Met this girl through friends of friends, she was from NZ but living in the UK, had a 1 year LTR, i couldn't cum for six months, that made the relationship rocky. she was mega mega insecure, hated me jerking off, thought i would flirt with others, never did.
Anyway we broke up a few weeks ago, it was nasty, she was going through my phone like normal and saw a photo of a girl i ss on my phone and she blew up on me, i decided to end it then and she kept hitting me up saying she was gonna kys etc, the next day she came to my city (which she never wanted to visit during the LTR), got drunk in a park and got her dumb ass hospitalised. then reported me for rape,
I got arrested and spent the night in jail, luckily common sense prevailed in this dumb bitch and she dropped the charges a week later because she wouldn't do a video interview.
The fine ass police detective handling my case was saying she still wants to see me, but i can get her done for harassment if she keeps trying to reach out, this baddie even came over to my house to drop my phone off instead of making me go to the cop station.
I just wanted to rant because i let my frame slip so fucking bad in my first relationship, lesson learnt, i did wanna see this bitch like one a week max but i ended up practically living in my car and getting hotels 3days/week to see her.
So glad its over now, practically wasted a year, graduated uni but no job, because we spent all our time fighting, low on funds because that bitch was expensive, (like 16k over the year) but tryna find my groove, need to hit gym, already working on my side hustle and the moneys rolling in

Lone_Ranger 3 1w ago
jesus - I have second hand shame just listening to your story.
Firstly - never ever even consider seeing this woman again. She is a disaster. Drama and trauma. If she does text you, just text her back saying;
"I am currently in discussions with the police about potentially prosecuting you for making false accuastions of sexual assault. As you know, making false accusations is a serious offence, which will usually result in a custodial sentence. The police have advised me further that they will support any application that I make to have an exclusion order applied against you, for my own safety. Do not contact me again, by any means. If you fail to adhere to this condition, you will be hearing from the police."
dreams 1mo ago
You sound weak. Get yourself together and I mean that in the nicest way possible.
Get as strong as you physically can, to the point that if a motherfucker dared look in your way they would shake in their boots.
Settling for crazy bitches and putting up with it means that something is going wrong in your own life.
Glad she's out of the picture but the pattern won't stop until you realize you are a weak bitch and fix it.
Good luck brother.
TJMS 4w ago
Become mentally strong, too. Really, I would say this precedes and has a higher priority than physical strength, but both are important.
hiteleven 4w ago
thanks for the reply man sorry you had to read all that beta shit I appreciate the advice, ill take it all onboard
dreams 4w ago
No problem. We've all been there before and it can always creep back in at any moment. Stay vigilant.
Read this:
https://theredarchive.com/blog/Illimitable-Men https://theredarchive.com/blog/Heartiste
Read these two blogs from the beginning, one is about 50 posts and the other will take you much longer but it has other topics you can filter out if you wish. It may take a week or two to go through all of them, but once you do you will have a fresh slate to start with. Then every 1 year come back and re-read the articles to further ingrain it into you. Remember, it's a war with her and you should arm yourself the best you can.
magushero18 1mo ago
you actually went to prison
hiteleven 4w ago
not prison just in custody for 16 hours while they waited to interview me
wswZtyqNGQ 1mo ago
"she was going through my phone like normal"
(≖_≖ )
hiteleven 4w ago
sorry you had to hear that beta shit ill do better
TJMS 1mo ago
Indeed, WTF
First-light 2 1mo ago
Glad to hear you got out of it safe. There is a lesson in this for us all. Women really can be dangerous for more than your wallet and your sanity.
No-Stress-Cat 1mo ago
A good lesson learned, Young Jedi.
When you put pussy on a pedestal, the golden rays that shine down will always blind and burn the fuck out of you.
Mountainman 1mo ago
The detective wants you brooo
throwaway415 1 1mo ago
damn bro that's fucked
stay away from these psycho bitches man. or at the very least, don't have LTRs with them
go fuck the detective lol