxiety are signals from your body to wake up and figure out what you did wrong so it doesn't happen again. Don't be reliant on women for your happiness or to fulfill you, it's just another form of addiction.

As for anxiety, make sure you stay hydrated (coconut water for some reason increases my HRV), do some type of exercise that involves all your limbs moving back and forth (https://helpscounselling.com/understanding-bilateral-stimulation), wind down and sleep at proper times, take epsom salt balts, sleep on the floor or sit on the floor for grounding effects.