It only took my heart getting absolutely crushed that I finally started understanding everything you guys have taught, and spoken about. The importance of putting yourself first, your goals, your ambitions, your fitness, your mental health, all of it, before your partner/girlfriend/wife.
I learned that if you don't, she'll build resentment for you. She'll resent you for not having drive, for not having purpose, for becoming a sloppy piece of shit from the once Roman chiseled statue you once were. She'll feed you lies to keep you in complacency while she plots your downfall, and the next guy that she's going to fuck because you're fucking lazy. Because you got complacent, because you got too fucking comfortable. Enough of that shit, get your shit together.
I finally understand. Had I kept my fitness up, my goals, my ambitions, MY TIME sacred, all of this bullshit heart break and sadness wouldn't have happened. You know what though? I'm fucking grateful, I'm grateful I got exposed, I'm grateful that my faults were laid out for everyone to see.
Because now, I know the focus, I know how to be better, I will be better. I know now the importance of putting myself first, because even if she does leave, I'm still on the path. I am no longer angry at her, or women I am angry with how complacent I had become.
I became the shell of a man, I was a boy who thought he was a man, but now I understand. Never again will I allow myself to become like that again.
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Durek_The_Bald 1mo ago
Yup. Think about it as a tripple-win:
You get to be "selfish", take good care of yourself, do the things you want to, foster social connections outside the relationship, invest time in your hobbies, friends, projects, career, whatever...
...and you're more likely to get rewarded in your relationship by maintaining attraction, which again leads to great sex and good behaviour from your woman...
...and whatever time and attention you do invest in the comfort side of things will be many times as potent when "comfort" isn't your main modus operandi.
No-Stress-Cat 1mo ago
Some of us here have gone through the fire several times before we chose to stop getting ourselves burned. Your eyes have been opened and the blue veil lifted. Well-done young brother. Welcome to the Red Pill.
Overkill_Engine Endorsed Contributor 1mo ago
Lot of men have to learn the hard way that the majority of women are not looking for an equal, they are looking for a man that is superior to them.
They will not explicitly admit as much, but if you simply observe what they respond best to, it's a man that is literally better than them in several if not all ways.
And of course, "better" by their definition, not ours.
That backstreet thug who is only good for crime and violence is perfectly superior to the sensibilities of the cavewoman brain because cavewoman brain does not want a weak mate, even if that propensity for violence is a eventually going to end in a dead mate in modern society.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1mo ago
+1
Typo-MAGAshiv Endorsed Contributor 1mo ago
From Roissy's Sixteen Commandments of Poon, we have number 3:
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