I'm [24] interning at a firm this summer (will leave beginning of August) and this cute girl [27] in the cubicle outside my office starts coming in a few times a week to chat and flirt with me (laughing a lot and touching me as she talks). Her coworkers mess with her about how much she laughs. Shes been dating a guy for 8 years (I'm like several inches taller though >.>) but we seem to click and eventually decide to go on a hike together– this past Sunday. She told her bf shes doing this hike with me and he doenst give af but jokingly says "would you want me hiking with other girls though?".
On the hike (two days ago) she keeps grabbing on my arms and at one point I even carry her for a bit. We stop for a rest then lean heads together for like a second. Cool. After this we go to a bar and grab drinks and still seem to click well, she had plans with a friend (her BF's sister) that night and hugged me bye before I got in my car.
TODAY, we decide to grab lunch. We don't seem to be clicking as well anymore now that we're past the "get to know you phase", and running out of convo topics. She is well aware that I like her now from my comments and I even jokingly said "8 years is a long time, surely you've had enough" and shes like "haha nope!" We try to think of things to do and she has strict limits on what she'll do, no hanging out at each-others places, movies, pool, etc. She also said shes pretty booked these last few weekends so if we hang it'd have to hang during the weekdays. She suggested bowling after work, going to a comedy show, or her yoga workout classes right after work.
She said she goes to yoga twice a week and has been looking for someone to go with and that this could be my way of hanging with her. I was reluctant at first but told her I'd give it a shot tomorrow (since I go to that gym anyway). AFTER OUR LUNCH, we get back to work and she switches to her car because she had to get gas so I'm just like "alright see ya". Our lunch conversation didn't hit the same though, didn't match her energy and got the wrong vibe, despite our yoga class plan.
Is there a way to win this? War of attrition? I don't have any plates spinning so I realize I may have a case of oneitis, I even lost sleep last night worrying our lunch wouldn't happen. But I've talked to this girl enough this summer to know I like her.
Problematic_Browser 1 1y ago
Maybe if you keep putting in friend tokens, you'll get a sex payout one day
Durek_The_Bald 1y ago
Dude, you're orbiting, and she's lap dog zoning you. It's pathetic, have some self respect.
Skev77 1y ago
The “I’ve been looking for someone to go to yoga with, that could be your way of hanging out with me” I get it context matters but if it wasn’t for OP one Otis he would’ve seen it right there.
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PonteauGarou 1y ago
You're spinning your wheels, brah. If she were gonna cheat, she would have done it by now, or probably has done it with someone other than you. Having to jump through all these hoops just makes you the gay best friend/orbiter (seriously, yoga? bowling? comedy?). Cut bait and drop her.
Skev77 1y ago
Agreed. I don’t agree w OP ideas here, you can see he has some inner game to work on. But when they were hiking and heads touched could’ve been the moment to go for the kill. So since he didn’t maybe she demoted him. “He’s too timid, I can make him an orbiter” type of thing. (Just an idea, thoughts)
MGTOWKing 1y ago
Ask her if she's read the boyfriends webtoon, if she has you might be in luck friend. ;)
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Yeah you should definitely go to yoga with her. While you're at it, you can bring her coffee at work and be her girlfriend. I'm sure all your hard work will pay off with sex. Chicks have sex with their girlfriends, right?
Skev77 1y ago
We all know to get a woman to sleep with you is to tell her you love her CONSTANTLY, help her with her chores/errands, and just be you.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
Yeah and don't forget to wear woman's jeans - oops I mean skinny pants.
Permacultist 1y ago
Dude, you're gonna get yourself stabbed, shot, or beat mercilessly.
Keep chasing tied tail and you'll be deserving of whatever comes your way too.
hornetsfalcons12 1y ago
This +1. When did red pill become some combination of degenerate sabotage of other people’s relationships and beta orbiting?
If you want to get your D wet, OP, go find women that are already ruined and incapable of pair bonding.
Skev77 1y ago
You can tell OP is different mentally look: “dating a guy for 8 years (I'm like several inches taller though >.>) but we seem to click and eventually decide to go on a hike together” This is some American psycho shit bro lol
hornetsfalcons12 1y ago
Yeah, some of the threads I see on here (like this) make me question humanity.
Gurren843 1y ago
OP loves his sloppy seconds, he’s a cultured man.
I’m sure the boyfriends dick skin flakes lodged in between her clit will make her taste better for OP, yum!
Gurren843 1y ago
Imagine orbiting for sloppy seconds and assuming you’re exhibiting Alpha behavior… You’re wasting your time being an orbiter for someone’s cum dumpster, go find some other fuck meat that doesn’t take as much effort. If she was gonna cheat, she would have already done it by now.
Why would you fall for a girl whose taken? That’s kinda stupid and an extremely beta move tbh. You’re delusional OP, this girl definitely ain’t opening up her legs for you, move on to the next one.
Overkill_Engine 2 1y ago
If you have to jump through a bunch of hoops to get a vague at best implication of getting your dick wet, she doesn't like you nearly as much as you seem to think.
Look, we get it. She makes your peepee hard. But the only time you should let a woman lead you around by the dick is when she literally has her hand on it.
Shit like this is a game for women, to see how many tricks they can make doggy do without having to actually give him a treat.
Skev77 1y ago
Hearing women talk about shit like this was a big eye opener when I was younger. Thanks to my single mother having her girlfriends over. I had no choice but to be red pilled
master-of-losers 1y ago
I think there's a bit more hope than what other commenters are suggesting, though it might be too late by now. Withdraw attention and see what happens. Do the push and pull game.
Skev77 1y ago
I think bro lost his chance (the hiking trip). Women do like having beta orbiters so I guess
RealmOfFrost 1y ago
lmao is this for real? dude...
mattyanon Admin 1y ago
Don't shit where you eat.
Yes, you find BETTER GIRLS........ single, willing to fuck, NOT COLLEAGUES.