So I made a post the other day about putting that I don’t like tattoos on hinge.
I got some interesting responses that made sense in terms of LTRing, however I still think that girls who use online dating in general are sluts, tatted or not, so I don’t want an LTR from online dating regardless, and I’d be fine with plating a tattooed girl.
BUT, I do wonder if there are some personality traits with tatted girls that I may be able to avoid by not even swiping on them.
For example, I had a date set for tonight with a girl who had a tattoo. She texted me saying she couldn’t make it and asked to reschedule. I asked why she couldn’t make it and she said her church asked her to volunteer.
Then when I tried to reschedule she said she wants to talk more because she didn’t want to “waste a night of her life” if she didn’t know we’d “vibe”.
I told her that I’d be wasting the night too so if she wouldn’t risk that then I’m not going to waste my time messaging her.
Anyway, this flakiness is annoying. If her church really asked her to volunteer then that’s fine, I guess (though I’d prefer if she’d tell her church to fuck off since she had plans already), but the fact that all of a sudden she wants to message more to “get to know” each other seems to indicate that she’s lying or that she’s indecisive.
I’m wondering if I can avoid the traits of irresponsibility by swiping left on girls that I wouldn’t LTR at face value, even though I’m not on online dating for an LTR since I think that all girls on online dating are not worth LTRing, even if they don’t have other red flags (in my opinion online dating is the hugest red flag imaginable).
So I’d swipe left on girls with colored hair, tattoos, girls who talk about astrology, girls who talk about traveling, and girls who are nurses.
What are your thoughts? Will I get less flakes?
Acela_nextel 1y ago
Bro just talk to women irl like fr
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Try to curb the autism a bit my friend, you're overthinking.
When looking for potential plates/fuck buddies your thought process should be as simple as "do i want to fuck this chick?". If yes, go for it, and vice versa. Stop hamstering over every little detail. Seriously, this is an area where you need to improve your self control. You're too much in your head right now.
All of this sounds very boring and i dont blame her for not being very interested. Try to invest less, have more fun with it, relax, and dont take these things too seriously.
Relevant read https://theredarchive.com/r/TheRedPill/game-for-best-results-dont-be-heavy.63983
Stop THINKING so much about useless stuff. Her excuse is completely irrelevant.
No. Stop trying to find better girls and start working on your mentality.
I know you feel like you already are, but you need to recalibrate more often somehow. I suggest less time on OLD and more time socialising and gaming women IRL. NO thinking about how a woman should be. Focus on yourself. More masculinity, less femininity.
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Typo-MAGAshiv 1 1y ago
Well said.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
I really think you should go watch some fresh and fit videos on youtube about instagram dating. This is a numbers game where you create marketing funnels that sell your brand of lifestyle to women. You are branding yourself. Just use dating apps to get them over to instagram. Use cold approaches and show them your instagram. There is a definite technique to it. Then instagram does the selling and spamming them every time you gain a follower or upload a photo of your amazing lifestyle. That's how you do online dating. Even a supermodel couldn't get a chick on Tinder. https://nypost.com/2019/08/20/mr-tinder-finds-love-offline-after-14600-failed-matches/
Vermillion-Rx Admin 1y ago
You conveyed something sexual probably in text. Even if not overtly. That's resistance. Better text game will help you avoid this. She already matched with you based on sexual attraction, keep it simple and get her on a date where you can use your actual game and intentions
As to your question, save LTR for whatever standards you have for them, but you're not gonna get many plates if you rule out common and mundane things. Also every plate is going to have red flags, that's why they're just a plate. Girls don't let themselves be plates unless they are damaged.
If you want a plate there is a degree of baggage and relationship deal breaker you're going to have to accept bro. Some have limited baggage but plates will have it, you have to accept it.
Now if you only want to plate plates with certain physical attributes that's more in your control. don't wanna fuck a girl with tats? Then don't. Half my lays were with girls that didn't have tats.
But if you have a hot girl with a physical deal breaker for you that otherwise is pretty mild thats you're choice.
Do you want sex or do you want perfection in a casual lay? Cause you can't have both
I've seen your text game bro, improve your pre-date communication before you start to put most of the blame on them for flaking. Some girls gonna flake no matter what but I think some of your blame is really misplaced.
Intrepid_Place53900 1y ago
ok, let me try to put focus on this discussion for you.
(I think girls in OLD are sluts in general , tatted or not)
rephrase for you
Girls in general are sluts. It's that simple.
This girl, isn't that into you from the convo. She's got other guys more interesting in the threads and is going to make you work. She probably went out with one of those guys, did not have a church thing. Get used to it, assume it in fact, makes it easier.
Are they more flaky than other girls? Don't think so, I saw some major flakes out there that seemed real clean. Got to realize , OLD is not in person, they are able to be whatever they want on OLD. Many are just looking for attention, weed them out quick.
Girls with tats , more than 2, girls into crystal/astro, girls who love to travel, nurses. Generally are major sluts and/or have lots of red flags. Doesn't mean they can't be a plate, just make sure you go into it as this girls just a plate. In fact all girls should be viewed that way until major vetting over long period of time, she's just a plate. Doesn't mean you can't have fun with her.