She’s very kinky and slutty. Not LTR worthy but I’d love to keep her around. First time we met I went all night long.. fucked her brains out. Met her after 2.5 weeks (during this time I kind of lost libido) so yesterday night I fucked her a little but lost erection. She tried sucking my limp dick but it didn’t get hard. But I randomly got erection later and fucked her/cummed. First time we met I fucked 3-4 times but we just did it once yesterday. I tried it once again but lost erection and then she stopped me from further tries (she said “im tired”). I do remember she checking to see if I was hard at one point when I wanted to fuck her so she definitely noticed.
I handled the “I’m tired” rejection by not pushing too much and was casual/aloof. She left early in the morning. I was just aloof about the whole thing and didn’t mention anything (just said I had too much drinks at one point but that’s it)
How to handle this situation? Was it a bad date? Is it doomed??She’s super slutty so idk if my chances are over
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Guessing you lost it because you got performance anxiety because of the previous successful date. If thats the case its a mental issue coming from a scarcity mindset, basically subconsciously pedestalizing her.
Not much you can do. Accept that she might not come back but be open to it. Spin other plates. Work on your frame.
badboyyy112 1y ago
A little bit yeah. What I want to know is did I handle it right? Not pushing too much for sex and just playing it cool? I want to know the right way to handle this. I really want to know what must be going through her head
coolsocks00 1 1y ago
Optimally, you shouldnt want to know this. It's blue pill thinking.
This is kinda like wanting candy when your goal is to lose weight. To get out of this mentality you need to force yourself out of it, and over time it will become second nature.
But to your question. I think if you read up on push-pull (there's a couple articles in the sidebar iirc) the answer will be obvious. Im guessing you pushed too much, maybe gave her the impression you wanted to impress, and lost your prize mentality. Instead, you should get her to chase. She should be chasing that dick. And you should play a bit of cat and mouse, not just giving it to her at her behest.