I'm noticing a trend in myself that I think reflects BP thinking. More than once, I've found myself gradually losing the desire to go out and approach because on top of all the fears and challenges of living like that, I'm already getting more sex than I need.
I'm not sure, but I almost think I'm getting ED now because of this building resentment in myself for losing my balls in a sense, so even plates who are still hot to me and always eager, my horny level drops and it's like a vicious (or ever-more-mundane) cycle.
How do you transform yourself into being a fireball of ambition when life is too easy already? I've done crazy reckless approaches before, but even choosing to head out to a bar on my alone nights doesn't excite me enough to make it happen like I should.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
4 hours... 4 fucking hours. That's how long my dick was inside a vagina today. Live long enough and the real challenge is finding something new. Next thing you know you're having well hung ladyboys cum inside you just to feel alive. And then like most guys they never last long enough so you have to pull a train. Then the novelty wears off and you're right back where you started. Anyway, I'm gonna go and see what it's like to soak my dick in a vagina for 8 hours now that I've already put in the work doing the first 4 hours.
MrSupreme 2y ago
You have no established purpose,nothing else to live for but fucking around. red pill is more than sexual strategy, you gotta find something productive to do other than spinning plates, that's where that melancholy is coming from I guess
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
^ this is good advice right here
va2000 2y ago
But I am not spinning plates. I don't feel the motivation to. I actually have an awesome job, good gym habits, and lots of fun hobbies. Doing all the normal things in life is rewarding and effective in its own right, but generating plates is something I don't want badly enough.
To be completely honest, most nights I'd rather edge to some Instagram and go to sleep than have fwb over and have to perform / lose sleep because of sharing the bed. I know it's weird but I'm trying to figure out the initial motivation/discipline to reset dopamine etc.
It's would be easy to say "quit porn" or "ditch social media", and I do believe nofap would help in my case, but that requires self control to begin with. The advise has no answer for lack of willpower.
hannulv 2y ago
You need dopamine detox. Start with sunlight and diet (whole, unprocessed foods).
Cut everything you use for dopamine hits (gaming, IG, porn, gambling, internet posts, etc.) for 3 weeks. Get out in nature. Keep a journal. Mediate. If you find it impossible to quit. Try mushrooms or something that gives you a mental reboot.
Figure out some new challenges for your life. Things that are difficult, but that you want to accomplish for yourself. (write a book or screenplay, climb a difficult mountain, start a podcast, host a public charity benefit, establish yourself in a power circle, start a business, become a small plane pilot, etc.) Start working on developing the skills and social networks you need to accomplish your goals.