Not sure what to do, but this sucks. The few times I have managed to make her cum with my dick or through the very rare internal fingering, she collapses into a happy loving puddle for the day. The rest of the time, she enjoys it but then feels blue balled, acts slightly bitchy relative to her extremely well behaved self, probably loses respect for me, and I don't blame her at all.
Been dating a girl for 8 months. 23 year old 5'3 korean girl, she only had two boyfriends/partners before.
I'm 24, 6'2, athletic, low body fat, weightlifting MMA etc, but my dick is below average, about 5.5 inches long and 4.5 inches around.
I've had around 40 sexual partners and have made very few cum just through fucking.
I can get my girlfriend off somewhat consistently when she rides me and moves back and forth, but that's basically the same as fingering. A shallow orgasm through clitoral surface friction.
The deeper I force myself inside her, whether through doggy, maximally thrusting my hips forward, putting her legs on my shoulders, etc, the more she moans and gets closer. But I'm physically limited, can't get that deep and I'm not thick.
When we first started hooking up, she mentioned that she didn't understand how girls have trouble orgasm'ing during sex, and that she definitely didn't have that issue - and now it's become an issue. Ouch.
It's not a her thing, it's a me thing.
Do other people have this issue? Does every other 6'2 white guy have a big or at least average sized dick, and I'm just a bizarre exception? My hands are a lot smaller than any other men I know as well. Fuck.
My girl is small - 5'3, petite frame. With my dick size, am I just doomed to not be able to bring girls to orgasm, to have mutually unsatisfying sex forever?
Sex toys sound awful, we've used a vibrator on a few occasions and she gets off hard on it but it's blackpilling. Fingering is so emasculating and such a chore.
I'd give up a lot to just be able to have natural, easy sex that feels great for my partner. Not sure what to do.
And I can't even find non-feel-good blue pilled writing about this anywhere on the internet.
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Not a physical issue. Judging from the post it's almost guaranteed to be a lack of a good frame around sex as well as probably limited skills in the bedroom in general.
As you know, girls vary a lot in how easy it is for them to cum, but a common denominator is that female arousal is much more mental than physical.
You need to read Sex God Method by Dan Rose. It's a free ebook you can google. Start using the techniques outlined there.
Also work on your frame. Dont let her see any frustration on your end. Use her for your pleasure.
Scorpion69_ 1y ago
u dont give her the tingles. insufficient dominance/sexuality/masculinity/confidence
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Scorpion69_ 1y ago
Yep. Seems like they hate the harsher truths. Ignore and always focus on yourself and your life
Impressive-Cricket-8 1y ago
As coolsocks00 said, it's a mental frame thing. While I get that not satisfying your girl can get you down, don't let that get to you. She can like sex as much as she wants, but you're not there to satisfy her, you're there to satisfy yourself. So you should be the one taking charge.
So fucking what? The less you care about that, the less they will. You can't do anything about that, so what's the point of worrying? Are you losing sleep because you're not driving a Ferrari, or flying your own Learjet? You worry about what you can change - namely, your outlook on this issue.
If you're seeing them as competition, sure. But they shoud be a tool - your tool. You use it at your own terms, you set the pacing or direct her on what to do, you bring them out at night as a reward for something she did during the day. You're the one in charge.
Sex is a two way street. If she can't lead you (either by actually telling you what to do, asking you to do this or that, or moaning louder and harder as a hot/cold game), she's equally to blame. Would you blame a chef for not making your favourite meal if you never told him what that is in the first place?
Again, so fucking what? Many woman cum far more easily by clitorial stimulation than penetration. If you really want to please her, go down on her as foreplays. After she's had her orgasm, you do whatever you want with her so you can have yours - and since she's had hers already, she won't mind.
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No-Stress-Cat 1y ago
Sounds like you're losing your confidence. It's not a stamina thing. You're 24 and athletic. You have plenty of stamina. Try something different, like eating the shit out of her while growling like an animal. Then growl in her ear while you're pounding the shit out of her from behind. Then when you cum...RAWR!!! She'll be shaking and wide-eyed by the time you get done with her.
whytehorse2021 1y ago
You gotta smash these bitches like a cave-man. My wife is Asian and tiny so my dick is monster size for her. Doesn't do shit for her. If I pull her hair and bite her neck she cums all over the place. Like the others said, read Sex God Method. It's all psychological with women. Passionate sex is pulling their hair. Weird but true.
goodmansaysfuckyou 1y ago
My $0.02 on the described situation.
if you have an average (or below average dick) that should not matter...BUT that will depend on what she has had run through her before. Welcome to the world of women and creative trickle truth. "she has had two boyfriend/partners before." This is to imply that she is a pure virginal "good girl." The reality is often much different. She may be telling the truth and yours is the 3rd dick to feel her warm embrace, but normally woman won't count the random dick while on vacation, the dick they got on the way home from the party, the group of 5 dicks after buying ice cream, etc etc etc. They only count the dick that was attached to a "boyfriend" or LTR to avoid being considered a slut. Chances are that she has had her fair share of John Holmes-ian pecker but pretending they don't count. There are corporate accountants that have been sentenced to years in jail for cooking the books who have better ethics and accounting practices than the typical 2022 THOT.
Attitude is everything. If you feel like your tally-wacker is tiny, then it is. Your attitude and confidence is more important than how you measure you dick.
There are other things to consider, but is it worth the trouble? Is she worth the trouble?
Justabunchofwords 1y ago
Change your point of view. You’re looking at it from the point of view of the woman. Never prove yourself to a woman. Relax dude. Work on moving your junk around while you’re in there. Different patterns and around in a circle and whatnot. Get in her head. Give her commands, physically handle her by holding her neck/thighs/shoulders, grasping her hips, holding her by her ankles, making her hold herself in those positions, hair pulling, make her say stuff, slam her face on the bed or pillows, make a clapping sound when you push in, ear nibbling, shoulder biting, hold her by her hands while she is facing away from you. There are plenty of other things you can try. Women experience pleasure through their senses and their mind. Stop worrying about your shlong. Also you are letting her manipulate you with her attitude. You need to learn to start checking her attitude. Tell her to knock it off, and that you aren’t going to accept her giving you an attitude. Be firm about it. She might leave you and she might try to gaslight you. Be prepared to walk and never talk to her again and be prepared for her to try and justify her bad behavior. Know who you are. Be honest with yourself. You know what kind of person you are. If she character attacks you, walk away. There is no need to argue with someone trying to play mind games. Since you said she give you attitudes, she probably sees your acccomodating behavior or understanding demeanor as you being a weak submissive wimp. Don’t gaslight yourself by adopting her point of view. That is how you lose yourself. You are only weak when you submit to feminine demands. You have confidence issues because of your perceived penis issues. Stop watching porn. You were born just right dude. Believe in that. Never give up your self respect or your balls just to get some used pooniti. Don’t worry about getting her respect. Be someone you can respect. Would you respect someone if he let a woman treat him in a bitchy way? No you wouldn’t. Don’t let her talk to you and don’t beg or try to convince her to talk to you right. Actions speak louder than words. Be disgusted at her being bitchy man. Who cares if it isn’t uncommon behavior among women? You don’t need to accept it. Tell yourself “I’m not gonna put up with that”, but mean it.