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miserabletogreat

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Hello,

Last year I transformed from being absolutely anonymous on the internet to someone who just throws his pictures on dating apps, social media, etc (I've never in my life posted any pictures of myself on Instagram, had a profile picture of myself somewhere and so on).

So since I did this last year, I was able to meet a lot more girls online - they found me beautiful, but then I fucked it up when I spoke - I can't progress to the next step, and I think that's because I've never learned to do so - but after a year of trying nothing has worked, and I understand, meeting someone online can be a bit risky, girls don't know what to expect, etc, you can be nice online and kidnap her irl or something

Anyways, why I am asking is because I currently have like 3-4 girls, 2 of them make me horney as fuck, they are hot and freaky as hell, when I tell them that I would fuck them they play along, when I call one a dicksucker she responds with "oh" as in she wouldn't mind and so on. But the thing is it always stops here. I can't progress to getting out with them and actually getting them to suck my dick and me to fucking them

And that most likely is because I don't have a car to pick them up and a place for myself, and I won't pay a hotel to fuck a hoe, because they most likely are lol, they'll never accept me going to them with public transport or something I think

My question now is how can I get them to do the things that they tell me they would? How can I go out with them? Please give me some stuff that I could do that I oversaw

Btw I'm a virgin so I guess that isn't helping either

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coolsocks00 1 1y ago

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mattyanon Admin 1y ago

Anyways, why I am asking is because I currently have like 3-4 girls, 2 of them make me horney as fuck, they are hot and freaky as hell, when I tell them that I would fuck them they play along, when I call one a dicksucker she responds with "oh" as in she wouldn't mind and so on. But the thing is it always stops here. I can't progress to getting out with them and actually getting them to suck my dick and me to fucking them

These are TIMEWASTERS.

You enjoy the pretence of fucking them and they enjoy your attention, but if they won't meet up then they are TIMEWASTERS.....

You filter out timewasters because they WASTE YOUR TIME.

Meet them online..... CALL THEM ON THE PHONE...... then tell them to meet you in person. If they won't do that, you ignore, carry on, ask again after 3 days max...... if they still won't meet they are TIMEWASTERS.

And that most likely is because I don't have a car to pick them up and a place for myself, and I won't pay a hotel to fuck a hoe, because they most likely are lol, they'll never accept me going to them with public transport or something I think

Two things:

What the fuck are you doing in life that you can't meet a girl and fuck her at your place or a hotel?

Secondly: meet for drinks or coffee. Fucking her is second date. First date is "let's meet up for an hour and have coffee".

they'll never accept me going to them with public transport or something I think

So what's your plan, big boy? You've said that you can't meet them, but you want to meet them, so you're stopping this before you start, because you are SCARED.

Women will fuck you in the back of a public bus if they want you. Don't limit yourself. You can pull girls while literally homeless, so be a bit imaginitive and work out what you CAN do. Get her to meet you at a bar or coffee shop, and your transport is your problem and so is hers. Girls don't need picking up.

My question now is how can I get them to do the things that they tell me they would? How can I go out with them? Please give me some stuff that I could do that I oversaw

If they are being real, they'll willingly want to meet you....... but I fear they are wasting your time and leading you on.

What are your logistics? Own place? parents? car? no car? near city? money? no money?

miserabletogreat 1y ago

Hey, sorry for my late reply but thank you very much!

Thanks for the tip on filtering out timewasters, may I ask you how to ask them to meet? Saying it straight would make me look desperate and then they'll just not take me seriously anymore, wouldn't they? Do you maybe have advice on how to tell them?

And I mean I can pay for a hotel but I like not to pay $100 for a 5 min fuck haha, btw I'm living with my parents, no car

mattyanon Admin 1y ago

Ok...

So you need to learn to accept that they are either interested or timewasters.

Timewasters will lead you on and not meet. They do this to get attention, and you need to limit your exposure to these girls.

Interested girls will be more cautious, less sexual, and will agree to meet.

You don't know which is which, so you invite them to meet to find out which they are. Ideally you invite them once, they either accept or they make a counter offer..... maybe you invite them out twice..... but after that you straight forwardly cut them off. Stop replying to them and block them. You don't need that shit.

may I ask you how to ask them to meet?

You need to be less sexual. Give them the possibility that it's just friends. Don't call them a dick sucker and don't try to get them to agree to sex. You just wanna meet, and take it from there. She knows what the options are, but she needs plausible deniability.

Saying it straight would make me look desperate and then they'll just not take me seriously anymore, wouldn't they? Do you maybe have advice on how to tell them?

Tell them straight out. You don't look desparate unless you act it, which you won't be doing.

"Hey, you seem like fun, we should hang out".

It's that simple.

If she doesn't agree, ignore it, wait a few days, suggest again. If she doesn't agree after twice asking, tell her straight up: "It seems like you don't want to meet up". 99% chance she'll agree, in which case thank her for her honesty, tell her you want different things, and block her. 1% chance she's weird and comes up with some other waffle, try a different tactic, but don't let her soak up your time and energy even if she's "working full time looking after my disabled pet frog, sorry, I really like you, but I don't get time to go out often". Blah blah whatever, NEXT.

If she agrees, you tell her "You and me, Friday night, XXX bar, time TBC". She can come back and say "can't do Saturday" and you say "ok, no problem".... and that's her first chance burned. If she comes back with "but hey, I'm free Sunday", go from there. If no counter offer then as I say: that's one chance burned for her. She gets max two chances.

Always a bar if you don't know what you're doing with girls. It sets the expectation of a date, and it's not a fucking meal date which is terrible. If she likes you then a bar is fine. If she makes any demand at all she's a provider hunter.... "Aren't you going to take me out for a nice meal"? ...... no, no you're not. This is about finding girls who want to fuck (but don't say that).

You never agree the time until the actual day. This gives you chance to tell her the time a few hours in advance.

"Hey girl". If she doesn't respond then she's flaking, and if no good explanation then next.

If she replies:

"Right.... 7pm at XXX bar, it's a lot of fun on Fridays, friendly atmosphere, we'll have a blast".

If she doesn't reply then don't turn up. If she negotiates on time then that's fine. If she negotiates on venue she better have a damned good alternative.

If she does reply then great.

Point is you didn't need to ask her anything about "are you going to turn up", which looks weak.

Make sure your date investment is small. Women flake all the time. Ask out multiple girls, line them up back to back, and cancel them to make room for others if you have to. They do this shit to you, you are perfectly allowed to do it to them. You're not standing people up, you're just juggling, it's fine.

Always have a plan B for flakey girls: somewhere else to be, something else to do..... something so it doesn't feel like a wasted night. And don't sacrifice much for a first date. Bowling on Friday? She gets Saturday. It's that simple.

And I mean I can pay for a hotel but I like not to pay $100 for a 5 min fuck haha, btw I'm living with my parents, no car

You are not able to seduce women yet, so that's not a problem.

She's unlikely to come back to a hotel with you on a first date unless you're very hot, very confident and know what you're doing.

One plan is to book a hotel that you can cancel. Turn up if she's clearly frisky and check in together. Tell her to "pretend that we're married at checkin". Tell her "You are now Mrs ToGreat, please show some decorum, this is a nice place".

You get the idea.